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tarheelsunc

(2,117 posts)
59. My wife and I went through the immigration process between 2012-2014
Tue Sep 14, 2021, 10:27 PM
Sep 2021

My wife is also from China and we started the process after getting married in 2012 and it took almost exactly two years from start to finish for her to get the visa. We never got outright denied, but we had to submit extra paperwork on top of what was required at multiple stages and it was impossible to get any sort of status update.

We got married in Hong Kong as opposed to mainland China and I am sure that helped a lot, but I'm not sure if that's something that would be an option for you or not. It seems really difficult to even get a visa to go to China at the moment due to COVID.

Hopefully everything works out for you two.

;-( elleng Sep 2021 #1
I'm so sorry for you and your wife nt XanaDUer2 Sep 2021 #2
My Trumper sister in law says "this proves she doesn't deserve to be here." AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #10
I don't blame you one bit. Ilsa Sep 2021 #173
I asked my brother what he thought of my wife the first time he met her AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #178
I don't blame you BoycottTimHortons Sep 2021 #187
that's awful... stillcool Sep 2021 #3
So sorry about this CanonRay Sep 2021 #4
My Dem Rep in Arizona told me "we consider this matter closed" and literally hung up on me AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #7
horrible Demovictory9 Sep 2021 #14
Consider contacting Catherine Cortez Masto... discntnt_irny_srcsm Sep 2021 #135
Not my Representative. They will refer me to my elected officials. AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #137
Not a representative at all. discntnt_irny_srcsm Sep 2021 #139
Not my senators. Mine are Kelly and Sinema AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #140
I'm confused. I've been looking at Nevada discntnt_irny_srcsm Sep 2021 #141
I don't live in Nevada. I live in Arizona. AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #142
Just caught that. discntnt_irny_srcsm Sep 2021 #143
I guess don't look to a Congressperson for immigration help in odd numbered years. discntnt_irny_srcsm Sep 2021 #145
The office that was helpful to me when I was getting my wife through JCMach1 Sep 2021 #171
I have a lot of Chinese "virtual coworkers" Skittles Sep 2021 #5
So sorry this is happening to you both. blm Sep 2021 #6
Two Democrats wrote these laws in 1952. AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #8
Democrats in 1952 were Dixicrats. Today there is no excuse. joetheman Sep 2021 #15
Raul Grijalva AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #17
Grijalva is your rep and did nothing? DFW Sep 2021 #110
Nope. They dropped it like a bad habit after the CBP refused my wife entry to do her Adjustment of AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #151
That is rather disappointing DFW Sep 2021 #155
According to a friend of mine who knows his wife (because she is a patron of their business) AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #156
I am so sorry. sheshe2 Sep 2021 #9
I sorry this has happened to you and your wife MustLoveBeagles Sep 2021 #11
That really pisses me off!!! BigmanPigman Sep 2021 #12
Post removed Post removed Sep 2021 #13
how dare you insult my patriotism? My family comes first AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #18
I read your post, AZ. If I were in your district Hortensis Sep 2021 #28
Since the US Government is NOT allowing my wife into the country, you are asking me to abandon her AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #31
"family ALWAYS comes first." Duppers Sep 2021 #49
This message was self-deleted by its author Celerity Sep 2021 #38
AZ's loyalty belongs to his wife, not his constituents. shrike3 Sep 2021 #48
Omg, why?? Duppers Sep 2021 #51
I find this post remarkably ill-considered. summer_in_TX Sep 2021 #81
Damn JonAndKatePlusABird Sep 2021 #86
As Phil Ochs said: AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #146
Am I reading this right? Withywindle Sep 2021 #101
Bullshit. jcgoldie Sep 2021 #153
Just wow. So sorry you were attacked like that. Celerity Sep 2021 #42
On DU, no less, where we work to reform these horrid laws. I didn't abandon anyone AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #43
Xenophobia is alive and well in most all countries, but it is especially odious Celerity Sep 2021 #56
And, according to my mother who is mohawk, most are here illegally to begin with. hehe AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #58
I wish you and your wife the best of luck and fortune 💖. Ignore the haters. Celerity Sep 2021 #61
Xenophobic hatred of and liberalhistorian Sep 2021 #89
ok, i dont know who posted what, exactly. but obviously mopinko Sep 2021 #103
I apologize for how you and your wife have been treated. PufPuf23 Sep 2021 #16
That sucks. Where will you move to? panader0 Sep 2021 #19
I own a home in Wuxi and I have retirement property in Krabi in Thailand AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #20
I've never been to China, but I did stand next to the fence once between Hong Kong panader0 Sep 2021 #23
I'm sorry. I was just getting some steam here in Pima County for LD4 AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #24
just curious, why was her application rejected? getagrip_already Sep 2021 #21
They rejected the marriage certificate from the Chinese Government as "incomplete" and "suspicious" AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #22
Forgive me if this is a dumb question: Hassin Bin Sober Sep 2021 #25
Because I was living there working at the Rape of Nanking museum. AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #30
I mean why not get remarried here? Wouldn't that satisfy the "suspicion" nonsense? Hassin Bin Sober Sep 2021 #32
Because there's no K3 spouse visa anymore and being married, she is ineligible for a K1 fiancee visa AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #35
Oh jeeze. I'm sorry. Hassin Bin Sober Sep 2021 #39
We did it through Consular Processing because when she came here to do it through adjustment of AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #41
This should not be... Patton French Sep 2021 #108
Apart from the stuff you know about legal immigration is a nightmare JCMach1 Sep 2021 #176
The sad thing is no American should have to go through all of this just to bring their AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #179
100% agree... It's also extremely costly which is a burden JCMach1 Sep 2021 #180
As a general rule, if you have ever been married (anywhere) Ms. Toad Sep 2021 #62
Even to the same person? In a different country? Hassin Bin Sober Sep 2021 #68
They refused to allow her into the country on Feb 27th. AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #71
As I noted above. Hassin Bin Sober Sep 2021 #74
Yup. Ms. Toad Sep 2021 #94
That's kinda my point. A marriage in another country isn't going to bite you in the ass... Hassin Bin Sober Sep 2021 #96
Wrong. Ms. Toad Sep 2021 #100
I had a friend who eloped the week before his church marriage and didn't tell anyone AZSkiffyGeek Sep 2021 #136
Precisely. Ms. Toad Sep 2021 #138
Just FYI DFW Sep 2021 #175
Seeeeeesh you'd think being it registered with the US consulate would be enough electric_blue68 Sep 2021 #93
This! eom BlueMTexpat Sep 2021 #150
That's shitty of them JustAnotherGen Sep 2021 #33
You're white from a democracy. She's Chinese from evvvvvvil Commie land. AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #36
Ahh yes JustAnotherGen Sep 2021 #107
Why is there no alternative to get a stay on your situation while Jarqui Sep 2021 #37
We already have it. We submitted it. Official Chinese Marriage, Certified translation, and the AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #40
What is the basis of their rejection? Jarqui Sep 2021 #64
We aren't doing adjustment of status. We're doing consolar processing AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #69
Ugh. I'm so sorry. ...nt Jarqui Sep 2021 #78
If they rejected the marriage certificate then Bettie Sep 2021 #106
The certificate or the marriage? treestar Sep 2021 #165
So, to remarry, I need to divorce my wife. She is in China now. I'm here AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #166
Upload it again with an explanation. treestar Sep 2021 #169
They did. They said my marriage cert was "incomplete" and suspicious" AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #170
Did you get the attestation from China added? JCMach1 Sep 2021 #172
They could go to court treestar Sep 2021 #182
The law is written that the NVC, USCIS, the Consulate, and finally the CBP at the border AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #184
You can appeal denial of a relative petition to the BIA treestar Sep 2021 #186
I am so sorry. alphafemale Sep 2021 #26
I'm sorry cate94 Sep 2021 #27
I'm so sorry this has happened JustAnotherGen Sep 2021 #29
They CAN accept an international marriage certificate IF they want to. ShazzieB Sep 2021 #84
I wonder what would happen if we were to move back to the States? DFW Sep 2021 #112
My wife is a short, petite, shy Chinese woman with black hair and honest to a fault AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #181
I'm sorry Bettie Sep 2021 #34
That breaks my heart... duhneece Sep 2021 #44
Sorry it happened this way for your family. Wingus Dingus Sep 2021 #45
I'm very sorry this happened. shrike3 Sep 2021 #46
How were you married? Religious or secular? keithbvadu2 Sep 2021 #47
China only has secular. You go to the provincial capital (Nanjing) AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #50
If it was religious, the right wing should be eager to support it. keithbvadu2 Sep 2021 #65
She's still a foeigner. Being married gives you nothing in immigration AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #70
OK. Your intro implied that marriage legitimacy was the primary factor. keithbvadu2 Sep 2021 #77
Our marriage certification is Chinese from the Jiangsu provincial capital AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #83
Chinese students are having problems with Visas Demovictory9 Sep 2021 #52
Remember, this is the country that banned ALL Chinese immigration to the US from 1881 AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #53
How awful. What if you got married again in a neutral country like Canada or another Asian country. Liberty Belle Sep 2021 #54
She's still a Chinese citizen and Trump era rules attacked them. AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #57
I'm so sorry. This isn't right. Politicub Sep 2021 #55
My wife and I went through the immigration process between 2012-2014 tarheelsunc Sep 2021 #59
I have a valid Chinese visa through my spouse. AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #63
Will the Chinese government allow you stay in China on some sort of permanent visa? Irish_Dem Sep 2021 #109
I can go back to China. AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #113
So China is more welcoming than your home country. Irish_Dem Sep 2021 #115
I was never denied entry. I was never kicked out. My documents were never rejected AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #126
I meant more welcoming to your family unit. Irish_Dem Sep 2021 #128
Self deleting...because reading the whole thread answered some of my questions. LudwigPastorius Sep 2021 #60
So sorry to hear that! The Chinese are great people. I've worked with them for years LymphocyteLover Sep 2021 #66
I'm terribly sorry you and your wife have suffered this indignity and stress. Pinback Sep 2021 #67
I sort or expect that of Sinema. Disappointed in Kelly. Jakes Progress Sep 2021 #72
I'd be interested if he knows the details about this personally DFW Sep 2021 #114
Getting through the gatekeepers are impossible AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #129
I have his number and his personal email. That is different, obviously. DFW Sep 2021 #132
Congressional Staffers OrangeJoe Sep 2021 #158
I'm running for State Rep, not Congress AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #159
My error OrangeJoe Sep 2021 #161
AZLD4 is now in touch with Kelly's office directly. DFW Sep 2021 #185
Seriously Deep State Witch Sep 2021 #124
Follow up to this DFW Sep 2021 #177
DFW is right. I can verify all he just said. AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #183
I am so sorry that this sad excuse for a country hurt your wife and your family. onecaliberal Sep 2021 #73
Congressman? Senator? News reporter? marble falls Sep 2021 #75
I've answered the Congresscritter question before. See response #7 AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #76
I'm so very sorry for your pain. I have nothing to add but this: we didn't do this & we are friends-- Hekate Sep 2021 #79
So sorry - This is inexcusable! Tadpole Raisin Sep 2021 #80
I'm so sorry! summer_in_TX Sep 2021 #82
Our 7th anniversary was two days ago. AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #85
That's so unfair. summer_in_TX Sep 2021 #168
The Trump admin did not seem to practice bias against the Chinese when Jared Kushner's family was se keithbvadu2 Sep 2021 #87
My great grandparents had no marriage certificates LeftInTX Sep 2021 #88
I feel your pain.. Hobo Sep 2021 #90
So sad to hear of this relayerbob Sep 2021 #91
I am so sorry! MLAA Sep 2021 #92
So sorry. What a terrible thing to be going through... electric_blue68 Sep 2021 #95
I am sorry this happened..... usedtobedemgurl Sep 2021 #97
I'm so sorry to hear this OP. It is a reminder there is ugly truths about our country that needs to Willis88 Sep 2021 #98
We who are third and fourth generation Americans forget how easy it was halfulglas Sep 2021 #99
My father was European, had a moonscape Sep 2021 #125
It's surprising this is an issue after 6 years of marriage. Surely that has to count for something ? OnDoutside Sep 2021 #102
I applied for German residency after 29 years of marriage and proof of financial stability DFW Sep 2021 #117
Wow, that's quite ridiculous. OnDoutside Sep 2021 #123
Here, they expect Syrians, Albanians, Afghans and Russians DFW Sep 2021 #130
Yes indeed, flexibility doesn't fit the agenda ! OnDoutside Sep 2021 #157
Wow, reading your OP and then all of your responses in the thread is so messed up. Ace Rothstein Sep 2021 #104
Most of the responses Elessar Zappa Sep 2021 #105
I was saying his responses in combination with his OP. Ace Rothstein Sep 2021 #111
Ah, ok. Elessar Zappa Sep 2021 #116
The process was never smooth DFW Sep 2021 #118
I feel your pain. honest.abe Sep 2021 #119
Every member has an immigration person OrangeJoe Sep 2021 #160
So very sorry. Joinfortmill Sep 2021 #120
Not sure if you get to read this, but hold on, this is a cycle where republicans screw immigrants Escurumbele Sep 2021 #121
This occurred under the current administration. former9thward Sep 2021 #133
This was in reference to the McCarran-Walter act ?? eppur_se_muova Sep 2021 #122
In reference to the 1965, prove that doesn't happen AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #127
Under TFG, I'm sure it was cranked up to 11. eppur_se_muova Sep 2021 #134
Kung Flu. . .China Virus AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #152
I am so sorry. ismnotwasm Sep 2021 #131
I've never seen anyone here use "China" as a slur here. Treefrog Sep 2021 #144
The racist post was deleted Willis88 Sep 2021 #164
Can Senators help? KT2000 Sep 2021 #147
I'm not a WA resident. See response #7 AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #149
As the old saying goes, it's time to give it the 'old college try.' Mr. Evil Sep 2021 #163
+1 Celerity Sep 2021 #167
I vote in LD2 LittleGirl Sep 2021 #148
I came to the US at 13, now I'm 35 JuJuChen Sep 2021 #154
Damn. I'm really, really sorry for what happened. PatrickforB Sep 2021 #162
Adding my voice to many others here. Ilsa Sep 2021 #174
From my own experience Johonny Sep 2021 #188
That's what my school district's immigration attorney said. AZLD4Candidate Sep 2021 #189
I hope the story changes and your wife is allowed a green card Trueblue1968 Sep 2021 #190
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