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In reply to the discussion: Rape more Common than Smoking in the US [View all]StarryNite
(9,442 posts)103. Thank you
for this thread! Yes, there is seriously something wrong with a person who would try to twist this all around the way some people have done.
Right back atcha with that hug.
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Nope. I caught a big case of outrage fatigue, and I don't plan to get over it.
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#12
Yes, '...into this feeling that I really don't know who to trust... there is no true safe place..'
freshwest
Dec 2012
#69
As a two-time attempted-rape survivor, I agree w you completely. And it hurts me to still see
Nay
Dec 2012
#149
I feel so sorry in a way for these sexist guys who just can't get past it. It is so easy for
CTyankee
Dec 2012
#292
a few men want to steer the conversation EXCLUSIVELY to be about their hurt feelings. NEVER AGAIN.
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#16
After giving a few here the benefit of the doubt, I see thread jacking and making it all about them
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#77
That's the hard truth here. What amazed me about one of the recent "hurt feelings"
CTyankee
Dec 2012
#120
it's too common the guy makes it about his feelings - refusing to support the woman involved
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#134
You have NO idea how those words "I don't care" lifted my heart when I read them.
Raksha
Dec 2012
#244
Thank you. The issue and our experiences trump the "hurt" of those who obviously don't care about us
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#248
"that feeling THREATENED AND UNSAFE is apparently okay since you dudes feel. . .defensive? " Yep...
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#281
it takes some serious entitlement to insist we walk on eggshells,and I am NOT enabling that attitude
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#331
The sad part is these people are uninterested in the facts and statistics you present.
antigone382
Dec 2012
#32
and they can go on to the pity party their friends are throwing elsewhere on DU but after this week
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#49
almost 30% under eleven years of age, horrible. education needs to start early for girls and boys
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#5
I agree. I'm really shocked at that military number - 46%. One thing is . . .
ProfessionalLeftist
Dec 2012
#26
Sexual violence is a human rights epidemic worldwide. One reason it's not considered as such ...
ProfessionalLeftist
Dec 2012
#19
They're not seeing the whole picture ie: victims of their own gender
ProfessionalLeftist
Dec 2012
#25
The only toxic legacy here... Is the one you'll leave after being tombstoned.
Democracyinkind
Dec 2012
#115
"The less you care about a sexist narcissists' feelings,the more the Goddess grows in the firmament"
redqueen
Dec 2012
#269
I was told today that my viewpoint re rape discussion was tantamount to an experiment
Melinda
Dec 2012
#29
It's not that I wanted Nashville to stay - on a personal level he provoked a visceral reaction...
Melinda
Dec 2012
#44
over teh years here, what i really learned, we all uniquely handle this experience. our way. and
seabeyond
Dec 2012
#40
I read your pain, redqueen's pain, others pain on that thread, sea... I hadn't posted, was...
Melinda
Dec 2012
#47
great, lets all send assassins in after we are raped, because that helps you feel better about it!
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#46
I do have to ask how this cool story is more credible than the statistics in the OP. n/t
antigone382
Dec 2012
#51
I dont find it credible, practical or laudable in any way. Street justice is the answer?
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#78
many rape victim do not report out of fear the men they love will go to jail for doing something
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#143
We don't care enough about your hurt feelings to derail this conversation. Go start your own pity
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#42
we don't care about your feelings about what you imagine is implied. Not enough to get OT for.
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#70
dozens of men come to these threads, only wanting to talk about their feelings
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#127
Oh Bob- was this ever NOT ABOUT YOU in your mind? Because I'm not hear to make you feel better
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#135
To you- Not putting YOUR feelings FIRST is ATTACKING? Don't you see how screwed up that is? G'Bye.
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#140
Bob, when someone is trying to discuss an issue important to THEM, why is your first reaction about
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#145
Rape is more common than Smoking in the US Bob, how do you feel about that?
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#155
Bob, the horrible thing ARE happening- tks for confirming you offer no support, just criticism,
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#161
It's cute how you're suggesting "fun" man friendly slogans so I don't alienate the "target" ...
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#168
I don't have to soften my message for real men, Bob, just for the ones like you who demand pity.
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#182
Translation? Bob: "Boo hoo, I don't like what this implies about men in general" Me: "Tough shit"
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#171
you deny anything can be done, and toss out helpful slogan rewrites to appeal to men...
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#179
Yeah, offering to rewirte the poster or snippy new slogans...all while giving the stats the fish eye
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#180
Ha ha, asking you to support advocacy usurps your civil rights now, does it? Hilarious stuff.
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#185
being told you "should" take an extra class is hardly a small insult...
a geek named Bob
Dec 2012
#195
Wow, Bob. You still think this is all about YOU, huh? Pegged you right from the first post.
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#198
Again, supporting advocacy has NADA to do with these paranoid fantasies of yours.
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#207
seriously unhinged selfish shit. Is this Libertarian Underground where education = poison? LOL
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#217
I was pointing out what looked like the makings of a witch hunt... n/t
a geek named Bob
Dec 2012
#122
I think it's lack of concern for anything but their own primitive feelings on the issue
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#196
Actually, there's a fair bit of research on "warning sign" behavior...
a geek named Bob
Dec 2012
#276
The Obama administration changes were unable to stop a CT court from setting a rapist free, see:
freshwest
Dec 2012
#60
Sorry. I just meant to show how it is. I've known a lot of CP kids and have friend whose daughter is
freshwest
Dec 2012
#92
Sure, to the same extent that other oppressed groups create the culture that oppresses them.
antigone382
Dec 2012
#88
I don't think ANY social scientists would say women are nearly as influential, but that said....
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#89
Yes, it's a larger percentage protecting them, protecting the system.
Starry Messenger
Dec 2012
#125
interesting comments- guys complaining they can't support because women didn't complain about it
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#137
Wow. And these are guys who THINK they are being supportive! My favorite cousin blew me off years
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#330
My wife tells me she read somewhere that on average 3 women per day
coalition_unwilling
Dec 2012
#123
Thank you for not putting your ego first, Evo. That we should be soothing egos before we're allowed
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#188
hey Rock- it;s the title of an article that explains it, third paragraph.....
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#197
yes, 25% is actually a low ball estimate. estimates on rapist are 4-8% of the population, so....
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#223
below here someone thinks its cigarettes, not smokers, LOL. No one reads, but they comment anyway.
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#209
so you'd prefer to post ignorant anecdotal stuff instead of reading the article, GEE THANKS!
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#208
It's called responding to a sensationalist headline with absurdity. nt.
naaman fletcher
Dec 2012
#230
um, you read smoker and thought it said cigarette, and think it's clever? Because you read wrong?
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#249
smoking is something some people do 1-2X a week, some 60X a day. It was smokers, not cigarettes
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#262
Sad that one of those 30% of under 11 year olds is probably someone you know.
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#270
I'm beginning to believe that there is a set process for this kind of thing...
a geek named Bob
Dec 2012
#273
well it always was about your ego, but don't flatter yourself for initiating anything
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#333
It's called responding to a sensationalist headline with absurdity. nt.
naaman fletcher
Dec 2012
#229
no one is reading the article. most of Burch's thread is men in denial... or
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#271
Thank you- I've had many more kind messages than the few nasty ones. I've gotten a lot of amazing
bettyellen
Dec 2012
#328