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aletier_v

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9. I'm certainly not a Patraeus, but I have seen a propensity

Sat Nov 10, 2012, 01:22 PM

Nov 2012

for younger women to pursue older, apparently successful men.

When I traveled a lot
(and had fewer wrinkles and dressed nicer),
I got propositioned three or four times a year.

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"She got her claws into [Patraeus]" [View all] aletier_v Nov 2012 OP

Of course, blame the woman... Sekhmets Daughter Nov 2012 #1

+1000 Cirque du So-What Nov 2012 #58

If there were a god, Sekhmets Daughter Nov 2012 #81

Sexist. It takes two to tango. slackmaster Nov 2012 #2

I guess jehop61 Nov 2012 #3

yeh sure, women are to blame because men can't keep it in their pants. Whisp Nov 2012 #4

Good thing she wasn't a spy (hopefully) Horse with no Name Nov 2012 #7

He's lucky she didn't get pregnant. As Judge Judy says, "Keep your pants zipped up!" Honeycombe8 Nov 2012 #51

That is not true about the first move, in my experience. TwilightGardener Nov 2012 #64

Bullshit. He had a choice and is responsible for it. Avalux Nov 2012 #5

I put more blame on Him, afterall he wasn't just a hollywood actor or a plumber Whisp Nov 2012 #70

Oh please. They're BOTH selfish assholes. They BOTH dishonored TwilightGardener Nov 2012 #6

They are BOTH to blame. HappyMe Nov 2012 #8

not equally, his job makes it very unequal Whisp Nov 2012 #72

I think she's just as much HappyMe Nov 2012 #83

on the personal level I do agree Whisp Nov 2012 #84

Well, the plot thickens. HappyMe Nov 2012 #86

I'm certainly not a Patraeus, but I have seen a propensity aletier_v Nov 2012 #9

There are plenty of women who will pursue married men. I know this TwilightGardener Nov 2012 #11

but you have Patraeus with a 37-year history aletier_v Nov 2012 #20

Being pretty familiar with the military lifestyle, I would suspect TwilightGardener Nov 2012 #24

Actually, that did occur to me aletier_v Nov 2012 #28

So? That does happen to business travelers. MineralMan Nov 2012 #17

What an interesting, almost Freeper-like moral inflexibility aletier_v Nov 2012 #26

in my 20 yr marriage i have had men proposition me. seabeyond Nov 2012 #31

Give me an example of an affair that is honorable, then. MineralMan Nov 2012 #33

Moral inflexibility? You seem rather invested in making this the woman's fault. yardwork Nov 2012 #41

Hubby was propositioned when I was standing right next to him at the airport going to a conference. woodsprite Nov 2012 #38

Betray us? MyOwnPeace Nov 2012 #10

Never Underestimate... WiffenPoof Nov 2012 #12

or assume character. nt seabeyond Nov 2012 #32

I thought of Monica Lewinsky when I read this article aletier_v Nov 2012 #13

Bill Clinton did a lot of good in the world. Did Monica? TwilightGardener Nov 2012 #16

Did Broadwell? aletier_v Nov 2012 #22

Too soon to say what will happen to the people involved here-- TwilightGardener Nov 2012 #27

you mis remember. disgusted with monica and a lot disgusted with clinton. seabeyond Nov 2012 #35

I remember quite well, Clinton's first election was the last time I participated in politics aletier_v Nov 2012 #40

well, that is about the given in a patriarchal sexist seabeyond Nov 2012 #44

What about Jack Welch and his biographer Suzy? Justice Nov 2012 #14

Ridiculous. It takes two to have an affair. MineralMan Nov 2012 #15

Your projection onto me is interesting aletier_v Nov 2012 #25

I didn't do that. I have no idea who you are or MineralMan Nov 2012 #30

" Your attempt to blame the woman exclusively is bogus." aletier_v Nov 2012 #37

When someone posts an article here without comment, MineralMan Nov 2012 #47

Jay-sus, the sexism and misogyny are almost too much for this liberated coalition_unwilling Nov 2012 #18

Attempt to blame the woman = leave room for Petraeus 2016 flamingdem Nov 2012 #19

Oh here we go... Have to smear the woman as a Jezebel MattBaggins Nov 2012 #21

Oh fucking bother. Solly Mack Nov 2012 #23

Mostly, I find the book title amusing BeyondGeography Nov 2012 #29

Oh, of course they poor guy never had chance. Arkansas Granny Nov 2012 #34

Well, speaking from experience, it can be quite hard to resist aletier_v Nov 2012 #43

and here it is, the evo biological necessity in the male sex drive. he cant help himself... seabeyond Nov 2012 #46

LOL! redqueen Nov 2012 #56

Okay, that made me spit out my coffee on the laptop. moriah Nov 2012 #65

i know.... seabeyond Nov 2012 #66

So? Yes, it's hard. It's a test of character. All too many men fail MineralMan Nov 2012 #53

Evolutionary Psychology is our generation's equivalent of "Race Science" 100 years ago. Odin2005 Nov 2012 #78

Sorry, I'm not buying it. He wasn't helpless. Arkansas Granny Nov 2012 #82

There is squat programmed in our DNA for fidelity MattBaggins Nov 2012 #90

enough about the po weak little old mans ego. nt seabeyond Nov 2012 #36

This is classic. Blame the woman. The harpy. The shrew. The femme fatale. yardwork Nov 2012 #39

i think we have 157 more words that will apply to this woman. nt seabeyond Nov 2012 #49

+100 Odin2005 Nov 2012 #79

Certain types of people just LOVE pushing the idea that the poor cheater is the victim redqueen Nov 2012 #42

It's interesting to see emotional responses to what is most likely DNA programming aletier_v Nov 2012 #45

ya cause women cheat as much as men. men, it is dna. women it is ???? seabeyond Nov 2012 #50

LMFAO... no, social conditioning != "nature" redqueen Nov 2012 #54

Most Evolutionary Psychology is a crock of shit. Odin2005 Nov 2012 #80

You sure make the case for men being the weaker sex... StarryNite Nov 2012 #59

Oddly enough, it's usually men who blame the woman MineralMan Nov 2012 #62

If, as the author here implies, a man can't be expected to act rationally ... surrealAmerican Nov 2012 #48

I have a unique genetic and cultural background aletier_v Nov 2012 #52

Not too unique..I have two aunts that married brothers! madmom Nov 2012 #68

Unfortunately, in relationships like this one, the woman is the person that suffers. bluestate10 Nov 2012 #55

They're both pigs ann--- Nov 2012 #57

Claws? Oh - that's what that was. geckosfeet Nov 2012 #60

I would never say that about any woman, except Ann Margaret. Bucky Nov 2012 #61

"shameless self-promoting prom queen"? aint_no_life_nowhere Nov 2012 #63

Why? She didn't make a vow. n/t rucky Nov 2012 #67

actually, i believe she was married and they both put their partners on center stage. nt seabeyond Nov 2012 #69

She is married with 2 children. HappyMe Nov 2012 #75

Yeah. The poor sap was just wandering around being a good boy and....zap..caught! Tierra_y_Libertad Nov 2012 #71

That blog is written by a guy just out of J School whose military credentials consist of leveymg Nov 2012 #73

Hahahaha, Business Insider needs a new editor! nt redqueen Nov 2012 #76

Business Insider is a barely credible site that probably pays next to nothing. Blhhhh leveymg Nov 2012 #91

Powerful men cheating on their wives, this is NEWS? Odin2005 Nov 2012 #74

Sometimes I really do not understand you Americans. OldEurope Nov 2012 #77

Um... leaks? I guess you *somehow* managed to miss that part. redqueen Nov 2012 #87

Well, in this case, maybe he leaked secrets. Logical Nov 2012 #88

Sometimes it's just one of those things matt819 Nov 2012 #85

Takes two to tango hobbit709 Nov 2012 #89

Or Patreaus got his sword into her....why is it the woman is attacked when the man bares blame? vaberella Nov 2012 #92

What a load of crap! They both are shown to arthritisR_US Nov 2012 #93