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smirkymonkey

(63,221 posts)
90. I second this wholeheartedly.
Mon Sep 14, 2020, 01:17 PM
Sep 2020

I would not take my chances, especially with non-compliant Trumpers attending the funeral.

It's a service for your wife's mother so I'd go along with your spouse's wishes. Kaleva Sep 2020 #1
That means he will put himself in a high risk situation LisaL Sep 2020 #6
I'd put myself in a high risk situation without question. Kaleva Sep 2020 #8
But is it necessary to eat and drink to respect her mother? This is going to be mid-afternoon. Doodley Sep 2020 #18
If it gives great comfort to your wife, then so be it. Kaleva Sep 2020 #34
Maybe that is a good question to ask your wife. consider_this Sep 2020 #35
Food and eating out is part of her family culture. They would eat out more in a month than I used to Doodley Sep 2020 #53
An article today said COVID cases were highest in people that ate in restaurants. consider_this Sep 2020 #39
The trump anti-masker needs to be talked to on the side if he feels that strongly Vivienne235729 Sep 2020 #65
Really? I would not risk dying for the already dead Drahthaardogs Sep 2020 #72
I second this wholeheartedly. smirkymonkey Sep 2020 #90
The chances of me or anyone else dying were pretty much zilch. Kaleva Sep 2020 #99
Ditto n/t malaise Sep 2020 #100
Good points. I am more concerned about other people getting infected, including my wife who is high Doodley Sep 2020 #9
The elderly who attended my mother-in-law's service this past summer stayed at a distance Kaleva Sep 2020 #25
You think odds of getting covid very small in a gathering with 40 people LisaL Sep 2020 #12
I attended a service for my own mother-in-law this past summer. Kaleva Sep 2020 #19
So because you didn't get infected nobody else is getting infected? LisaL Sep 2020 #23
We followed Whitmer's executive orders and no one got sick. Kaleva Sep 2020 #27
So again, because no one got sick at your event, you are assuming no one else is going to get sick LisaL Sep 2020 #29
We followed the executive orders of our esteemed Dem governor. Kaleva Sep 2020 #31
Speed limit is 75 Drahthaardogs Sep 2020 #73
respectfully disagree. consider_this Sep 2020 #15
Yea, you get one super spreader in there, nearly everybody could end up getting infected. LisaL Sep 2020 #22
+1. I'd encourage people to make a donation to some worthy charity Hoyt Sep 2020 #26
My wife took her mother's death very hard. Kaleva Sep 2020 #38
Agree. My late wife called her mom at least daily, often more. Her mom Hoyt Sep 2020 #43
No food. elleng Sep 2020 #2
+1 grantcart Sep 2020 #60
You can go and protect yourself best you can, telling all separation and you keep your mask on. LizBeth Sep 2020 #3
I am going to keep my distance, but the reception will be worse than a restaurant. In a restaurant Doodley Sep 2020 #50
You are exactly right. My father is older and five states from me and I wonder if I would get on a LizBeth Sep 2020 #57
Definitely skip the reception. If you do decide to attend the funeral for your wife's sake that is smirkymonkey Sep 2020 #92
Is it possible LoveMyCali Sep 2020 #4
I don't see why not. There must be a parking lot. Doodley Sep 2020 #11
Either outdoor or I would pass on the dinner afterward. roamer65 Sep 2020 #21
Personally, I am going to pass on dinner or pass out. Doodley Sep 2020 #46
My opinion: It is reckless to have this service at this time. Laffy Kat Sep 2020 #5
She was pressured into it by her anti-masker brother and anti-masker friend. Doodley Sep 2020 #14
well then tell her to take a stand. consider_this Sep 2020 #17
Invites already gone out. People have already made arrangements, Doodley Sep 2020 #24
events can be cancelled OR consider_this Sep 2020 #28
She has got a lot of bad influences. Her family are Republicans. Doodley Sep 2020 #45
Kinda gathered that. :-( consider_this Sep 2020 #48
wear a mask as much as possible, stay apart Kali Sep 2020 #7
Yes, I am going to speak at the service and think I may step out before my head explodes. Doodley Sep 2020 #16
might you say to her... consider_this Sep 2020 #10
My wife said that if they die that is their choice. I said that's like Trump holding rallies - Doodley Sep 2020 #44
Man, I'm so sorry you are dealing with this... consider_this Sep 2020 #52
My wife just yelled at me and said I need to get some real friends instead of embarrassing her Doodley Sep 2020 #55
You are not embarrassing her - you are caring for her and trying to find a way to consider_this Sep 2020 #58
I'm sorry. She's at an emotional abyss. dawg day Sep 2020 #69
147 covid cases and 6 days ago, three deaths. None of the deaths were from the wedding, LizBeth Sep 2020 #75
This is how I feel. If I were to die, I would not want the people I love to gather, get sick or die, LizBeth Sep 2020 #63
I would tell your wife that you will go to the funeral - Ms. Toad Sep 2020 #13
I read that to my wife. She said, "Okay, I'll stay in a hotel for two weeks!" And she wouldn't Doodley Sep 2020 #41
What's your life worth? n/t Ms. Toad Sep 2020 #42
I have done home care for a 94 year for 2 1/2 years. sheshe2 Sep 2020 #20
Thanks for the reply. It isn't my wife's church. We don't go to church. She was pressured Doodley Sep 2020 #36
If she was pressured by anti maskers it is the wrong thing to do. sheshe2 Sep 2020 #49
You could tell her that you might be doing this again in 3-4 weeks if she's not careful. Renew Deal Sep 2020 #30
You are right. And the chances of getting covid now are much higher than during the lockdown. Doodley Sep 2020 #32
If I decided to go, I'd take vitamin D beforehand and gargle with a 1:30 iodine mix before and after renate Sep 2020 #33
Thanks for the advice. I am more likely to have a heart attack through anxiety. Doodley Sep 2020 #37
Cancel with apologies and have a gathering to honor cry baby Sep 2020 #40
Do the people in charge of the Hall Require Masks ? Tell guests they can't attend unless they wear a JI7 Sep 2020 #47
The thing is, just like in a restaurant, LisaL Sep 2020 #51
personally consider_this Sep 2020 #54
This message was self-deleted by its author JI7 Sep 2020 #59
40 people inside, some not wearing masks for a good two or three hours. Talking heavy viral load. LizBeth Sep 2020 #64
let me tell you one thing from experience consider_this Sep 2020 #56
Sounds like there isn't much you can do other than Save Yourself JI7 Sep 2020 #61
my heart goes out to you RazBerryBeret Sep 2020 #62
You're right qwlauren35 Sep 2020 #66
Protect yourself. Be polite. Let the rest go. KentuckyWoman Sep 2020 #67
Thank you. Doodley Sep 2020 #80
Can you serve food in packages with big bottles of hand sanitiser everywhere meadowlander Sep 2020 #68
I have finally convinced my wife to ask that question about putting tables outside. Doodley Sep 2020 #81
Sanitizer won't protect them from an airborne disease. LisaL Sep 2020 #93
First of all, I'm very sorry for your loss Dorian Gray Sep 2020 #70
I am sorry about the loss of your aunt. I will bring up the subject of masks when I make my speech, Doodley Sep 2020 #82
I know it's so tough Dorian Gray Sep 2020 #98
My comments are anecdotal and not directly about a la izquierda Sep 2020 #71
I am sorry for the loss of your uncles. Yes, I understand your mother not wanting Doodley Sep 2020 #83
That's what "bubbles" are for-- dawg day Sep 2020 #95
One of my best friends died in June malaise Sep 2020 #74
I have finally convinced my wife to ask that question about putting tables outside. Doodley Sep 2020 #84
No one who attended either the funeral or the repast malaise Sep 2020 #87
Just attended a memorial service for my godmother MrsMatt Sep 2020 #76
I am sorry for your loss. Yes, I can see how a stripped-down memorial could be just as Doodley Sep 2020 #85
Many people with NOTHING. boston bean Sep 2020 #77
I am sorry for the loss of your mother. What you say while she is alive is what matters most. I Doodley Sep 2020 #86
I am just saying having anything indoors outrages me. boston bean Sep 2020 #88
You have a lot to consider. LuckyCharms Sep 2020 #78
It's a long story, but my wife and I have been her full-time caretaker for years. Every Doodley Sep 2020 #91
Without going into details... LuckyCharms Sep 2020 #94
+1 LizBeth Sep 2020 #96
Difficult situation, to be sure. MineralMan Sep 2020 #79
I find it strange how people aren't straightforward on this pandemic Beringia Sep 2020 #89
I wouldn't want to be part of something that might cause an outbreak Zing Zing Zingbah Sep 2020 #97
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