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23. My M-I-L is very Catholic, too
Fri Feb 23, 2024, 03:36 AM
Feb 2024

She is from a part of the world where Catholics and Protestants fought wars over religion for centuries on end. As a child, my wife went to school with kids of both religions who were told not to play with kids of the "wrong" religion. For some people, the year 1630 wasn't that long ago. My wife's parents were the opposite. Both lost siblings in World War II, and my father-in-law left a leg in Stalingrad at age 18 (he was drafted off his farm at age 17).

They had been mostly OK with my wife's boyfriends, but were very apprehensive about meeting me. A foreigner who spoke another language, was not even Christian, and from a different continent altogether!

But for all their conservative (English definition, not Foxese or Republicanese definition) ways, they were true liberals (again, English definition)--open to new things, and tolerant when confronted with them. They accepted me right away, and were delighted that I spoke German, since, except for Pladdütsch, that is all they understood. They also accepted that their daughter and I lived together for years before getting married, and even then, it was in a "neutral ground" Unitarian church in far-off America. My brother and I had a double wedding, and his wife is a Shinto Buddhist, but also with tolerant parents who spoke no English. They seemed very tolerant as well, although my Japanese was never good enough to find out. For my parents-in-law, the most important factor was that their daughter seemed happier with me than she had been with any former boyfriend, and that was the most important thing to them. Religion can never replace that, and they knew it.

Very powerful message! GreenWave Feb 2024 #1
Good for him! Delphinus Feb 2024 #2
i used that "line" on my very catholic MIL... ret5hd Feb 2024 #3
love thy neighbor tends to confound them. so does not reacting to them. AllaN01Bear Feb 2024 #16
My M-I-L is very Catholic, too DFW Feb 2024 #23
I would say less worrying about the invisible cloud being liking us, and more.. NoRethugFriends Feb 2024 #4
But for those who value the opinion of the invisible cloud being, this approach could be effective with some of them. ShazzieB Feb 2024 #17
Good for your pastor!!! So far we have had none of that in my church yellowdogintexas Feb 2024 #5
We too have had no need to vote and are definitely staying with The United Methodist Church. summer_in_TX Feb 2024 #11
We have already had a vote, changed the name of our church and will be leaving the UMC. SlimJimmy Feb 2024 #24
We are getting a number of people who's church have left ripcord Feb 2024 #28
I imagine you're not the only ones Random Boomer Feb 2024 #40
Recommended. H2O Man Feb 2024 #6
I'm bad with names too sometimes after 50 years JoseBalow Feb 2024 #8
I suspect that H2O Man Feb 2024 #19
wth! Celerity Feb 2024 #20
I humored them. H2O Man Feb 2024 #29
Recommended and thank you for sharing. Your pastor is one of the good ones, and I'll remember him... Hekate Feb 2024 #7
Our church just broke away. Very disappointed. marble falls Feb 2024 #9
Hopefully you can find a new one that is actually following the doctrine of love and tolerance. Celerity Feb 2024 #21
We interviewed three local churches, two Lutheran, one Presbyterian ... marble falls Feb 2024 #25
In my rural Virginia county . . . AverageOldGuy Feb 2024 #10
Dont hide your light under a basket. The nature of ones soul is what counts, not Karadeniz Feb 2024 #12
I like the esoteric tenor of your post. So many have died as a result of exoteric Christianity (and other religions) PatrickforB Feb 2024 #30
Thanks for the suggestions !!! Karadeniz Feb 2024 #35
As a lapsed Methodist, it's good to hear of your pastor. fierywoman Feb 2024 #13
Fellow lapsed Methodist here. Aristus Feb 2024 #34
ding . love thy neighbor . no exceptions !!!!!!. your pastor does the walk. AllaN01Bear Feb 2024 #14
time for renewlal of baptismal vows too also. AllaN01Bear Feb 2024 #15
I've been there, too RainCaster Feb 2024 #18
That's some inspiration, right there. JudyM Feb 2024 #22
Good for your pastor! Joinfortmill Feb 2024 #26
Now that's taking names and kicking butt. Kudos. NoMoreRepugs Feb 2024 #27
My Mother in laws attends a Lutheran church in Sun City West Arizona and the choir director was a gay man and the newer kimbutgar Feb 2024 #31
good for your pastor gopiscrap Feb 2024 #32
Thank you for posting and for being human BaronChocula Feb 2024 #33
Well said. Duppers Feb 2024 #49
I certainly agree with everything you said and want your church said. chouchou Feb 2024 #36
Good for your pastor Clash City Rocker Feb 2024 #37
Love that meme Demovictory9 Feb 2024 #38
My church choir has a straight director, SleeplessinSoCal Feb 2024 #39
My local church and 85% of my AC is staying inclusive and welcoming. The rest left with the Bishop. Marcuse Feb 2024 #41
Good for your pastor. appleannie1 Feb 2024 #42
Intense Ripcord Duncanpup Feb 2024 #43
Putin must be giddy watching even religious institutions fractured in the US. Evolve Dammit Feb 2024 #44
MAN, what a GREAT message! WORLD-CLASS. calimary Feb 2024 #45
That is so wonderfully different from the fire and brimstone limbicnuminousity Feb 2024 #46
K&R spanone Feb 2024 #47
the evolution of religious belief is about 2000 to 4000 years behind scientific discovery Layzeebeaver Feb 2024 #48
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