I hope I can post this here. I want the widest group of opinions, since this is making me sick and I have no one to talk to about it other than my shrink.
I suffer from bipolar and extreme anxiety and depression. I work in a white-collar service industry. We have one workroom, where we all sit and you can see and hear each other. I am the oldest person at my location. The bully is a few years younger. I'm 55. The bully is the wife of a local politician. I was moved to the location to avoid stress at my previous location, due to constant violence and harassment by the public (not just me, other staff, esp female, also subjected to it). I've been out on FMLA twice here in 8.5 years, I am considering going out again. The work situation, aside from the bully, is very stressful anyway.
The first time I was formally introduced to the bully, she says in front of everyone, "Why are you here?". She has yelled at me in front of her boss (!). She has yelled at and gotten aggressive with other staff, but she really hates me. Her opinion is that I am not working hard enough. She will stand in the center of the workroom and announce that not everyone works hard there. I suspect she is negatively gossiping about me to other staff. I am pretty sure, however, they don't want to get involved with that, but they joke around with her other times. Maybe everyone is scared of her. The worst thing she ever did was, during an all-staff meeting with the director of our division, she raised her hand and announced that I and (insert other staff member) don't know enough about what was going on there. I cried publicly. She frankly, seems to be suffering from stress and anxiety herself, but I don't care at this point.
I have spoken to her boss a few times, and I like her boss very much. I believe she has spoken to her. However, she now has the attitude that I should confront this woman myself. I don't want to. My shrink says I have to protect myself and to document everything, including witnesses, from hereonin, and that I have to protect myself. I dread our meetings, not knowing what she'll say. This is really affecting my life.
Our personnel policy has an anti-bullying policy. This woman's MO, and her boss admitted she's passive-aggressive, is to make a pronouncement in the middle of the room like, "Some people don't work hard here." I am at a higher level than she is, and there are things I have to do that involve culling statistics, employee evaluation, etc. so I am doing at-my-desk things she, at a clerk level, is not responsible for.
I have never worked in such a toxic environment, but I was moved here and don't want to move again. I am getting to the point that if she is worse, I go to HR since I feel her boss does not want to deal with her. Her husband, the local pol, is awful a lot of the time, too. And I voted for this asshole twice.
More than this has happened, and this is just the highlights so you get the atmosphere. I wear earphones to keep her voice out; she;s extremely loud. I turn the music up high. I'm trying to ignore it, but it's triggering anxiety in me that I feel on days off. I miss a lot of work. Ignoring it may be making it worse.
I have a good working relationship with her boss, and I don't want to ruin it. I just don't know what to do. Friends who have quit but worked with her tell me she's crazy and a bully. Hope I get SSDI.