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niyad

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19. Many years ago, a friend and I were having a drink after work. One of our coworkers

Tue Aug 3, 2021, 05:52 PM

Aug 2021

kept making passes at my friend, who was not interested. He got annoyed at being ignored, and would not leave, even though I, rather pointedly, invited him to. Then he. called her the c-word. Without thinking, I threw my drink at him. Word got around quickly. We had little trouble after that while I was there.

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OK retired DUers - how did you handle sexual harassment back in the day [View all] malaise Aug 2021 OP

I called them on it every time. no_hypocrisy Aug 2021 #1

Hit you? malaise Aug 2021 #4

Yeah, a hard whack on the upper arm without warning. no_hypocrisy Aug 2021 #31

The first time I was 14. DURHAM D Aug 2021 #2

Good malaise Aug 2021 #47

Hugs to Dad! That's the way you do it! 2Gingersnaps Aug 2021 #91

I guess I have been very lucky Betty88 Aug 2021 #95

I got sexually harassed every day at work and school in the 80s and 90s liberal_mama Aug 2021 #3

This message was self-deleted by its author malaise Aug 2021 #6

Damn that was tough malaise Aug 2021 #7

Words are inadequate. I hope that you are healing. Know that your DU family is here niyad Aug 2021 #11

... Aristus Aug 2021 #14

Thank you for speaking up here Bucky Aug 2021 #84

My sister was 13, we were in foster care, our remaining parent, our Dad had died less 2Gingersnaps Aug 2021 #88

You did try! Duppers Aug 2021 #102

I'm very, very sorry. lindysalsagal Aug 2021 #107

I also had a co-worker that came up behind me DURHAM D Aug 2021 #5

Good malaise Aug 2021 #9

Thank God there was a "right person!" 2Gingersnaps Aug 2021 #92

As a young man, I worked in an office with some ladies that thought grabbing my ass was funny. Midnight Writer Aug 2021 #8

We don't discuss that other sexual harassment malaise Aug 2021 #10

I think it might be because young men often like the attention and don't feel physically at risk. GulfCoast66 Aug 2021 #35

You're one of the good guys malaise Aug 2021 #48

One does ones best. Been with the wife for 34 years! GulfCoast66 Aug 2021 #51

Thank you, we know you guys are out there and some of us deeply appreciate it. 2Gingersnaps Aug 2021 #93

It's nothing my church did that made me a freethinker. GulfCoast66 Aug 2021 #94

I Called Other Men On It ProfessorGAC Aug 2021 #12

Somehow I knew you'd be that guy malaise Aug 2021 #24

Once I became a manager I've fired men over it. GulfCoast66 Aug 2021 #101

I duck taped a recorder to my chest Mary in S. Carolina Aug 2021 #13

Wonderful malaise Aug 2021 #25

This message was self-deleted by its author malaise Aug 2021 #26

Awesome!!!! lindysalsagal Aug 2021 #109

hmm.... bdamomma Aug 2021 #128

In my state, recorders not allowed as evidence Mary in S. Carolina Aug 2021 #131

I worked at a large corporation Deuxcents Aug 2021 #15

I always looked the other way or laughed it off. Dream Girl Aug 2021 #16

Awful malaise Aug 2021 #76

Awful malaise Aug 2021 #77

Gave it back to them Politicalgolfer Aug 2021 #17

oh goodness,,,, not well,,,, KarenS Aug 2021 #18

You survived in a tough environment malaise Aug 2021 #38

You survived in a tough environment malaise Aug 2021 #39

Many years ago, a friend and I were having a drink after work. One of our coworkers niyad Aug 2021 #19

That usually works malaise Aug 2021 #33

Someone I worked for tried to grab me by the boobs HipChick Aug 2021 #20

Same here malaise Aug 2021 #34

I was never bdamomma Aug 2021 #129

Racheting Cable cutter... haele Aug 2021 #21

This message was self-deleted by its author malaise Aug 2021 #27

THIS malaise Aug 2021 #28

Sometimes I get pushback: LakeArenal Aug 2021 #22

Girl you covered the field but the penis pump malaise Aug 2021 #29

Exactly. LakeArenal Aug 2021 #50

I think the difference between then and now could be Laura PourMeADrink Aug 2021 #130

In my mid-20s, a high-level executive of the company I worked for at the time greatauntoftriplets Aug 2021 #23

Damn - that's creepy malaise Aug 2021 #30

This asshole got his revenge on me too. greatauntoftriplets Aug 2021 #32

Good grief malaise Aug 2021 #36

That poor woman. She should have been pro union. greatauntoftriplets Aug 2021 #40

The last laugh is often the sweetest malaise Aug 2021 #41

I was looking around before they fired me. greatauntoftriplets Aug 2021 #42

This message was self-deleted by its author malaise Aug 2021 #37

when I found my locker papered with Playboy centerfolds Skittles Aug 2021 #43

Bwaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah malaise Aug 2021 #49

AMATEURS Skittles Aug 2021 #59

You are brilliant!!! lindysalsagal Aug 2021 #113

you know what really bothered me? Skittles Aug 2021 #121

I dumped a beer in his lap LiberalBrooke Aug 2021 #44

Good malaise Aug 2021 #89

Good malaise Aug 2021 #90

A flasher opened his coat LiberalBrooke Aug 2021 #45

My response was.. luvs2sing Aug 2021 #61

"it looks like a penis, only smaller!" Skittles Aug 2021 #64

I used that line on the RR train musette_sf Aug 2021 #87

K&R spanone Aug 2021 #46

Told them I was straight. Let's face 9 times out 10 if there's a sexual harrassment it was ... marble falls Aug 2021 #52

I was never against consensual banter malaise Aug 2021 #55

I had no taste for locker room talk, not even in the locker room. Polite and light. marble falls Aug 2021 #60

Wow. lindysalsagal Aug 2021 #106

Men are craven for the most part. Even with each other. marble falls Aug 2021 #119

Mostly was successful by ignoring them treestar Aug 2021 #53

Right out of college I worked for Merrill Lynch kimbutgar Aug 2021 #54

I am color blind when you're a scumbag malaise Aug 2021 #57

I learned how to deal with men.. luvs2sing Aug 2021 #56

Wow - that was fascinating malaise Aug 2021 #62

My mom used to laugh at the man and say, "Not a chance in the world!" twin_ghost Aug 2021 #58

SHe must know my favorite aunt malaise Aug 2021 #63

That is what I did. Raftergirl Aug 2021 #65

As a new hospital RN (I was 28), I had a doctor put his hand on my knee TNNurse Aug 2021 #66

That is the best way to deal with them - up front malaise Aug 2021 #69

If I had been 21 not sure I could have. TNNurse Aug 2021 #78

Doesn't have to be retired. Blue_true Aug 2021 #67

A little help from a friend. TygrBright Aug 2021 #68

Whatever works malaise Aug 2021 #70

This message was self-deleted by its author malaise Aug 2021 #71

Live with it Bear Creek Aug 2021 #72

Brute Force! TFRD Aug 2021 #73

So here's a funny one hurple Aug 2021 #74

Some folks can be such scumbags malaise Aug 2021 #82

I have to admit... hurple Aug 2021 #96

LOL malaise Aug 2021 #97

As a single mom no child support Tree Lady Aug 2021 #75

Just another scumbag malaise Aug 2021 #83

I quit one summer job. femmedem Aug 2021 #79

It is much harder when you really need the job and have kids to feed malaise Aug 2021 #85

I put up with it from the late 60s until the corporation decided to sinkingfeeling Aug 2021 #80

50- 1 malaise Aug 2021 #86

I was fortunate to work for a global 100 company MLAA Aug 2021 #81

My crazy grandma was a shipyard welder during World War II. hunter Aug 2021 #98

They were clearly way ahead of their time malaise Aug 2021 #104

One of the few benefits of being ugly. KentuckyWoman Aug 2021 #99

If they touched me canetoad Aug 2021 #100

In 1970 I would quit Wicked Blue Aug 2021 #103

Glad the second scumbag was fired malaise Aug 2021 #110

The first one was a veterinarian Wicked Blue Aug 2021 #125

My ex-wife (17 years together) worked for a few months MineralMan Aug 2021 #105

At least you did get tot he point malaise Aug 2021 #111

At least you did get tot he point malaise Aug 2021 #112

This message was self-deleted by its author hamsterjill Aug 2021 #108

Your daddy was correct malaise Aug 2021 #114

Twice I had to deal with it... Ohio Joe Aug 2021 #115

If we had more folks at the top like you malaise Aug 2021 #118

A big ugly guy at work took something expensive of mine. I told him to give it back. He threatened t lindysalsagal Aug 2021 #116

I thought this thread might trigger some forgotten memories Nittersing Aug 2021 #117

You were lucky malaise Aug 2021 #122

Mostly I ignored it Meowmee Aug 2021 #120

I shut down, sometimes for days at at time, and eventually quit my job if it doesn't stop. meadowlander Aug 2021 #123

I grew up without a father and my mother was fairly tough BUT I still wasn't prepared... Phentex Aug 2021 #124

Few of us are prepared malaise Aug 2021 #127

I was 22 Silver Swan Aug 2021 #126