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DUers of Color: Tell Your Story [View all] EffieBlack Apr 2018 OP

Have to commend you for handling that in a professional manner.. HipChick Apr 2018 #1

Thanks for the opportunity, EffieBlack Glorfindel Apr 2018 #2

I hope I can ask a question without sounding racist.... usedtobedemgurl Apr 2018 #3

That's an excellent question EffieBlack Apr 2018 #5

Thank you so much... usedtobedemgurl Apr 2018 #7

I think that he would have been less bold in confronting a man if he was alone.... bettyellen Apr 2018 #102

Nope, there's no racism in Baton Rouge! Croney Apr 2018 #4

A teaching moment for my son mercuryblues Apr 2018 #6

Black female here happy feet Apr 2018 #69

K&R ehrnst Apr 2018 #8

I am white and female. I was promoted rapidly when I was quite young. Tipperary Apr 2018 #9

Great story - thanks for sharing it EffieBlack Apr 2018 #15

You are absolutely right. I am gay also, and I was never in the closet. Exhausting yes. Tipperary Apr 2018 #19

You ignore them mercuryblues Apr 2018 #57

Yes, women and minorities are used to be questioned and challenged. raccoon Apr 2018 #32

If you had been a white male, you probably spooky3 Apr 2018 #79

True - but if I'd been a white man, he wouldn't have assumed I wasn't supposed to be there. EffieBlack Apr 2018 #81

Two examples of snap decisions being required 'in the moment.' BobTheSubgenius Apr 2018 #85

bullshit heaven05 Apr 2018 #146

Thank you for sharing your experience. Nitram Apr 2018 #10

Thank you for sharing that story. MineralMan Apr 2018 #11

I am white. When I was 18 in '68 I had a black roommate as a freshman panader0 Apr 2018 #12

I'm constantly told I don't belong in my own country IronLionZion Apr 2018 #13

IronLionZion - Please do not let ignorant dolts keep you from achieving.. HipChick Apr 2018 #30

Thanks! IronLionZion Apr 2018 #34

"I love white liberal hippies, but they also irritate me endlessly. " irisblue Apr 2018 #39

I like tie-dyed shirts and birkenstocks and activist marches and yoga IronLionZion Apr 2018 #40

SO you breaking up with this woman was equal to female genital mutilation???? 7962 Apr 2018 #118

That's the brutal patriarchy we live in IronLionZion Apr 2018 #121

Thank you for posting this and sharing your story geardaddy Apr 2018 #14

EffieBlack - thank you! lark Apr 2018 #16

I'm learning that white people make a whole lot of culturally racist assumptions. yallerdawg Apr 2018 #17

In Jr. High my class read a book, safeinOhio Apr 2018 #18

I also read that book in high school Ohiogal Apr 2018 #27

That book opened my eyes too. Amaryllis Apr 2018 #74

As a young white enlisted man I bought a mobile home from an African American Sargent... 40RatRod Apr 2018 #20

A few years ago I was shopping with a sister in north Florida a day or two before malaise Apr 2018 #21

Wow that's kind of shocking FakeNoose Apr 2018 #91

No she wasn't accusing me of anything - it was a lovely blouse malaise Apr 2018 #92

Sorry - I read that incorrectly FakeNoose Apr 2018 #93

The way I see it, touching me when you don't know me is malaise Apr 2018 #95

An interesting story but how is it indicative of race? Egnever Apr 2018 #22

Gladly, not one person is arguing that. In fact, you'r the only one mentioning it. LanternWaste Apr 2018 #23

You are not following directions EffieBlack Apr 2018 #24

I don't do directions well Egnever Apr 2018 #25

Clearly you do not. That is certainly your privilege. EffieBlack Apr 2018 #26

Post removed Post removed Apr 2018 #28

You may think you recognize racism, tonedevil Apr 2018 #41

"I honestly just don't understand racism. It makes no sense to me." BumRushDaShow Apr 2018 #42

Clearly. ehrnst Apr 2018 #62

That's too bad.. they would Cha Apr 2018 #76

that's for sure heaven05 Apr 2018 #148

"That spot is reserved!" Bok_Tukalo Apr 2018 #31

This message was self-deleted by its author Egnever Apr 2018 #33

Congraduations. Billy Jingo will be resting with the fishes soon. marble falls Apr 2018 #50

He was a surly cuss Bok_Tukalo Apr 2018 #53

He surely was. He got a LOT of attention! Glad to have you back. It made a big difference for me.... marble falls Apr 2018 #54

Because it happens so much along racial lines...because people make assumptions about status JCanete Apr 2018 #55

I have seen heaven05 Apr 2018 #149

Not equating being ginger to being black, but... moriah Apr 2018 #71

Right. And it's just coincidence that the two young men kicked out of Starbucks pnwmom Apr 2018 #88

LOLWUT betsuni Apr 2018 #89

Here's an idea Lazy Daisy Apr 2018 #108

I think she handled it exactly correctly. She owed him nothing in the way of explanation or Squinch Apr 2018 #110

++ heaven05 Apr 2018 #150

What a perfectly ignorant and dismissive post. Not sure how it took so long for you to get flagged. Squinch Apr 2018 #109

Well, your post is informative, for sure. MineralMan Apr 2018 #116

you are kidding heaven05 Apr 2018 #147

K&R WhiskeyGrinder Apr 2018 #29

Yes, there are so many... forkol Apr 2018 #35

You never really get over these experiences. cyndensco Apr 2018 #38

I grew up white in the suburbs of Indianapolis radical noodle Apr 2018 #36

My story cyndensco Apr 2018 #37

A few experiences RandomAccess Apr 2018 #43

Did you live in Stone Mountain? Behind the Aegis Apr 2018 #44

I didn't live in the village, but in the larger postal area RandomAccess Apr 2018 #45

Neat. I haven't come across anyone who lived there since I lived in GA. Behind the Aegis Apr 2018 #46

Are you still in Ga? RandomAccess Apr 2018 #47

Nope. I live in OK. Behind the Aegis Apr 2018 #48

I lived in the valley heaven05 Apr 2018 #151

K&R sheshe2 Apr 2018 #49

Per my point, but she surely was driving a nice car of some sort, yet Eliot Rosewater Apr 2018 #59

No. sheshe2 Apr 2018 #60

I will listen for a while, thanks...But as to the garage experience, you clearly would have been Eliot Rosewater Apr 2018 #51

I would appreciate DU'ers of color stopping by my thread and leaving a comment mnhtnbb Apr 2018 #52

Around 1960 we took a trip justgamma Apr 2018 #56

"People have to be taught racism" but we're born with white privilege. blaze Apr 2018 #61

I can confirm your thesis happy feet Apr 2018 #72

Obligatory posting of "You've got to be taught to know how to hate" from South Pacific: betsuni Apr 2018 #90

My grandpa was white U.S.A. Wild West. hunter Apr 2018 #64

"I didn't know people were prejudiced against Mexicans" misanthrope Apr 2018 #68

I like the way you seemed to intentionally NOT tell him who you were or that that space.... George II Apr 2018 #58

Few DUers of color left it seems ismnotwasm Apr 2018 #63

It was TRESPASSING damn it! As a white person I can always depend upon the police to bring justice. hunter Apr 2018 #65

You got that right. murielm99 Apr 2018 #66

Many of us got fed up with being whitesplained, lectured to and dismissed by "progressives" EffieBlack Apr 2018 #70

This is a different kind of story. qwlauren35 Apr 2018 #67

This may not entirely be on topic, but the guy who mows our lawn... moriah Apr 2018 #73

I think of myself as not being racist, but have become incresingly aware over the years of white Amaryllis Apr 2018 #75

As an Asian American I was given crappier work to do torius Apr 2018 #77

Im sorry this happened and have no doubt it was racism spooky3 Apr 2018 #78

Thanks for sharing this - I'll take a look EffieBlack Apr 2018 #82

Well, here are two. spooky3 Apr 2018 #84

I had a boss who had a doctorate. robbob Apr 2018 #104

Thanks. But the point of the story was that the spooky3 Apr 2018 #105

K&R for visibility. lunamagica Apr 2018 #80

Welp Afromania Apr 2018 #83

I haven't read the entire thread so I don't know if this video has been posted but this right here- tulipsandroses Apr 2018 #86

Interesting to get a little tiny taste of this if you're white when you live in another country. betsuni Apr 2018 #87

Shit happens to me all the time. Queen of the Iceni Apr 2018 #94

Showing ID at the grocery store to purchase beer/alcohol FakeNoose Apr 2018 #97

But I wasnt purchasing alcohol. I wasnt even at the check-out. I was sitting down by Queen of the Iceni Apr 2018 #98

Then yes, it was rude and inexcusable FakeNoose Apr 2018 #99

Someone was telling me recently that the store checked the IDs of everyone w/the one who was buying Honeycombe8 Apr 2018 #144

These are all such thought-provoking stories EffieBlack Apr 2018 #96

Effie, I was asked to post this on your thread... sheshe2 Apr 2018 #100

I miss 1SBM ... he was a gem. Clever, witty... NurseJackie Apr 2018 #111

I miss him here, Jackie. sheshe2 Apr 2018 #112

Why did he leave? 7962 Apr 2018 #120

He was alert stalked right into 'Flagged for Review' Brother Buzz Apr 2018 #126

Experience and observation tells me that it's safer to not publicly discuss such things... NurseJackie Apr 2018 #128

He was constantly targeted, hounded and alerted on EffieBlack Apr 2018 #130

The new alert system sucks bigly. Guess he got caught up in it. Probably unfairly. 7962 Apr 2018 #137

Can I tell a story from the opposite point of view? I'm white, and used to go with my black friend LisaM Apr 2018 #101

Thank you for this op, it is very enlightening. smirkymonkey Apr 2018 #103

I am a mixed race heaven05 Apr 2018 #106

this still makes me angry azureblue Apr 2018 #107

I love that you did this, EffieBlack. calimary Apr 2018 #113

I'm half-white and I look white. My stories are about white privilege. (Bear with me.) Iggo Apr 2018 #114

My experience is a bit backasswards to others lunatica Apr 2018 #115

That's a great suggestion! EffieBlack Apr 2018 #123

Unfortunately I am not in a good position lunatica Apr 2018 #124

You seem to be a very good writer. Perhaps you could write an op-ed? EffieBlack Apr 2018 #125

I will definitely continue to speak out lunatica Apr 2018 #129

I think you should've told him it was YOUR space & who you were. 7962 Apr 2018 #117

The point of telling our stories is not to invite suggestions for what we "should" have done EffieBlack Apr 2018 #119

White supremacists would love to have my DNA catrose Apr 2018 #122

Thank you cp Apr 2018 #127

Why is it easier to assume racism... TCJ70 Apr 2018 #131

You are not following directions EffieBlack Apr 2018 #133

Im just trying to understand the racism you see in it TCJ70 Apr 2018 #135

Do you always hear hoof beats... tonedevil Apr 2018 #138

Accusations of racism are pretty serious... TCJ70 Apr 2018 #139

You need look no farther... tonedevil Apr 2018 #141

The reason I - and most other POC on this board - have no doubt that it was racism EffieBlack Apr 2018 #140

it's worse heaven05 Apr 2018 #153

Why? TCJ70 Apr 2018 #154

Understand this heaven05 Apr 2018 #155

I am in a mixed marriage pandr32 Apr 2018 #132

Wish I could share .... LenaBaby61 Apr 2018 #134

My father was a racist Wawannabe Apr 2018 #136

Thanks to those who shared, and to those who didn't, I understand caraher Apr 2018 #142

Kick EffieBlack Apr 2018 #143

Here's something that just happened this week in Grosse Pointe MI gollygee Apr 2018 #145

When I Was Five and We Drove Through Birmingham, Alabama McCamy Taylor Apr 2018 #152

This broke my heart cyclonefence Apr 2018 #156

DU of color discussing living while black curious_citizen Apr 2018 #157

wow heaven05 Apr 2018 #158

This was an important post GaryCnf Apr 2018 #159

Its my sister LittleGirl Apr 2018 #160