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In reply to the discussion: Meet the Predators (men need to learn how to recognize and fight rape culture) [View all]bettyellen
(47,209 posts)my family has plenty. I;d say its okay to see him if you can steer clear of getting pulled into his bullshit.
i have a cousin who was just disgusting around women, chronic liar, three timing, very nasty and possessive. Laughed about friends gang raping a girl- at Thanksgving dinner. He was very handsome, manipulative and charming. Really fooled them good, and used to try and use us to gain cred with the ladies (see my sisters and female cousins love me!!)
More than once I saw them looking around trying to reconcile what signs they had that he was a horrible guy, vs the happy stable picture he tried to put forward to woo them. Once or twice I could't take it. Told the girl to trust her instincts, because apprehensions she had was more than valid. I just didn't want to unwittingly be part of his dog and pony show, LOL.
I've divorced myself from the role of enabler, and happier for it.