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My mom‘s example taught me how not to fear death. The following is her story. It still brings tears of joy 15 years later

I wrote the following before the magic & mysteries of her passing faded into more vague memory.

I share this with a heart full of hope this true story helps to ease others as we face this new, threatening virus outbreak.

Namaste
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MY MOM'S GREATEST GIFT

We knew Mom had ovarian cancer
metastasized throughout.

She was 84 and still sharp as a tack.
She was blessed with no suffering.
A miracle, of sorts.

Mom only took one pain pill during the 4 months she was quietly ill.

She never complained, not even once.
No tears, no fear, peaceful and thankful
for all I would do.

A total joy to care for.

How fortunate I was to have a whole year with her. We lived 2,500 miles away until my other sibling passed away 5 months prior to mom’s diagnosis. I took her to my home after his funeral.

We healed all the Mommy/Daughter stuff.

They don't make many women like Mom anymore: stalwart, dignified, and happy to endure.

Here's what happened 2 days before her peaceful passing in my home:

We were with her, my daughter, grandkids, and I, preparing her for bed when she looked up to the ceiling and said

"Why is there a hole in my ceiling, and who are all these people coming through."

That was Wednesday.

The next day, Thursday eve, I was prompted to ask her what her dream meal would be. I then ran to the store, bought the fish and prepared her desired dish.

My friend brought over a bunch of movies for a dinner/movie treat.

A girls night, cozy and carefree.

My mom picked Gone With the Wind.

She sat up, as cheery as could be, ate all her dinner and finished the movie at 11:00PM.

She looked like the picture of health.

I was prompted to kneel at her feet as we shared a red wine treat.

I toasted her and thanked her for being a great mom, and chirped memories of her efforts I adored like her famous spaghetti and lobster sauce prepared as my chosen meal on my birthdays, and the clothes she would lovingly sew, to name but a few.

We laughed, loved, and reminisced. I made sure she knew in my heart she would always abide.

And as I prepared her for bed, I sat her before me and was prompted to say:

"Mom, you don't have to worry about me,
I'll be fine when you are gone."

For the first time in my life, I watched my staunch, German mom weep as she blurted so very clearly:

"But I do worry about you. You will be all alone."

I said "No mom, I have a lovely daughter, too” prompting two tear soaked grins.

I held my mom, as if she were a child, and gave her permission to reunite with her son and my dad, and, yes, we both felt very sad as we sat there and quietly cried.

Neither of us knew that tomorrow she would die.

Just writing this makes my eyes cry.

The next morning when I went in to help her dress for breakfast, there was mom, with the biggest, childlike smile I had ever seen from her.

She was glowing, her skin as pink and beautiful as a newborn, except for the wrinkles.

But she couldn't talk. I asked her to squeeze my hand once for Yes, and Twice for no, but no response.

She just kept looking around the room smiling and glowing, as if the room was filled with familiar people.

There is no word to describe the elation she was obviously feeling.

I swear this to be true!

I called the Hospice Center And the nurse came over.

By the time she arrived, Mom seemed to have left although she laid there for another 18 hours peacefully before passing rasping with each breath.

And, of course, she waited for me to take a quick 5AM nap to take her leave.

Kind to the end, she spared my feelings. She was a very private person.

I awoke, and she was gone.

My daughter, who had been with us all day, called within minutes from her nearby home.

She said "Mom, is Grammy gone?

I said "Yes" within the last half hour.

And then she shared what happened in her sleep.

She dreamed that her Grammy visited.
She awoke, and felt her hand being held
And her snuggling little boy sat up and said "Grammy is here."

Children, so dear, can see.

Nothing can convince my daughter and 4 year old grandson that their Grammy didn't drop in to say Good Bye.

The look of sheer joy on mom's face that morning, and the events just prior left me believing with no reservations that there is more when we pass than a loud slamming door.

And as much as I enjoy life, both the joy and the strife, what Mom taught me that day gives me hope.

That one day, when my spirit is called home, I hope that there will be a hole in my ceiling and my mom will drop in to guide me to the other side.

Mom converted my Faith into Knowledge.

I share this because these true events
improved my enjoyment of life.

I pray they give another solace and hope, too.

And, if what Mom taught me is true, there is more than a chance that we will all be reunited in a better place.

There, I look forward to seeing or meeting you, too!

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