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bluestate10

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55. Unfortunately, in relationships like this one, the woman is the person that suffers.

Sat Nov 10, 2012, 02:21 PM

Nov 2012

It is safe to say that the journalist is finished as a journalist. But she can recover and move int other fields, like writing. Her predicament is unfortunate, but it is one that women that wants power and influence must consider before hooking up with a married powerful man. One of the bad issues is that powerful women can have this type of affair and the man involved will be called a stud.

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"She got her claws into [Patraeus]" [View all] aletier_v Nov 2012 OP

Of course, blame the woman... Sekhmets Daughter Nov 2012 #1

+1000 Cirque du So-What Nov 2012 #58

If there were a god, Sekhmets Daughter Nov 2012 #81

Sexist. It takes two to tango. slackmaster Nov 2012 #2

I guess jehop61 Nov 2012 #3

yeh sure, women are to blame because men can't keep it in their pants. Whisp Nov 2012 #4

Good thing she wasn't a spy (hopefully) Horse with no Name Nov 2012 #7

He's lucky she didn't get pregnant. As Judge Judy says, "Keep your pants zipped up!" Honeycombe8 Nov 2012 #51

That is not true about the first move, in my experience. TwilightGardener Nov 2012 #64

Bullshit. He had a choice and is responsible for it. Avalux Nov 2012 #5

I put more blame on Him, afterall he wasn't just a hollywood actor or a plumber Whisp Nov 2012 #70

Oh please. They're BOTH selfish assholes. They BOTH dishonored TwilightGardener Nov 2012 #6

They are BOTH to blame. HappyMe Nov 2012 #8

not equally, his job makes it very unequal Whisp Nov 2012 #72

I think she's just as much HappyMe Nov 2012 #83

on the personal level I do agree Whisp Nov 2012 #84

Well, the plot thickens. HappyMe Nov 2012 #86

I'm certainly not a Patraeus, but I have seen a propensity aletier_v Nov 2012 #9

There are plenty of women who will pursue married men. I know this TwilightGardener Nov 2012 #11

but you have Patraeus with a 37-year history aletier_v Nov 2012 #20

Being pretty familiar with the military lifestyle, I would suspect TwilightGardener Nov 2012 #24

Actually, that did occur to me aletier_v Nov 2012 #28

So? That does happen to business travelers. MineralMan Nov 2012 #17

What an interesting, almost Freeper-like moral inflexibility aletier_v Nov 2012 #26

in my 20 yr marriage i have had men proposition me. seabeyond Nov 2012 #31

Give me an example of an affair that is honorable, then. MineralMan Nov 2012 #33

Moral inflexibility? You seem rather invested in making this the woman's fault. yardwork Nov 2012 #41

Hubby was propositioned when I was standing right next to him at the airport going to a conference. woodsprite Nov 2012 #38

Betray us? MyOwnPeace Nov 2012 #10

Never Underestimate... WiffenPoof Nov 2012 #12

or assume character. nt seabeyond Nov 2012 #32

I thought of Monica Lewinsky when I read this article aletier_v Nov 2012 #13

Bill Clinton did a lot of good in the world. Did Monica? TwilightGardener Nov 2012 #16

Did Broadwell? aletier_v Nov 2012 #22

Too soon to say what will happen to the people involved here-- TwilightGardener Nov 2012 #27

you mis remember. disgusted with monica and a lot disgusted with clinton. seabeyond Nov 2012 #35

I remember quite well, Clinton's first election was the last time I participated in politics aletier_v Nov 2012 #40

well, that is about the given in a patriarchal sexist seabeyond Nov 2012 #44

What about Jack Welch and his biographer Suzy? Justice Nov 2012 #14

Ridiculous. It takes two to have an affair. MineralMan Nov 2012 #15

Your projection onto me is interesting aletier_v Nov 2012 #25

I didn't do that. I have no idea who you are or MineralMan Nov 2012 #30

" Your attempt to blame the woman exclusively is bogus." aletier_v Nov 2012 #37

When someone posts an article here without comment, MineralMan Nov 2012 #47

Jay-sus, the sexism and misogyny are almost too much for this liberated coalition_unwilling Nov 2012 #18

Attempt to blame the woman = leave room for Petraeus 2016 flamingdem Nov 2012 #19

Oh here we go... Have to smear the woman as a Jezebel MattBaggins Nov 2012 #21

Oh fucking bother. Solly Mack Nov 2012 #23

Mostly, I find the book title amusing BeyondGeography Nov 2012 #29

Oh, of course they poor guy never had chance. Arkansas Granny Nov 2012 #34

Well, speaking from experience, it can be quite hard to resist aletier_v Nov 2012 #43

and here it is, the evo biological necessity in the male sex drive. he cant help himself... seabeyond Nov 2012 #46

LOL! redqueen Nov 2012 #56

Okay, that made me spit out my coffee on the laptop. moriah Nov 2012 #65

i know.... seabeyond Nov 2012 #66

So? Yes, it's hard. It's a test of character. All too many men fail MineralMan Nov 2012 #53

Evolutionary Psychology is our generation's equivalent of "Race Science" 100 years ago. Odin2005 Nov 2012 #78

Sorry, I'm not buying it. He wasn't helpless. Arkansas Granny Nov 2012 #82

There is squat programmed in our DNA for fidelity MattBaggins Nov 2012 #90

enough about the po weak little old mans ego. nt seabeyond Nov 2012 #36

This is classic. Blame the woman. The harpy. The shrew. The femme fatale. yardwork Nov 2012 #39

i think we have 157 more words that will apply to this woman. nt seabeyond Nov 2012 #49

+100 Odin2005 Nov 2012 #79

Certain types of people just LOVE pushing the idea that the poor cheater is the victim redqueen Nov 2012 #42

It's interesting to see emotional responses to what is most likely DNA programming aletier_v Nov 2012 #45

ya cause women cheat as much as men. men, it is dna. women it is ???? seabeyond Nov 2012 #50

LMFAO... no, social conditioning != "nature" redqueen Nov 2012 #54

Most Evolutionary Psychology is a crock of shit. Odin2005 Nov 2012 #80

You sure make the case for men being the weaker sex... StarryNite Nov 2012 #59

Oddly enough, it's usually men who blame the woman MineralMan Nov 2012 #62

If, as the author here implies, a man can't be expected to act rationally ... surrealAmerican Nov 2012 #48

I have a unique genetic and cultural background aletier_v Nov 2012 #52

Not too unique..I have two aunts that married brothers! madmom Nov 2012 #68

Unfortunately, in relationships like this one, the woman is the person that suffers. bluestate10 Nov 2012 #55

They're both pigs ann--- Nov 2012 #57

Claws? Oh - that's what that was. geckosfeet Nov 2012 #60

I would never say that about any woman, except Ann Margaret. Bucky Nov 2012 #61

"shameless self-promoting prom queen"? aint_no_life_nowhere Nov 2012 #63

Why? She didn't make a vow. n/t rucky Nov 2012 #67

actually, i believe she was married and they both put their partners on center stage. nt seabeyond Nov 2012 #69

She is married with 2 children. HappyMe Nov 2012 #75

Yeah. The poor sap was just wandering around being a good boy and....zap..caught! Tierra_y_Libertad Nov 2012 #71

That blog is written by a guy just out of J School whose military credentials consist of leveymg Nov 2012 #73

Hahahaha, Business Insider needs a new editor! nt redqueen Nov 2012 #76

Business Insider is a barely credible site that probably pays next to nothing. Blhhhh leveymg Nov 2012 #91

Powerful men cheating on their wives, this is NEWS? Odin2005 Nov 2012 #74

Sometimes I really do not understand you Americans. OldEurope Nov 2012 #77

Um... leaks? I guess you *somehow* managed to miss that part. redqueen Nov 2012 #87

Well, in this case, maybe he leaked secrets. Logical Nov 2012 #88

Sometimes it's just one of those things matt819 Nov 2012 #85

Takes two to tango hobbit709 Nov 2012 #89

Or Patreaus got his sword into her....why is it the woman is attacked when the man bares blame? vaberella Nov 2012 #92

What a load of crap! They both are shown to arthritisR_US Nov 2012 #93