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In reply to the discussion: Dad's 'I am bitterly, bitterly disappointed' email to adult kids goes viral [View all]smokey nj
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there isn't any. We've discussed this at length and have come to the conclusion that my aunt's pregnancy didn't reflect on my parents parenting skills, where my sister's did. I didn't go through anything, really. I was just baby when all this went on and didn't find out about it until much later.
ETA: Kicking my sister out was more of my mom's thing than my dad's. Mom was a big proponent of tough love (though she mellowed as she got older) and came from a large, judgemental, Irish Catholic family that was steeped in unacknowledged dysfunction. She was pissed that my sister made her look bad in front of her family. On the contrary, relatives on my father's side weren't all that concerned with appearances. They knew they were fucked up and owned their dysfunction.