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In reply to the discussion: That feminist poster and mixed messages [View all]TeamsterDem
(1,173 posts)"If you both want it the entire time then it's consensual. If at any point either party is unable to say no or does in fact want the contact to stop, proceeding would constitute rape - there are no exceptions to that rule." I'm not sure what "lesson" or "education" there is beyond that, at least not to those who'll heed its advice.
It's not offensive that some men, particularly students and the younger ones, should have some formal idea of what constitutes rape. It is, however, offensive to the point of bigotry to say that "men" need lessons, as that implies all men need to be told what most already know, and if they don't are almost universally the kind who don't know because they don't want to know - e.g. violators. "Men" are not universally ignorant or poorly educated vis-a-vis rape. Some groups of men might be less educated than others, and they should have means by which to be educated as to what rape is and what it means to stay quiet about it. For those groups it would not only not be offensive but would likely be a very good idea.