It shouldn't happen, and women should never have to deal with any hint of force at all. Women can and do communicate about what they want and do not want, and men can hear that. I can't remember any time when the messages weren't clear and obvious. I've never understood why some men believe they have to coerce women in any way when it comes to sex. That's just stupid and bullheaded.

Even as an awkward young teenager, I remember asking, "Would it be OK if I...?" I didn't ask that question unless I was pretty darned sure whatever it was would be OK, and usually it was. Sometimes, I didn't even have a chance to ask. But, if the answer was anything other than "of course," or "sure," whatever it was I was asking about simply didn't happen. "I don't know" or "I'm uncomfortable about that" was the same as "No."