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Sat Jan 30, 2021, 10:15 PM

4. I'd be tempted to say--

"If blue lives matter to you, you must really be against Trump who incited a mob to go after the Capitol Police."

Actually, I'm tending to back off now, as arguing tends to harden people in their position. You could try going the softer route, asking him as someone with knowledge how he thinks policing could be improved-- what would he do if he were in charge.

I have found that often even those who seem entrenched actually have ideas and thoughts about what could be done better. I have a friend who (though a scientist) is "pretty sure" human activity isn't "that big a cause" of climate change. I used to argue with him, but we got nowhere. Then I thought to say, "Hmm. Even if it's not the only cause, you're saying human activity does have an effect. And human activity is something we can affect, unlike volcanoes. So... do you have any ideas what could be done to cut down on what we can cut down on? Maybe some technological solutions?"

He actually stopped arguing and started talking about potential engineering solutions that he'd been reading about. I was pretty surprised, but I think my acknowledgement of his own knowledge helped. I didn't say, as I did before, "How on earth can a scientist ignore the science!" Instead I tried, "As a scientist, can you help me think through some partial solutions?"

I don't know if that will help, but you might say, "As a law-enforcement veteran, can you help me think through ways to help making police and the community more cooperative?"

who knows... he sounds like a great guy, so if you ask him to "help," maybe that will break through the barrier.

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