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dixiechiken1

(2,113 posts)
47. Ditto...
Fri Feb 11, 2022, 02:48 PM
Feb 2022

I saw the thread and was stunned when I saw the nasty turn it took. The OP was very clearly traumatized - and rightfully so. The compassion from most DUers was immediate & overwhelming which, IMO, is exactly what was needed. It took one "shame on you" post and holy smokes, that started the pile-on. I started to respond but backed off because I figured the OP didn't need me speaking for them.

I wasn't aware that the OP deleted their post. 100% their call but I truly hope they weren't shamed into it. My thoughts remain with the OP. 💔

K & R! 50 Shades Of Blue Feb 2022 #1
There should be no shame in giving voice blm Feb 2022 #2
He should def not feel.ashamed! SheltieLover Feb 2022 #3
Beautifully said. Pacifist Patriot Feb 2022 #4
I agree and it was horrible XanaDUer2 Feb 2022 #5
Very Rebl2 Feb 2022 #11
I read that OP and felt great concern wnylib Feb 2022 #27
1000+ Farmer-Rick Feb 2022 #48
Thank you. Very well said. Rhiannon12866 Feb 2022 #171
Ditto... dixiechiken1 Feb 2022 #47
This message was self-deleted by its author traitorsgalore Feb 2022 #87
I trash threads left and right now XanaDUer2 Feb 2022 #92
+1 Scrivener7 Feb 2022 #119
+1000 dixiechiken1 Feb 2022 #121
Boy if you didn't hit the nail squarely on the head. They Emile Feb 2022 #134
I haven't seen the thread Bayard Feb 2022 #6
I read that thread, Lars39 Feb 2022 #7
Agree about the thread hide function. It is a blessing. Coventina Feb 2022 #10
Also, as you pointed out earlier, wnylib Feb 2022 #30
In fairness, I believe it was added later as an edit after someone requested it. Jedi Guy Feb 2022 #62
Post removed Post removed Feb 2022 #69
You sure seem to like talking about what offended you so. Coventina Feb 2022 #75
Post removed Post removed Feb 2022 #79
The purpose CommonHumanity Feb 2022 #130
I didnt think it was gratuitous jcgoldie Feb 2022 #146
I agree electric_blue68 Feb 2022 #160
+1 electric_blue68 Feb 2022 #161
I'm thinking it was so horrific that the OP had to get it out right there and then, didn't think... electric_blue68 Feb 2022 #158
Speaking personally, I didn't find it particularly graphic or gory. Jedi Guy Feb 2022 #78
Some people enjoy violence and gore. There's a multi-million dollar movie industry... NurseJackie Feb 2022 #80
And that'd be a fair criticism if that was the poster's intent, which I don't think it was. Jedi Guy Feb 2022 #96
I didn't get that impression either. burrowowl Feb 2022 #138
In fact, he declined to share details iemanja Feb 2022 #144
Absolutely agree w you electric_blue68 Feb 2022 #163
Next time don't open those threads iemanja Feb 2022 #143
your empathy for the poster is noted Kali Feb 2022 #122
When I opened this thread I had some ideas. Hassin Bin Sober Feb 2022 #135
small justice Kali Feb 2022 #193
Lol. Hassin Bin Sober Feb 2022 #194
Gross exagerration CommonHumanity Feb 2022 #131
No one posted "splatter porn". ForgedCrank Feb 2022 #152
There are often times that some people show they have no compassion at all. It's a small group. Autumn Feb 2022 #198
When I first saw the thread, the warning wnylib Feb 2022 #70
I didn't hide the thread LoveMyCali Feb 2022 #99
Exactly! Lars39 Feb 2022 #101
Thank you electric_blue68 Feb 2022 #165
Thank you. DU is a wonderful place for sharing. Lonestarblue Feb 2022 #8
Brava. Those of us who have dealt with that sort of trauma know how important it is to find communi haele Feb 2022 #9
Well said nt XanaDUer2 Feb 2022 #12
+1000 wnylib Feb 2022 #31
Thank you for posting your thoughts. badhair77 Feb 2022 #13
There was a warning, right in the thread title. wnylib Feb 2022 #38
I don't think there was a warning initially. Someone suggested it later. badhair77 Feb 2022 #46
Well said electric_blue68 Feb 2022 #167
I agree! NutmegYankee Feb 2022 #14
omg...if i had seen what our friend on du saw i don't know how i could have handled it dawn5651 Feb 2022 #15
Beautifully said. Thank you. I wondered about the self-delete. ancianita Feb 2022 #16
Sometimes people just need somebody to listen. gibraltar72 Feb 2022 #17
Listening - Delphinus Feb 2022 #24
Oh, MAN, is that ever true! calimary Feb 2022 #26
Very true. blueinredohio Feb 2022 #103
OMG I read that thread! piddyprints Feb 2022 #18
I read the thread last night and wondered... Joe Nation Feb 2022 #19
Ultimately, that is for the admins to decide. I understand and respect your point. Coventina Feb 2022 #22
THIS AngryOldDem Feb 2022 #61
Professional counseling in the middle of the night? wnylib Feb 2022 #44
I pretty much said post once you've seen someone. Joe Nation Feb 2022 #91
The hurry was a human being in pain had to vent about his trauma questionseverything Feb 2022 #113
Exactly when did I even try to "decide" for anyone else? Joe Nation Feb 2022 #126
You wrote paragraphs about why it was a bad idea questionseverything Feb 2022 #128
No, It's RobinA Feb 2022 #164
I've been here a while but post rarely Joe Nation Feb 2022 #197
I can't even believe this. The guy was traumatized. He needed to vent it. Scrivener7 Feb 2022 #140
Since the OP has been deleted, Karma13612 Feb 2022 #188
People reach out to whomever they wnylib Feb 2022 #190
The person who wrote the post felt safe here. Not any more NewEnglandAutumn Feb 2022 #129
We go to the community we have. quakerboy Feb 2022 #136
This is heartbreaking. Sadly I see this here a lot more frequently. onecaliberal Feb 2022 #20
I didn't see the thread in question. calimary Feb 2022 #37
Thank you for that thoughtful post. I read that OP yesterday and responded sympathetically to Atticus Feb 2022 #21
I feel as you do. CaptainTruth Feb 2022 #23
If it is the post I read last night then I am with you all the way ms liberty Feb 2022 #25
I'm annoyed too XanaDUer2 Feb 2022 #28
IF Gilbert Moore Feb 2022 #29
My two cents wryter2000 Feb 2022 #32
I too have shared trauma here Dr. Shepper Feb 2022 #33
Thank you Coventina for your post. I can't even imagine the anxiety Tikki Feb 2022 #34
I post my fears and anxieties here all the time XanaDUer2 Feb 2022 #36
Hear Hear! (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Feb 2022 #82
I hear you. Joinfortmill Feb 2022 #35
Democratic Underground is therapeutic in many ways. Baked Potato Feb 2022 #39
all I know llashram Feb 2022 #40
I will say that Dorian Gray Feb 2022 #41
Disappointed that the OP deleted the post. Many of us including, myself thanked the OP for the post. rogue emissary Feb 2022 #42
Thank you, Coventina. Well said. smirkymonkey Feb 2022 #43
Oh my goodness. yardwork Feb 2022 #45
Kick. 100% agree with you Coventina. MontanaMama Feb 2022 #49
Thank you for this, Coventina. I read that last night & was stunned to the point I couldn't write... Hekate Feb 2022 #50
Wise words. Very wise. in your words, "Just STFU. etc." NT SWBTATTReg Feb 2022 #54
+1 grantcart Feb 2022 #191
I read that post and it was indeed traumatic. WestMichRad Feb 2022 #51
I find it more objectionable that a member here... dchill Feb 2022 #52
I was on the jury for it and left it alone Sympthsical Feb 2022 #53
Thank you for your jury service. Coventina Feb 2022 #56
I can't believe some people are that judgemental they would report that post! Emile Feb 2022 #81
In this thread above here, a poster is calling it "splatter porn" Coventina Feb 2022 #84
Amazing, some people are very judgemental and probably need a time out! Emile Feb 2022 #86
I am at a total loss. That's just completely vile. Scrivener7 Feb 2022 #147
The same type of people ForgedCrank Feb 2022 #166
Woke up this morning to see that poster has three hidden posts Emile Feb 2022 #185
I replied to a post in that thread saying pretty much this. AngryOldDem Feb 2022 #55
Thank you, Coventina Solly Mack Feb 2022 #57
There's a big difference between "I saw something horrific that I'll never forget..." NurseJackie Feb 2022 #58
Yet, you just mentioned those gory details again. AngryOldDem Feb 2022 #59
Lulz. No, I didn't. NurseJackie Feb 2022 #60
Interesting, isn't it? Tumbulu Feb 2022 #156
Maybe the "purpose " was to tell that part scipan Feb 2022 #68
No. The purpose was clearly to get a reaction and to make others nauseated and grossed-out too... NurseJackie Feb 2022 #71
I saw the OP headline, but saw the "graphic" warning and never opened the thread. BlackSkimmer Feb 2022 #72
Suuure, that makes sense. Nt scipan Feb 2022 #77
Really harsh. notinkansas Feb 2022 #114
He had just been completely traumatized, and you think he was working on getting a reaction Scrivener7 Feb 2022 #115
Post removed Post removed Feb 2022 #141
It did seem a little too lurid n/t Yanicosco Feb 2022 #73
You do realize that the poster was probably in shock themselves? Lars39 Feb 2022 #98
Post removed Post removed Feb 2022 #104
You just ooze empathy Lars39 Feb 2022 #105
Aww. Thanks for noticing. NurseJackie Feb 2022 #107
Backatcha Lars39 Feb 2022 #109
Also a big difference between trigger warnings, and no trigger warnings. Lancero Feb 2022 #127
Only two complained. Their complaints were a vicious response to someone's deep pain. Scrivener7 Feb 2022 #153
But their complaints seemed to me to be Tumbulu Feb 2022 #162
So much Projection. Yes, you accomplished a self delete MerryBlooms Feb 2022 #174
This. (Nt) FreepFryer Feb 2022 #179
I couldn't agree with you more, Coventina. MLAA Feb 2022 #63
coventina - beautifully stated! bluboid Feb 2022 #64
It was very bullying to force the poster to delete the thread. alphafemale Feb 2022 #65
I just logged in and I think I read that OP last night. BigmanPigman Feb 2022 #66
This morning almost 100 replies in MustLoveBeagles Feb 2022 #74
It looks like one DUer was trying to stir up negative BigmanPigman Feb 2022 #83
She's trying to do it here. Coventina Feb 2022 #85
She hasn't learned. I'm amazed she still doing the character attacks! Emile Feb 2022 #90
Happily I don't see it, but I have a pretty long ignore list questionseverything Feb 2022 #116
Good point. I should probably use the "ignore" feature more. n/t Coventina Feb 2022 #118
I just did. AngryOldDem Feb 2022 #123
There's a couple of DU'ers Texasgal Feb 2022 #172
And upsetting Tumbulu Feb 2022 #173
I'm sorry you were bullied XanaDUer2 Feb 2022 #189
I know, I thought so, until these posters Tumbulu Feb 2022 #195
DU's had problems with bullying/cliquish behavior before. AngryOldDem Feb 2022 #177
This message was self-deleted by its author Scrivener7 Feb 2022 #182
You got it: "continue the argument by hijacking." Scrivener7 Feb 2022 #186
Two that I saw. Scrivener7 Feb 2022 #151
I missed the OP but just Cha Feb 2022 #94
Most were supportive MustLoveBeagles Feb 2022 #125
Of course they weren't. AngryOldDem Feb 2022 #192
This message was self-deleted by its author Emile Feb 2022 #102
Nobody should have to internalize that experience. usonian Feb 2022 #67
I know the post and like you I was happy to see all Emile Feb 2022 #76
A big thanks and K&R for expressing so eloquently what I feel jcmaine72 Feb 2022 #88
Great post malaise Feb 2022 #89
I read it at some point when the warning was Meowmee Feb 2022 #93
Now I wonder what I missed. Ligyron Feb 2022 #95
Like many here, I also read ChazII Feb 2022 #97
Thank you, Coventina!! majdrfrtim Feb 2022 #100
K&R spanone Feb 2022 #106
Thank you for your words of wisdom. chocolatpi Feb 2022 #108
After reading this and the original thread, I have to agree with you. Ocelot II Feb 2022 #110
Oh, no! That poor guy. I so would have needed to talk about that experience. Scrivener7 Feb 2022 #111
In a forum with relative anonymity, there will always be people who for whatever reason... Caliman73 Feb 2022 #112
Thank you for this beautiful, loving, and compassionate post. I am so very sorry niyad Feb 2022 #117
Agree with every word, Coventina AmBlue Feb 2022 #120
I missed the OP but found it with a small amount of effort. Gore1FL Feb 2022 #124
I'm not shocked or surprised at all at nasty behavior on this site. I've stopped posting because Cousin Dupree Feb 2022 #132
I felt really bad for the OP Tbear Feb 2022 #133
Ow, sorry you found it it wasn't that far from you. electric_blue68 Feb 2022 #169
I had read the OP and my heart went out to him nightwing1240 Feb 2022 #137
Well said. I can't fathom why they objected to the post. 58Sunliner Feb 2022 #139
I am stunned that there is a supposed medical professional responding to this thread Thtwudbeme Feb 2022 #142
If I understand correctly, Lars39 Feb 2022 #145
Perc is a hell of a drug. JanMichael Feb 2022 #148
Post removed Post removed Feb 2022 #149
There are always going ForgedCrank Feb 2022 #150
This message was self-deleted by its author Tumbulu Feb 2022 #154
I agree mvd Feb 2022 #155
I read the thread and it was deeply upsetting Hav Feb 2022 #157
Thank you Coventina for this post electric_blue68 Feb 2022 #159
I did not see the OP, but from what I am seeing here, soldierant Feb 2022 #168
I saw the post just after its deletion, still MerryBlooms Feb 2022 #170
I clicked on that post before there was a graphic warning. Wingus Dingus Feb 2022 #175
This message was self-deleted by its author crimycarny Feb 2022 #176
I wasn't part of the drama, but i was traumatized by reading the post before the graphic warning. FreepFryer Feb 2022 #178
+1 betsuni Feb 2022 #181
I read the post but I didn't leave a response Raine Feb 2022 #180
I didn't open the thread MissMillie Feb 2022 #183
Sadly, the warning wasn't in place when I read it. Very disturbing to those unprepared. (Nt) FreepFryer Feb 2022 #184
Agreed. I too went in before a warning was posted Xavier Breath Feb 2022 #196
Totally agree kcr Feb 2022 #187
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