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In reply to the discussion: My hubby & I made approx same salary for 17 years [View all]Beacool
(30,247 posts)28. OK, so this is not his normal behavior.
When he calms down have a good talk and see if he tells you what he really fears. Does he fear that he too may lose his job and is afraid of losing your home? Either way, he needs to understand that it isn't fair to take out on you and that he hurt you. You two are in this together for better or worse. If you're a couple, then you either sink or swim as one.
I hope that it all works out for you.
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People can say awful things they don't mean, when they are under duress. He loves you.
WinkyDink
Nov 2012
#4
I have no answers to your specific problems but hope that after 18 yrs its not solely about the $$
riderinthestorm
Nov 2012
#8
We have not had a huge arguement like this for over a decade. We love & appreciate each other.
peacebird
Nov 2012
#27
Yes, it's difficult to determine without knowing the details or the people involved.
Beacool
Nov 2012
#38
During a crisis, sometimes you find out how strong your relationship is. I hope things work out.
Michigan Alum
Nov 2012
#40
You know the man better than we do. Is this remotely expected from him? He could be under some
bluestate10
Nov 2012
#58