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Sun Mar 8, 2020, 10:55 PM

49. P.M. me anytime. Having been through it,

and also having been able to put eight years between me and their deaths, it's much easier for me to think about it and talk about it now.

No one should have to go through what you're going through alone. I'm very serious, PM me and I'd be happy to help in whatever way I can. If you need a shoulder to cry on or someone to lean on, I'm here.

And I'll be honest, when I was going through it, it was really rough. It has taken years to realize all of the blessings that came from going through that with my parents. Some blessings I could see immediately, other things I'm still learning to this day. I think it will be a lifelong lesson in being a human being.

And you have to do the hardest part of all. You have to take care of you while you are taking care of your mom.
You only have to do this one day at a time. Sometimes you might want to take that down to one hour at a time or one minute at a time. Do whatever works best for you.

I allowed myself a 5-minute pity party everyday. I would go in the bathroom and turn on the shower and the fan so that no one could hear me, and I would sit on the floor and cry. And then I would get up and wipe my face off and tell myself that's all I had time for, and out the door I would go, wondering how I was going to get through the day. And at the end of the day I would end up in that bathroom, looking at myself in the mirror, and telling myself that I did it, I got through another day

And you will too. Please reach out if you want to or need to. There's lots of hugs here.

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