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In reply to the discussion: All this talk about rape is making me... [View all]nolabear
(41,915 posts)No, not some hot woman you wanted to sleep with anyway, but someone you didn't know, someone who had power over you and could fire you, or destroy your reputation, or leave you with an injury that would change the quality of your life forever (closest I can get to unwanted pregnancy)?
What if you truly did not want to sleep with this woman, if she was kind of a creep and you were feeling sick and dizzy and were about to pass out and all she thought about was getting you off somewhere and, let's say, forcing something inside of you, not knowing, because you were too far gone to tell her, if she was hurting you or doing something that you would feel deeply humiliated about?
What if you woke up somewhere, not knowing how you got there but knowing from the way your privates hurt that something had happened--you had no recall, no idea if a condom was used, if you were at risk for a terrible, life-altering disease, if you were seen, if there was more than one?
What if you had initially wanted to experiment with same-sex sex but when things got going you panicked and started saying "NO" even though you had initially said "Yes"? Would you feel raped if he went on and forced you?
Try to think about these things in a serious way and give me your answer. If you know what would constitute rape from that perspective, then how could you not from the other, unless it was simply a matter of thinking you would get away with it.