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Response to Cracklin Charlie (Reply #4)

Thu Dec 6, 2018, 11:29 AM

20. I have no problem with what this father did. It sounds like a lesson learned that won't soon be

forgotten. This daughter will one day thank her Dad when she grows up to be a decent human being and a blessing to her community, not a burden. My parents raised nine kids on tough love, as they had been raised, and I had then and now, nothing but love and respect for them. Sure I might have been upset for a few moments or a while, but my Mother always made sure before we went to bed why she did what she did, and always told us that we would understand one day when we had kids of our own. She was right. My daughter and I talk all the time about her childhood friends whose parents were enablers by never holding them accountable for their actions. Their parents gave them too much and demanded too little of them in return. All these kids were from middle to upper class homes with Mothers and Fathers in the home, and the vast majority of them turned out to be rotten to the core. I made sure that didn't happen to mine by making them accountable for their actions, and not allowing them to talk back or be disrespectful to their parents or other persons of authority in their lives. I also taught them to treat others as they would like to be treated. They are model citizens, have steady jobs, families of their own, and we talk and laugh about things that they did growing up all the time, and the consequences.

The best compliment my children can pay me is when I see them modeling my behaviors with their children. It's the greatest compliment one can receive as a parent. I get compliments about my grown kids all the time, particularly from those who don't have such a close relationship with their own adult children. I just tell them that being a good parent is the hardest job you will ever have as my mother use to tell us. Many times its a thankless job. But if you hang in there and be consistent and fair; and punish out of love and concern, and not out of anger, your kids will understand one day. I just didn't expect the "one day" to come so soon.

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