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NurseJackie

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47. Thank you.
Sat Aug 28, 2021, 04:15 PM
Aug 2021

Even THIRTY YEARS LATER, it's just now "coming out" (for me anyway... others obviously knew sooner.)

It's sad. But it's also a monument to the stupidity and fear and bigotry of the time.

Nice memorial for your friend. N/t FSogol Aug 2021 #1
Thank you. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #22
Thank you. Solly Mack Aug 2021 #2
Thanks! NurseJackie Aug 2021 #24
My condolences on the loss of your friend MustLoveBeagles Aug 2021 #3
I appreciate that. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #25
That you took the time to post that touching remembrance of your friend speaks volumes about Atticus Aug 2021 #4
Thank you. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #26
I'm sorry. TomSlick Aug 2021 #5
Thank you. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #27
My high school sweetheart lost her brother in a housefire recently Ms. Toad Aug 2021 #6
I'm sure they loved their son (or they believed they did)... NurseJackie Aug 2021 #29
What a beautiful and touching eulogy you've written, my dear NurseJackie... CaliforniaPeggy Aug 2021 #7
Parents obviously loved him. LisaL Aug 2021 #10
You're correct, and this was in Georgia. CaliforniaPeggy Aug 2021 #12
After Rock Hudson and Liberace... but before Freddy Mercury. Yes people were ignorant and afraid. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #16
.... CaliforniaPeggy Aug 2021 #18
During the time that this picture was taken, I was on a flight BobsYourUncle Aug 2021 #154
It's maddening and heartbreaking. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #155
Wow, that is fucked up! Initech Aug 2021 #8
That's my reaction too. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #30
Rest well, David UpInArms Aug 2021 #9
Thank you. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #31
The capacity for human cruelty is boundless, apparently EYESORE 9001 Aug 2021 #11
That's a good way to describe it. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #33
Hold the thought that when he came home to die, they took him in... Hekate Aug 2021 #13
Yes. And times were different. I know I'm looking 1991 with my 2021 eyes. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #20
When I was in high school, pregnant girls were sent away to have their babies... Hekate Aug 2021 #62
Wow... NurseJackie Aug 2021 #72
I've never understood raising2moredems Aug 2021 #139
I know. I cannot comprehend it either. I imagine... NurseJackie Aug 2021 #153
Who does that to their own child malaise Aug 2021 #14
And I remember his parents. I thought they were kind... just "normal" parents. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #35
They Were "Normal" For The Time And Place COL Mustard Aug 2021 #59
You're right... they didn't know. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #74
I'm Not Gay, But COL Mustard Aug 2021 #78
At least they took him in when he was sick leftieNanner Aug 2021 #66
That's true. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #76
k&R spanone Aug 2021 #15
Thanks. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #36
'Home' must have been torturous for him. spanone Aug 2021 #111
That is so sad mcar Aug 2021 #17
I know. Thanks for reading... NurseJackie Aug 2021 #37
Religion. That's how. FoxNewsSucks Aug 2021 #19
I used to be a believer... and you're right. It's something that... NurseJackie Aug 2021 #38
Really sad, but your nice rememberance does a little to make it better. Nicely done. EarnestPutz Aug 2021 #21
Thank you. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #39
This might not be what you want to hear, but... localroger Aug 2021 #23
That's something to think about. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #40
I think you missed a key part of this. His parents prevented him pnwmom Aug 2021 #48
I understand their motivation and their fear. But it was still cruel. I agree. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #51
The parents ignorant actions were tragic but David's story left me feeling empty RVN VET71 Aug 2021 #143
Thanks for your kind words. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #156
Perhaps he didn't want anybody to know. OnlinePoker Aug 2021 #54
He was a gay man who had AIDS. His friends must have known. pnwmom Aug 2021 #56
He'd moved from the "big city" of Atlanta back to our little central Georgia... NurseJackie Aug 2021 #64
It was so common then -- but even now, small towns are places where homogeneity rules... Hekate Aug 2021 #75
Maybe a different train of thought. SergeStorms Aug 2021 #86
He may have been worried about the reaction of the people he'd grown up with csziggy Aug 2021 #89
That's possible. The thing that makes me most sad... NurseJackie Aug 2021 #102
Yes, that is telling csziggy Aug 2021 #104
It's so sad that on top of everything else, he had to live with parents pnwmom Aug 2021 #90
but you don't know and it might have been for the best janterry Aug 2021 #106
RIP, David. sheshe2 Aug 2021 #28
Thank you. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #41
A very justified rant! That someone you remembered fondly and tried to find again, Tadpole Raisin Aug 2021 #32
Thank you. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #43
I'm sorry, Jackie. brer cat Aug 2021 #34
I appreciate that. Thanks. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #45
I'm so sorry, Nurse Jackie. My cousin died the same way, in secret at his parents' home. femmedem Aug 2021 #42
Thank you. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #47
How truly sad PatSeg Aug 2021 #44
Thank you, PatSeg. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #49
So sorry....n/t bluecollar2 Aug 2021 #46
Many thanks. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #50
He may not have been gay, who knows? Treefrog Aug 2021 #52
I take your point... but he was gay. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #57
Very sad. Treefrog Aug 2021 #61
You remembered him, cared enough to find out, TNNurse Aug 2021 #53
Looking back at 1991 with the knowledge of 2021... NurseJackie Aug 2021 #58
I'm so sorry you found out this way. cayugafalls Aug 2021 #55
That's very sweet. Thank you. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #60
Thank you for remembering David MontanaMama Aug 2021 #63
I hope so. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #65
I'm sorry about your friend.. gerryatwork Aug 2021 #67
That's a lovely idea. I'll bring it up with other friends... NurseJackie Aug 2021 #77
I could have written this post. Pacifist Patriot Aug 2021 #68
Yes... erased. But our love and memories are stronger. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #79
Absolutely Pacifist Patriot Aug 2021 #140
a number of years ago someone told me an old friend of mine orleans Aug 2021 #135
I'm glad you posted that. Thank you. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #152
Thanks for remembering him LymphocyteLover Aug 2021 #69
It took my breath away. I read and chatted in disbelief... NurseJackie Aug 2021 #80
Thank you, Nurse Jackie, for your loving story about a treasured friend... bluboid Aug 2021 #70
Thank you. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #82
You remember SkylineChili Aug 2021 #71
That's very kind of you. Thank you. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #83
Nice that you were able to track him down and find out about his life. Although they appeared.... George II Aug 2021 #73
Thank you my friend. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #84
I had similar thoughts ... soldierant Aug 2021 #107
You make some valid observations. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #113
A truly righteous rant, and a beautiful tribute to your friend. niyad Aug 2021 #81
That's much appreciated. Thank you. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #85
I wish I could say I've never heard of such behavior Maeve Aug 2021 #87
That means a lot to me. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #92
Hold onto the thought that they took him home Joinfortmill Aug 2021 #88
Small comforts. Yes. I know... NurseJackie Aug 2021 #93
That's a beautiful tribute. llmart Aug 2021 #91
Thank you. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #94
That is indeed a sad story. Grumpy Old Guy Aug 2021 #95
Thank you! NurseJackie Aug 2021 #98
Conservatives can definitely be heartless and cruel IronLionZion Aug 2021 #96
Heartbreaking. I'm sorry to hear it. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #99
In my world, the "afterlife" is what you leave in others' hearts Harker Aug 2021 #97
That's a lovely thought. Thank you. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #100
... Harker Aug 2021 #101
YOU are part of "It Takes a Village" - this is YOUR moment........ MyOwnPeace Aug 2021 #103
Thank you for your thoughts and kind words. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #132
Was he from western Pennsylvania? left-of-center2012 Aug 2021 #105
No, but my husband's family is from there ... NurseJackie Aug 2021 #116
The store chain was called White Cross. n/t left-of-center2012 Aug 2021 #120
WOW! THAT brings back memories..... MyOwnPeace Aug 2021 #134
I also worked at Kaufmann's downtown Pittsburgh left-of-center2012 Aug 2021 #137
+ 1000000 Laura PourMeADrink Aug 2021 #108
That's a lot... NurseJackie Aug 2021 #126
Sorry didn't put commas in:) Your story is an incredible Laura PourMeADrink Aug 2021 #144
The 80s and early 90s were terrible for being gay. It was sheer misery. keopeli Aug 2021 #109
Thank you. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #125
WAS he gay? Phil the Kilibuster Aug 2021 #110
Yes. His significant other, lover, had also died before him. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #112
Okay Phil the Kilibuster Aug 2021 #114
I read this earlier and I could not comment mgardener Aug 2021 #115
Thank you... NurseJackie Aug 2021 #117
He suffered two deaths. Moebym Aug 2021 #118
Yes Too many. Too soon. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #119
What a sad story. nt LAS14 Aug 2021 #121
I've been sitting on this for a few days... NurseJackie Aug 2021 #123
If you can find where he was buried, and can afford a small marker GeoWilliam750 Aug 2021 #122
That's a lovely idea. I will... NurseJackie Aug 2021 #124
I'm so sorry cate94 Aug 2021 #127
Thanks for sharing that cate94... NurseJackie Aug 2021 #128
Your take is probably right but it is possible that there is another perspective PurgedVoter Aug 2021 #129
Thank you. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #130
It was a huge fear of mine when I realized I was gay in that era dsc Aug 2021 #131
I'm sorry you had to even consider that as a possibility... NurseJackie Aug 2021 #133
thanks dsc Aug 2021 #142
A beautiful tribute. Thank you. Ilsa Aug 2021 #136
Thank you. David would have been in his 70s... NurseJackie Aug 2021 #138
He sounds like he was a nice guy -- what a sad story. yonder Aug 2021 #141
Thank you so much. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #148
I'm sure that David deserved better and notinkansas Aug 2021 #145
Thank you. They were ignorant... NurseJackie Aug 2021 #149
So sorry, much love station agent Aug 2021 #146
Many thanks. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #150
I've heard this story before TexasBushwhacker Aug 2021 #147
Heartbreaking... NurseJackie Aug 2021 #151
Dear NJ.. my heart breaks for you and I remember the fear of those days Peacetrain Aug 2021 #157
Thank you. That's very sweet. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #159
This thread is at long last giving David the funeral he deserved. Irish_Dem Aug 2021 #158
I had not thought of it that way... that's lovely. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #160
It is a lovely funeral service. Irish_Dem Aug 2021 #161
I am so sorry Lulu KC Aug 2021 #162
Thank you. I know that I'm looking at this... NurseJackie Aug 2021 #163
Thank you for sharing that budkin Aug 2021 #164
Thank you. That means a lot to me. NurseJackie Aug 2021 #165
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