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Faygo Kid

(21,477 posts)
9. Crushed me and my family.
Sun Nov 18, 2012, 05:06 PM
Nov 2012

Won't get into details, but children were messed up totally by it, more than 30 years ago. I recovered nicely, but I was an adult when it happened. Betrayal is never a good thing. Be honest and get out if you must, but cheating hurts all involved.

Your life does go on JustAnotherGen Nov 2012 #1
Depends on how much you had invested in the relationship to start with Fumesucker Nov 2012 #8
I was six years in JustAnotherGen Nov 2012 #71
Thirty years for me Fumesucker Nov 2012 #73
That's different JustAnotherGen Nov 2012 #82
I'm truly sorry that happened to you lunatica Nov 2012 #89
I was completely blindsided by the affair and divorce, had no idea what was going on Fumesucker Nov 2012 #90
I'm really sorry for what's happened to you lunatica Nov 2012 #92
here was an interesting article. Blame affairs on evolution of sex roles seabeyond Nov 2012 #2
I don't think that article really reflects the true nature of adultery. Cleita Nov 2012 #10
People have always cheated Aerows Nov 2012 #93
Why are you assuming that a marriage automatically requires monogamy? DURHAM D Nov 2012 #3
If you read my post all the way you would see that I don't assume that at all. Cleita Nov 2012 #13
What are "vows of monogamy" in your mind? DURHAM D Nov 2012 #21
When I got married, I vowed to be exclusive with him and he with me. Cleita Nov 2012 #26
People need to discuss this when getting engaged liberal_at_heart Nov 2012 #19
I think it can be discussed at anytime DURHAM D Nov 2012 #24
I can agree with that but liberal_at_heart Nov 2012 #28
I hate it ibegurpard Nov 2012 #4
Yes, in this day of age, the health risks of cheating on glowing Nov 2012 #39
No. elleng Nov 2012 #5
OK. dchill Nov 2012 #12
LOL... A HERETIC I AM Nov 2012 #35
How about if the affair starts with a rendevous at an Olive Garden? grantcart Nov 2012 #46
Is there breastfeeding Aerows Nov 2012 #95
I think monogamy goes against human nature.... Sekhmets Daughter Nov 2012 #6
So you would tell your spouse before you engage in an affair. Cleita Nov 2012 #16
Absolutely.... Sekhmets Daughter Nov 2012 #40
See you have a sensible solution, however, that's not Cleita Nov 2012 #48
Because it does, should it always? Sekhmets Daughter Nov 2012 #54
Why bother with marriage? treestar Nov 2012 #80
For some it's a matter of choice Sekhmets Daughter Nov 2012 #83
Yeah. I have gone to two weddings for many people. treestar Nov 2012 #87
Send 'regrets" Sekhmets Daughter Nov 2012 #88
The entire Broadwell/Petraeus thing, in my eyes, Drale Nov 2012 #7
Yes. Whether there is infidelity in a marriage is a matter for the partners JDPriestly Nov 2012 #47
"I guess happiness is boring to screenwriters and novelists." Cleita Nov 2012 #51
Crushed me and my family. Faygo Kid Nov 2012 #9
Thank you. I believe that's my point. Cleita Nov 2012 #17
yes to deny that it hurts people is wrong liberal_at_heart Nov 2012 #22
It can really tear families apart. I have seen it in my own Cleita Nov 2012 #58
I agree with your assessment liberal_at_heart Nov 2012 #11
I think marriage and fidelity are two different things. lalalu Nov 2012 #14
Yes, you have it. It's what a couple committed to that counts and to Cleita Nov 2012 #18
I survived it.......kids will never know. It was not easy but the 10 years since have been... yourout Nov 2012 #15
I'm happy to see that a happy ending can be achieved. Thanks. n/t Cleita Nov 2012 #20
It's not easy but there are times when it can work out. IE Bill and Hillary. yourout Nov 2012 #81
Its like a lot of other things dipsydoodle Nov 2012 #23
I think the problem might be marriage, itself Warpy Nov 2012 #25
It's foolish to expect monogamy, if you have any life experience. aletier_v Nov 2012 #32
my husband and I still expect monogamy but liberal_at_heart Nov 2012 #42
I've been with my husband for 28 yrs after MANY partners before we met- so plenty of life experience riderinthestorm Nov 2012 #74
I really do like your idea and that would be ideal because Cleita Nov 2012 #33
every statistic i have read have women at over 16% and men a steady 21% with cheating. seabeyond Nov 2012 #38
good point seabeyond liberal_at_heart Nov 2012 #43
I like this. n/t MadrasT Nov 2012 #65
^ this LadyHawkAZ Nov 2012 #68
My daughter was devastated by her cheating husband Horse with no Name Nov 2012 #27
All the best to you and your daughter. Faygo Kid Nov 2012 #29
Thanks Horse with no Name Nov 2012 #31
Sad but common... Sekhmets Daughter Nov 2012 #50
Yes, that's my point. It's not just sex, it's betrayal and it not only involves Cleita Nov 2012 #30
thats why Im not married argiel1234 Nov 2012 #34
Good for you, you are honest about. Cleita Nov 2012 #36
youre right it would be disingenuous of me argiel1234 Nov 2012 #53
It's not for everyone I guess liberal_at_heart Nov 2012 #37
although Im glad for you, that is not the case with me argiel1234 Nov 2012 #55
While I feel for people that are hooked up with a cheater, there are signs when people are dating, bluestate10 Nov 2012 #52
Adultery is often a spur of the moment thing. bluestate10 Nov 2012 #41
I like how you use your brain to analyze the situation liberal_at_heart Nov 2012 #44
Yep. I still have a lot that I want to accomplish in life. I don't want to be hurt or killed. nt bluestate10 Nov 2012 #61
Ah, the sensible kicks in. Cleita Nov 2012 #45
Most women have had several partners. aletier_v Nov 2012 #56
The number of partners in one's life has little to do with adultery. Cleita Nov 2012 #57
You made this comment aletier_v Nov 2012 #63
I would worry about how many partners someone has even if single. It's a very Cleita Nov 2012 #64
The angry husband works well enough for me. Thanks nt bluestate10 Nov 2012 #62
The act itself may be spur of the moment Major Nikon Nov 2012 #76
Legalize it and it will go away..... or not.... one of the best questions/topics 2on2u Nov 2012 #49
Monogamy has been fairly easy so far Nevernose Nov 2012 #59
us, too. and us too. lol. seabeyond Nov 2012 #60
+1. nt riderinthestorm Nov 2012 #75
If there were no marriage (or monogamous expections in a 1-1 relationship) marions ghost Nov 2012 #66
But that seeking thrills thing? Isn't that an immature reaction to life? Cleita Nov 2012 #69
Nnnnnnnope. cherokeeprogressive Nov 2012 #67
To the OP's Title question: No. BT, DT here with John Edwards. WinkyDink Nov 2012 #70
He broke all our hearts, didn't he, not just Elizabeth. n/t Cleita Nov 2012 #77
only if there's pictures...or better yet- video. BlueMan Votes Nov 2012 #72
If you can betray your wife/husband why wouldn't you betray your country? broiles Nov 2012 #78
i'd rather return to the day when people didn't talk about it, personally. i'm so HiPointDem Nov 2012 #79
yep marions ghost Nov 2012 #85
If You Want To Be A Playa, Male Or Female, Don't Get Married DemocratSinceBirth Nov 2012 #84
Yes marions ghost Nov 2012 #86
This Aerows Nov 2012 #94
The civilized world, and much of the rest of it as well, has a much healthier view of this. Egalitarian Thug Nov 2012 #91
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