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mdelaguna

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114. Right? Some comments here are ridiculous

Sun Sep 5, 2021, 07:26 AM

Sep 2021

A surrogacy isn’t the same as adoption. We have two kids from surrogacy. Both times our surrogate chose us, for being a surrogate- something she loved doing. And she became a friend and partner. There is a whole subculture of US surrogates who love doing this. Rules of the arrangement usually stipulate that they are a) financially secure to begin with, and b) already have their own kids. Some women love the experience in its many, complex dimensions.

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The Buttigiegs had twins! [View all] Mosby Sep 2021 OP

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Awwww MissB Sep 2021 #2

Wow... Hard to adopt newborns at all, but twins....! How fortunate they are. hlthe2b Sep 2021 #3

Yes, they worked with a surrogate TexasBushwhacker Sep 2021 #96

awwwww i cant wait to watch them grow up..... samnsara Sep 2021 #4

Penelope Rose and Joseph August Buttigieg 🥂 Budi Sep 2021 #5

Awww StarryNite Sep 2021 #6

awww. i wanted twins so bad, even tho it terrified me. mopinko Sep 2021 #7

I have older brothers (74) who are twins. Mr.Bill Sep 2021 #97

My sisters are twins Retrograde Sep 2021 #109

i had a pair of twin cousins. mopinko Sep 2021 #115

I'm a twin and wanted twins with my first pregnancy in the worst way... Pacifist Patriot Sep 2021 #116

my 4th kid mopinko Sep 2021 #117

I just saw this on Instagram and my heart exploded with happiness for them zeusdogmom Sep 2021 #8

Those kiddos are going to have an awesome life! hamsterjill Sep 2021 #9

They sure will! SheltieLover Sep 2021 #11

Pete will be challenged cilla4progress Sep 2021 #10

I was thinking that! catrose Sep 2021 #21

I think it will give Chasten purpose while Pete is so busy. femmedem Sep 2021 #84

Infant twins in DC, 2 dogs, 1 (high-paying) job, elleng Sep 2021 #99

I read he was working, but that was ages ago. Treefrog Sep 2021 #121

Right? That's what I was thinking... msfiddlestix Sep 2021 #120

Double Joy!! FM123 Sep 2021 #12

CONGRATULATIONS TO THE NEW FAMILY!!! pazzyanne Sep 2021 #13

OMG wryter2000 Sep 2021 #14

That is wonderful news! brer cat Sep 2021 #15

Congrats to the Buttigieg's! Bayard Sep 2021 #16

That is such a beautiful picture the eye to eye. LizBeth Sep 2021 #17

So happy for the sweet family! MoonRiver Sep 2021 #18

Awwwwwwwwwwww... calimary Sep 2021 #19

The Happy Couple Just Outgrew Their 1 Bedroom Apartment in DC. Indykatie Sep 2021 #20

Congrats! 💖🥰😘😍 (I'm not crying! You're crying!) NurseJackie Sep 2021 #22

Anti-Adoption brigade? StarfishSaver Sep 2021 #25

Who do you think? OrangeJoe Sep 2021 #83

Read Nurse Jackie's post again StarfishSaver Sep 2021 #85

Yep. We had people on du saying not too long ago that marriage equality was a "pony" Hassin Bin Sober Sep 2021 #90

I will repeat what I have previously said. StevieM Sep 2021 #48

No, it's a better life. So much better. Better than you'll ever know or can imagine. NurseJackie Sep 2021 #53

I guess I didn't need to ask about the "anti-adoption brigade." I should have just waited StarfishSaver Sep 2021 #94

Unfortunately That's Not Always True Jim G. Sep 2021 #74

Thank you for sharing. It's sad for me to realize that some folks online... NurseJackie Sep 2021 #88

Adoption does sometimes provide a better life StarfishSaver Sep 2021 #93

Of course it's hostile radical noodle Sep 2021 #111

I remember that radical noodle Sep 2021 #110

Congrats to the proud dads! Politicub Sep 2021 #23

AWESOME!!!! Upthevibe Sep 2021 #24

Matching salt and pepper shakers. How adorable! tblue37 Sep 2021 #26

Message auto-removed Name removed Sep 2021 #27

If they had a surrogate then they are biological parents PortTack Sep 2021 #30

Some happy news..pretty scarce these days PortTack Sep 2021 #28

A woman had twins. cbabe Sep 2021 #29

You can do better kcr Sep 2021 #32

Agree! mountain grammy Sep 2021 #35

There is "nothing wrong" with the OP? How about the fact it misspelled Buttigieg? SunSeeker Sep 2021 #36

Right. Because people who struggle with grammar and spelling kcr Sep 2021 #38

This message was self-deleted by its author kcr Sep 2021 #40

Pete Buttigieg and his family deserve to have their name spelled correctly. SunSeeker Sep 2021 #43

They deserve to have their status as a family respected even more n/t kcr Sep 2021 #47

Who is disrespecting their status as a family? SunSeeker Sep 2021 #50

Why the need to "correct" their announcement? kcr Sep 2021 #54

It was the OP who "corrected" the announcement. SunSeeker Sep 2021 #56

Well, now, I don't know kcr Sep 2021 #58

The OP should have used the wording Pete used. SunSeeker Sep 2021 #59

I edited. Sorry about the spelling. Mosby Sep 2021 #63

You are making a mountain out of an anthill Moebym Sep 2021 #67

Nobody is saying name the woman. SunSeeker Sep 2021 #69

I'm guessing it was a play on the picture they used kcr Sep 2021 #72

No. It's expecting people to use Pete's own words. SunSeeker Sep 2021 #78

This message was self-deleted by its author pinkstarburst Sep 2021 #70

His name is right in the tweet. Not that tricky. SunSeeker Sep 2021 #79

As a retired teacher of the dyslexic, I don't ever judge someone else's spelling. summer_in_TX Sep 2021 #106

I don't see any evidence the OP is dyslexic. They have corrected the misspelling. nt SunSeeker Sep 2021 #108

I have a feeling many Americans look down on people who make spelling mistakes. summer_in_TX Sep 2021 #123

Message auto-removed Name removed Sep 2021 #124

Birth mothers are not breeding mules. StevieM Sep 2021 #44

And straw men aren't actually made of straw kcr Sep 2021 #46

My tears are reserved for birth mothers who are in pain. StevieM Sep 2021 #51

Nope. I'm sorry. kcr Sep 2021 #57

I can't speak for every single poster on this thread. But I can speak for myself. StevieM Sep 2021 #62

Then with all due respect kcr Sep 2021 #65

This is ridiculous, isn't it? StarfishSaver Sep 2021 #87

An open adoption is not "the right thing" for everyone StarfishSaver Sep 2021 #86

I was thinking the same thing. nt SunSeeker Sep 2021 #37

Thank you for pointing this out. StevieM Sep 2021 #41

Oh, please. ShazzieB Sep 2021 #89

Many women who sign the papers are in dire circumstances and don't have much of a choice. StevieM Sep 2021 #98

Right? Some comments here are ridiculous mdelaguna Sep 2021 #114

I have not seen details - Ms. Toad Sep 2021 #42

Regardless of who the biological father was, the woman still had the babies. SunSeeker Sep 2021 #49

I wasn't that picky when I was the pregnant one Ms. Toad Sep 2021 #52

Sorry, that's ridiculous. meadowlander Sep 2021 #102

Respecting women is not ridiculous. As Pete said, they're "becoming parents." SunSeeker Sep 2021 #103

The magic of the English language is that there is more than one way to say something. meadowlander Sep 2021 #104

Of course it is not disrespectful to say your brother has kids. SunSeeker Sep 2021 #105

It was adoption riverwalker Sep 2021 #76

The woman who changed her mind was never a birth mother. StevieM Sep 2021 #80

Dafuq is this response? Music Man Sep 2021 #61

Nothing like shitting on a celebration n/t FreeState Sep 2021 #64

Yes. I have used the ignore button on 2 people in this thread. Boomerproud Sep 2021 #68

Yep it's an FreeState Sep 2021 #73

Cbabe... Upthevibe Sep 2021 #119

Easy search Buttigieg adoption. cbabe Sep 2021 #122

FABULOUS! elleng Sep 2021 #31

That's so adorbs! ananda Sep 2021 #33

This message was self-deleted by its author SunSeeker Sep 2021 #34

Lovely! Hekate Sep 2021 #39

How delightful! Jilly_in_VA Sep 2021 #45

Hubby just came back from walking the dog, & said Awwwww, when I showed him this picture... Hekate Sep 2021 #55

What a pleasant surprise! Moebym Sep 2021 #60

That should read, GoCubsGo Sep 2021 #66

Thank you for the editing, finally. Treefrog Sep 2021 #71

Excellent news! Tiger8 Sep 2021 #75

Lucky kids, they will have a wonderful life with these parents! secondwind Sep 2021 #77

Cute couple. tblue37 Sep 2021 #81

wonderful!!! markie Sep 2021 #82

Ode to Joy! Botany Sep 2021 #91

That pic is too adorbs for words! 🥰 ShazzieB Sep 2021 #92

Congratulations MustLoveBeagles Sep 2021 #95

I'd like to know how they came up with the names for their babies. RicROC Sep 2021 #100

I wondered about Joseph's name, too. 😊 ShazzieB Sep 2021 #112

Family name Crepuscular Sep 2021 #118

Awww! What a lovely photo of the new family! smirkymonkey Sep 2021 #101

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Awwww! BlancheSplanchnik Sep 2021 #113