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missaj

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29. Plans Were Made for Me

Sat Nov 10, 2012, 10:28 PM

Nov 2012

I had every intention on spending Thanksgiving at home with just me and my son (husband is deployed). We were going to sit around in our pajamas all day and eat and watch holiday movies. But my in laws just could not have that! They decided to invite themselves over for the day. I hate entertaining my in laws when my husband is not around. They are not bad people, just loud and a little annoying. I'm also very much an introvert, and I cannot tolerate boisterous people for too long.

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Anyone else skipping the big Thanksgiving dinner with the family this year? [View all] TeamPooka Nov 2012 OP

How about a cornish hen? GreenPartyVoter Nov 2012 #1

no, we want to stay here in town.... TeamPooka Nov 2012 #5

LOL! Seriously though, COSTCO has these tiny white meat roasts. Made it for someone last year. freshwest Nov 2012 #10

I had already planned on a turkey breast. nice and simple. TeamPooka Nov 2012 #46

Well, see, there you are! I've got some sweet potatoes, cranberries and cornbread and away I'll go. freshwest Nov 2012 #68

That's what I did years ago MadrasT Nov 2012 #107

Yes. But it's partly because I have other plans. nt Honeycombe8 Nov 2012 #2

Hmmm. DU'ers thanksgiving? geckosfeet Nov 2012 #3

that sounds amazing!! n/t AlGoreRhythms Nov 2012 #103

you don't have to buy the whole turkey. like with chicken you can get ejpoeta Nov 2012 #4

nope. in 2004 we put our foot down and said NO politics. it works better for my family. seabeyond Nov 2012 #6

I'm cooking...so hard for me to skip it. We're a "mixed" family...but Obama peeps are the MountainMazza Nov 2012 #7

I celebrate with the liberal side... Phentex Nov 2012 #8

Me too. TheOther95Percent Nov 2012 #85

I got an invite to my sister in laws Politicalboi Nov 2012 #9

My family doesn't discuss politics. greatauntoftriplets Nov 2012 #11

Same here, we only see each other Thanksgiving, Christmas & for wedding & funeral. We enjoy talking Raine Nov 2012 #31

Check this link for a sustainably-sourced turkey --- Flaxbee Nov 2012 #12

Nah. Family is really important, even though about 1/3 are repubs. I really don't think they will. KelleyD Nov 2012 #13

Why do you guys let politics ruin your family relationships? KatyAnn Nov 2012 #14

These people are emotionally crushed. In a lot of cases THEY are bringing it up. Manifestor_of_Light Nov 2012 #16

Tell them "Hey, 12 years ago your team told us to 'Get over it.' You might try to take that advice!" MADem Nov 2012 #51

I agree. This is sad. Nine Nov 2012 #21

Wish it were so easy. My Faux brainwashed mother usually leads the charge into the fray riderinthestorm Nov 2012 #54

same thing happens here with my Mom. TeamPooka Nov 2012 #72

when you are gay Mothdust Nov 2012 #78

I got you. KatyAnn Nov 2012 #79

Get a turkey breast, not a whole turkey. Manifestor_of_Light Nov 2012 #15

Its disturbing to me how one can just accept racism argiel1234 Nov 2012 #17

exactly Whatisgoingon Nov 2012 #27

Nnnnope. cherokeeprogressive Nov 2012 #18

big groups are better. Ours is relatively small and they keep bringing politics up TeamPooka Nov 2012 #48

My closest relative is 1016 miles away. This was intentional. politicat Nov 2012 #19

Just so you know... truebluegreen Nov 2012 #62

We're vegetarian, so we eat a lot of sweet potatoes and regular potatoes year round. politicat Nov 2012 #88

Smart move . sarcasmo Nov 2012 #97

I always do. Nothing to do with politics. LeftyMom Nov 2012 #20

You can find pheasant this time of year... EmeraldCityGrl Nov 2012 #22

C'mon ProudToBeBlueInRhody Nov 2012 #23

This is an email that my sister sent after Obama won re-election: LancetChick Nov 2012 #24

Haha! I love your response! Didn't get into the nitty gritty, didn't bust her for the Prop 30 gateley Nov 2012 #55

Thankfully, I come from a small family of fierce Democrats. FSogol Nov 2012 #25

Instead of the whole turkey SoCalNative Nov 2012 #26

I am fortunate, my family are relatively liberal Marrah_G Nov 2012 #28

mine too. No Romney voters in the family Liberal_in_LA Nov 2012 #75

Plans Were Made for Me missaj Nov 2012 #29

I just stay as short a time as possible. Live and Learn Nov 2012 #30

Pretty easy when you don't have a family RB TexLa Nov 2012 #32

I agree! And they have lil butterballs ;-) bkkyosemite Nov 2012 #33

Intentionally made plans Whatisgoingon Nov 2012 #34

I always just have Thanksgiving with my husband and two little girls. Jennicut Nov 2012 #35

We'll only have one lonely Republican there. gollygee Nov 2012 #36

I suggest duck nadinbrzezinski Nov 2012 #37

Your entire concept is incredibly biased jenw2 Nov 2012 #38

My mother does it. It's not biased. Its reality for some of us. riderinthestorm Nov 2012 #57

Only one of my cousins is a Repuke OldHippieChick Nov 2012 #39

He's one of the few exception. Lucky you. demosincebirth Nov 2012 #43

It'll definitely be more fun than thanksgiving 2000... BlueMan Votes Nov 2012 #40

Nope. Arkana Nov 2012 #41

I guess I'm really fortunate because all of my family living the Oakland Metro area are die hard demosincebirth Nov 2012 #42

I just got home from the store with a 26-pounder! bhikkhu Nov 2012 #44

get a turkey breast liberal_at_heart Nov 2012 #45

Why not just agree not to discuss politics? Nye Bevan Nov 2012 #47

they bring it up. every thing turns to politics.... TeamPooka Nov 2012 #50

Nope. Texasgal Nov 2012 #49

wouldn't miss it for the world, we never bring up politics spanone Nov 2012 #52

Heres an easy way to do it. mysuzuki2 Nov 2012 #53

good plan TeamPooka Nov 2012 #112

Yep, but not because of politics tularetom Nov 2012 #56

It's a tradition to skip out Generic Brad Nov 2012 #58

My dear Generic Brad... CaliforniaPeggy Nov 2012 #74

Me! Iggo Nov 2012 #59

As a practical matter, you can get a turkey breast Warpy Nov 2012 #60

Good for you! mrsadm Nov 2012 #61

Heck NO! We're going to Vermont... k8conant Nov 2012 #63

Yup, don't want to hear it adigal Nov 2012 #64

us too! TeamPooka Nov 2012 #110

There are usually some wonderful restaurants open on Thanksgiving murielm99 Nov 2012 #65

All of our parental units have passed. Habibi Nov 2012 #66

Ha, my batshit crazy repub family has canceled Thanksgiving this year.... 1620rock Nov 2012 #67

some of my family is GOP but more are Dems InsultComicDog Nov 2012 #69

Dear God, no. You'd have to be an absolute idiot to do so. flvegan Nov 2012 #70

another person that hasn't met my family..... TeamPooka Nov 2012 #86

No I don't. Sorry. flvegan Nov 2012 #92

not as stupid as judging the lives of others. TeamPooka Nov 2012 #93

Are you done with the "I know you are but what am I?" responses? flvegan Nov 2012 #94

pity not hate. TeamPooka Nov 2012 #108

consider your response argiel1234 Nov 2012 #100

I am tempted to (but not for political reasons) democrattotheend Nov 2012 #71

No, don't skip it. Jack Sprat Nov 2012 #73

perhaps there should be a special forum Mothdust Nov 2012 #76

great idea TeamPooka Nov 2012 #91

Can I go in your stead? JohnnyRingo Nov 2012 #77

'Twere me, I'd just serve... dchill Nov 2012 #80

All Democrats and Progressives in my family except for 83 yr old Dad. Walk away Nov 2012 #81

We're spending it with another family sakabatou Nov 2012 #82

last year we got two Hungry Man turkey TV dinners eShirl Nov 2012 #83

i loved those as a kid TeamPooka Nov 2012 #90

i hope we have another family reunion. there are a lot of older whites/MALES. pansypoo53219 Nov 2012 #84

You can make a roasting chicken--about 7-8 lbs--and all the fixin's mnhtnbb Nov 2012 #87

I WISH I could have a big Thanksgiving dinner with the family. Blue_In_AK Nov 2012 #89

I look forward to meeting my family. All democrats that voted for Obama. nt bluestate10 Nov 2012 #95

Out of town on purpose, the wife and I will enjoy our time away from the cry babies. sarcasmo Nov 2012 #96

:) TeamPooka Nov 2012 #102

My in-laws always have cornish hens on Thanksgiving... cynatnite Nov 2012 #98

Just my husband and I and my dem mom marlakay Nov 2012 #99

how about a tofurky? veganlush Nov 2012 #101

they stopped inviting me when I said Limbaugh was just a drug addict. hollysmom Nov 2012 #104

nice TeamPooka Nov 2012 #109

hey, I had to listen to all these Limbaugh quotes and horrendous things they said about democrats hollysmom Nov 2012 #111

I can't remember the last time I was at a family Thanksgiving dinner. Angleae Nov 2012 #105

It has already been canceled by my former-Obama-voting sister mikeytherat Nov 2012 #106

k+r! TeamPooka Nov 2012 #113

Last minute invite from family... metaphor Nov 2012 #114

Welcome to DU! hrmjustin Nov 2012 #115