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In reply to the discussion: "My Rapist Doesn't Know He's A Rapist" [View all]caseymoz
(5,763 posts)70. Because it might be the truth?
In fact, that would be the only standard by which it should be defined.
Rapist doesn't get to define it, either. I don't think you could trace the scholarship on describing rape as a sexual act back to any convicted rapist. Unless you mean to say anyone who says rape is a sexual act is a rapist. In which case, it's a logical fallacy, affirming the antecedent, and I feel insulted.
Rapists aren't doing the defining. They might have the motive, but other people, not rapists, attempt to describe it. If the defining isn't being done by the criminal, the only consideration should be whether it's an accurate description. There's pretty much no mystery to the victim's motives. They have as little access to what's going on inside a rapist's head as anyone. If your entire intent is to insult the rapist, and yes, he or she deserves it, but don't do this at the cost of misleading everyone.
Absolutely no improvement can come out of that, for victims or future victims.
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we have been dehumanizing women to such an extent, it really is not surprising or stunning.
seabeyond
Sep 2012
#3
It's an absolute national disgrace! Do they not realize we are in the 21st Century?
calimary
Sep 2012
#77
I heard a story... In a 60's Women's Studies class one brave man, a policeman....
Tigress DEM
Sep 2012
#5
Do you tell your daughters to get hammered and walk through a frat, naked on a friday night?
joeglow3
Sep 2012
#66
Even if they were hammered, butt naked and walked though a frat on a friday night..
truebrit71
Sep 2012
#69
+1. and, when i actually say men are more than this, and defend men, i am called a "man hater"
seabeyond
Sep 2012
#78
Part of that is the culture under Capitalism where the very culture is a marketplace,...
Spitfire of ATJ
Sep 2012
#79
She is taking ownership of the event & power over her rapist & by extension over all rapists. Yay!
Bernardo de La Paz
Sep 2012
#11
What possible justification can you use to say that the victim deserves ANY of the blame?
eggplant
Sep 2012
#20
Wow! I don't usually challenge people on DU assuming everyone has the right to their own opinion.
Marie Marie
Sep 2012
#31
That's like saying a serial killer who gets sexual satisfaction is only doing it for sex
lunatica
Sep 2012
#85
i think so too. entitlement to sex. that is ultimately about power. his want more important
seabeyond
Sep 2012
#44
K&R Hard to believe that there are so many people that would be glad to see us (you) go back. n/t
Egalitarian Thug
Sep 2012
#34