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In reply to the discussion: what would you do-how would you feel if you donated money to someone believing they were in need [View all]Tree-Hugger
(3,370 posts)When I give, the money is gone. It's a choice I make. What the person does with it is between them and their conscience. Mine is clear.
I've been poor enough to rely on donations in the past and we struggle now as we try to rebuild after pandemic nonsense. I know what it's like to have people tally up every possession I own, wonder why I have a phone or internet access, and ask why I have a car/apartment/purse/shoes/nail polish. I've paid for ice cream for my kids with SNAP and have felt self conscious about it because the right wingers act like it's a sin for poor people to have any tiny bit of joy. It's not cool and those are right wing talking points based on their beloved "welfare queen" myth.
As for instacart.....people on EBT do not have any other option in my state for grocery delivery. Instacart will accept EBT. The pandemic, when many people could get grocery delivery, was very hard on SNAP users, especially those of us in the high risk category. As usual, the poor got fucked over and couldn't rely on using a delivery service to get groceries and keep themselves safe at home. Now, in 2022, most states are allowing SNAP users to utilize Instacart for grocery delivery. I believe Walmart+ is another option, but possibly more expensive. I get that scammers exist out there, but these delivery methods are sometimes the only way SNAP users who are disabled, without transportation, or otherwise unable to travel to grocery stores are able to get their groceries.
I know you feel scammed. If you donate on GFM you have the option to ask for the money back. I know who you are talking about as you have made several posts about this person already. I personally donated my time to compile local resources. I get that you personally feel taken advantage of and maybe that is any issue to direct straight to site admins rather than make these types of posts. Because, while you are speaking of a specific person, the wording you use regarding house prices, grocery delivery, etc as directly harmful to poor people as a whole and helps perpetuate the GOP myth that poor people are lazy scammers. We know better.