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gwheezie

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December 19, 2014

Am I really not finding help

Or am I avoiding pain? I don't know. I really think I'm not finding help but I admit to the possibility I could be avoiding dealing with what I think is a kinda complicated set of feelings about the death of my husband.
The grief counseling I have available to me is through the hospice my husband was briefly connected to that is in the system where I work and the care he got was poor bordering on torture. Plus the office I'm supposed to go to is 65 miles one way from my home and they are not available after 4 pm which is more than difficult to get to.
When I called to ask if there was something closer to me she gave me a hotline number that turned out to be a contest to win a trip. My suspicion that this hospice is a joke had been confirmed. So I do have anger issues. But again I am considering that Iau be avoiding pain.
My other avenue was finding a support group but can't seem to find one local to me. There are pet bereavement groups closer. I almost think if I don't refer to tom as my husband and let people assume he was my cat, I might be able to unload some of this anger. But again I admit the anger may be an easier emotion to deal with than the crushing loss of someone I loved.

December 12, 2014

I could use some help-grief

Some of you might remembers husband died in August. I'm trying to find some online support sites that are active and not terribly religious. Also open minded and tolerant since my husband and I had a not very traditional marriage.
I tried a support group offered through my job but it's very religious focused and I found myself defending my atheism rather than working on the crushing loss I feel. Maybe if I could be a bit more anonymous it would be easier.

December 7, 2014

I've never restrained anyone who didn't fight back

The woman was cuffed, on her back in the police car. She kicked him. What was the purpose of punching her? Get out of the way and close the door of the car. No you are not supposed to punch someone if they kick you if you are the police. She was cuffed on her back in the patrol car. Punching her was retaliation for the kick. No you can't do that.

December 6, 2014

MHP doing a terrific show on the killings of black males

I have been paying attention to Agnew from dream defenders since they did the sit in at Rick Scott's office. He's really grown I have a lot of respect for the work he's doing. So many leaders emerging from this struggle, coming up from ferguson also. I bet some of these young folks had no idea they were going to take on these roles. The country needs to thank them.

December 4, 2014

Thank you richmond va protesters

I had to work last night but everyone I worked with was talking about the protest on broad st. We're a bunch of old farts but you folks inspired us. Thank you this isn't a nyc or ferguson problem. This is systemic and needs all of us to not let up.

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