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My Father~ He slipped quietly away from me this morning

[url=http://postimg.org/image/padbgestp/][img][/img][/url] 1922~2014

Not a perfect man, yet he was my father and I loved him. He passed away in his sleep early this morning. We knew it was almost time. All day yesterday family, that were well enough, arrived to sit with him. I had four hours alone with my dad. I held his hand and said goodbye as I looked out the window, watching the sun shine through the brilliant autumn leaves. None of us knew, he would die hours after the last one of us left.

In the last year he never knew my sister or me. He had reached the final stage of Alzheimer's disease. He never knew me, yet I know he loved me.

Omaha Steve posted this Op for me almost thirty days to the day of my Fathers passing. It was so very kind of him. There is a video at the link of Glen Campbell, his final ballad is called “I’m Not Gonna Miss You”. Glen Cambell is reaching the finale stages of Alzheimer's Disease.



Here are the words~


I'm still here, but yet I'm gone
I don't play guitar or sing my songs
They never defined who I am
The man that loves you 'til the end
You're the last person I will love
You're the last face I will recall
And best of all, I'm not gonna to miss you.
Not gonna miss you.
I'm never gonna hold you like I did
Or say I love you to the kids
You're never gonna see it in my eyes
It's not gonna hurt me when you cry
I'm never gonna know what you go through
All the things I say or do
All the hurt and all the pain
One thing selfishly remains
I'm not gonna miss you
I'm not gonna miss you

It's is a cruel disease. You sit there and watch the light slowly fade away and the memories turn to dust. Tears~

Someone suggested that I write down one memory so that I don't forget, so I will do it here then print it. I was my dads baby girl and a tomboy to boot~ He had a trucking company and would take me along with him. He would lift me up high and put me in the cab of the truck with this huge window spread before me and I could see the whole wide world. It was just my dad and me, on top of the world and laughing out loud, we could be anything. I was about 5 at the time. Yes that is my fondest memory by far~

There was a gun in my house

Preliminary reports from yesterday's school massacre is that the shooter had just broken up with his girlfriend, one of his victims. When a gun is present in a household with domestic abuse, women are 5 times more likely to be murdered with it. When a gun is present in the house, even without domestic abuse, a woman is 3 times more likely to be killed with that gun. It's a simple fact: gun access to angry people means dead people.

Found on FB: https://www.facebook.com/thereprimandproject?hc_location=timeline

There was one when I was growing up. As a teen, my sister had already left for college when my mom came to my room. She handed me a manila envelope and asked me to hide it. I asked her what it was, she said it's your fathers gun. I was never sure if it was fear for herself or fear that he would commit suicide. I suppose it was a toss up...yet I think it had more to do with suicide. There was abuse, yet there were suicide attempts that we the children were in front row seats for. Weren't we lucky.

My brother committed suicide 7 years ago. My sister and I were stronger, we survived.

My marriage, a gun there as well. I found it when I was remaking the bed one morning. It was tucked under the mattress on his side of the bed. I went cold when I pulled it out. Yes there was spousal abuse both verbal and physical. We had not been married long, yet we dated for years. It took me little time to walk out the door.

I was done with it. Did I have a lot of support, in the end with my leaving? Yes. Yet it is a quite crime that happens to so many women. You just don't talk about it. You are silent

Sssh~ don't tell.

You may trod me down in the very dirt, But still, like Dust I'll rise

They can say,
Anything they want to say,
Try to bring me down,


But I will not allow anyone to succeed hanging clouds over me,
I will not face the ground

And they can try
How to make me feel that I,
Don't matter at all,
But I refuse to falter in what I believe or loose faith in my dreams

'Cause there's,
There's a light in me,
That shines brightly,
They can try,
But they can't take that away from me
From me

There's an inner peace I own,
Something in my soul that they can not possess
So I won't be afraid and the darkness will fade

Tell me what I believe or loose faith in my dreams,
'Cause there's a light in me,
That shines brightly yes

They can't take this
Precious love I'll always have inside me,


They can try but they can't take that away from
From me
No no nooo

Am I Next?

Stolen Lives


Thank you 3ChicsPolitico.

Take a bow cowboy!


Thank you President Barack Obama!

Yes, he goes it alone. He does not get much help, he seldom gets praised yet he gets plenty of criticism. Go figure~


****************This is POSTED IN THE BARACK OBAMA GROUP************

The last image I found on TOD~

The Woman Who Walked Into Doors. DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AWARENESS MONTH***Trigger Warning

President Obama Issues Proclamation Declaring October 2014 as National Domestic Violence Awareness Month


Domestic violence affects every American. It harms our communities, weakens the foundation of our Nation, and hurts those we love most. It is an affront to our basic decency and humanity, and it must end. During National Domestic Violence Awareness Month, we acknowledge the progress made in reducing these shameful crimes, embrace the basic human right to be free from violence and abuse, and recognize that more work remains until every individual is able to live free from fear.

Last month, our Nation marked the 20th anniversary of the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA). Before this historic law, domestic violence was seen by many as a lesser offense, and women in danger often had nowhere to go. But VAWA marked a turning point, and it slowly transformed the way people think about domestic abuse. Today, as 1 out of every 10 teenagers are physically hurt on purpose by someone they are dating, we seek to once again profoundly change our culture and reject the quiet tolerance of what is fundamentally unacceptable. That is why Vice President Joe Biden launched the 1is2many initiative to engage educators, parents, and students while raising awareness about dating violence and the role we all have to play in stopping it. And it is why the White House Task Force to Protect Students from Sexual Assault and the newly launched "It's On Us" campaign will address the intersection of sexual assault and dating violence on college campuses.

Since VAWA's passage, domestic violence has dropped by almost two-thirds, but despite these strides, there is more to do. Nearly two out of three Americans 15 years of age or older know a victim of domestic violence or sexual assault, and domestic violence homicides claim the lives of three women every day. When women and children are deprived of a loving home, legal protections, or financial independence because they fear for their safety, our Nation is denied its full potential.


Are you aware of that...


The very title of the book belies the secrecy and denial permeating the novel. As any social worker can attest, ‘walking into doors’ has been so often used as an excuse to explain evidence of abuse that it has essentially become a euphemism for domestic violence. This is certainly true in the case of Paula, and while not the only sensitive subject broached in the novel, this violence is indisputably the most pronounced. In many ways, this title is a more appropriate description of Paula than “The Woman Who Was Beaten and Raped by Her Husband for Seventeen Years,” which would be, if nothing else, more descriptive. Using the euphemism of walking into doors not only describes the violence occurring but, also, the unspoken nature of this violence. As William Hutchings notes, “The book’s title is an excuse…Paula is, she discovers, ‘the invisible woman’ among doctors, nurses, family members, and friends who choose not to see and not to ask, denying both unmistakable physical evidence and their own common sense.” (Hutchings p386) Paula desperately wants one of them to call her out on her coerced lie. Her narrative becomes frantic, almost erratic, as her thoughts beg, “Ask me. In the hospital. Please, ask me. In the clinic. In the church. Ask me ask me ask me. Broken nose, loose teeth, cracked ribs. Ask me” (Doyle 187) Doyle here contrasts the helplessness of Paula with the passivity of society by placing her in environments full of healers – doctors, nurses, priests - who do nothing to help her situation. Paula says that if they could just ask the right question, she would divulge everything, but they never do and, consequently, she never does. It may appear that they simply did not notice but Paula remains convinced that, “they didn’t want to know. They’d never ask. Here’s a prescription; now fuck off.” (Doyle 190) Here, Doyle indicts not only society but the best society presumably has to offer. Not even the people who are have devoted their lives to helping people can be bothered to stop the abuse.

Through Paula, Doyle is able to finally expose society’s inaction to what is happening right before its very eyes. She cannot forgive those who stood by and did nothing although they knew exactly what was occurring. However, Doyle complicates matters by proposing that not everyone is apathetic to injustice. Some honestly believe the lie, as is the case when Paula encounters other victims. Although she wants people to recognize her own inexpressible pain, Paula, herself, has admittedly not always understood or recognized the lies others makes to keep their own secrets. It is only through her own harrowing experiences that she can begin to see behind the curtain and understand the cries of those who, like her, cannot speak. She recalls one time that she was at the hospital after a beating by Charlo where she overheard a woman “telling the nurse that she’d walked into a door, and I believed her…It never dawned on me that she was lyin, the same way I always lied.” (Doyle 200) Doyle here presents the case that the domestic violence inflicted on Paula is not isolated at all but, rather, widespread within the Irish culture. Paula does not expect other women to make the same excuses as her because she does not believe that they have a reason to lie. Because the issue was so well suppressed within society, it did not seem like a societal problem to her at all but something unique to her and Charlo’s relationship. But in reality, as in the novel, this is not the case for as Ryan points out, “In the Republic of Ireland alone, it has been estimated that a staggering one-fifth to one-third of all women have, at some time, experienced violence within a relationship, though it is thought that these figures may not cover the full extent of violence, due to so many cases remaining unreported.” (Ryan 2010; p97)

While the novel suggests that most people are resigned to see the world as they wish, no matter how obvious the darker truth is, Paula’s sister, Carmel, remains a markedly different figure. If Paula blocks all the terrible things in her life from her mind, Carmel “remembers nothing good.” (Doyle 82) The dynamic between Paula and her sister Carmel parallels the struggle between traditional denial in Ireland and new open acceptance. Paula cannot always distinguish reality from her own lies while Carmel never improves nor doubts the memories of her past as well as the current situation. This inevitably leads to Carmel’s dialogue overall suggesting a jaded view about men, but this view is not entirely unjustified. In the end, Paula admits, “Carmel saved me…Carmel saw what was happening, and she made me see.” (Doyle 188)

Read More: http://doorsofdublin.blogspot.com/2012/04/weaving-world-untold.html

The woman who walked into doors, I know her.

Break The Silence.

Say no more!

~ One Woman~ A dedication to the Women of DU.

We come in many shapes and sizes~
Our color may differ yet we stand as One Woman~

Two feet firmly planted...will be joined with others~

Now we are many voices standing for our rights~
Together we sing and our voices rise in harmony ~

We are Strong. We are invincible. We are Women~


We are Women- Watch us Soar~


I Am Woman

I am woman, hear me roar
In numbers too big to ignore
And I know too much to go back an' pretend
'Cause I've heard it all before
And I've been down there on the floor
No one's ever gonna keep me down again

Oh yes, I am wise
But it's wisdom born of pain
Yes, I've paid the price
But look how much I gained
If I have to, I can do anything
I am strong
I am invincible
I am woman

You can bend but never break me
'Cause it only serves to make me
More determined to achieve my final goal
And I come back even stronger
Not a novice any longer
'Cause you've deepened the conviction in my soul

Oh yes, I am wise
But it's wisdom born of pain
Yes, I've paid the price
But look how much I gained
If I have to, I can do anything
I am strong
I am invincible
I am woman

I am woman watch me grow
See me standing toe to toe
As I spread my lovin' arms across the land
But I'm still an embryo
With a long, long way to go
Until I make my brother understand

Oh yes, I am wise
But it's wisdom born of pain
Yes, I've paid the price
But look how much I gained
If I have to, I can face anything
I am strong
I am invincible
I am woman

I am woman
I am invincible
I am strong
I am woman
I am invincible
I am strong
I am woman

Read more: Helen Reddy - I Am Woman Lyrics | MetroLyrics

This is for seabeyond and bainesbane who seem to be IMHO alert stalked here. And for the loss of redqueen, you too Whisp. Stop silencing our voices. There is no need to talk over us. There is no need to shut us up or shut us down. Our voices and our goals are for our future, our childrens future. Why are you so afraid of us?

This is for every Woman on DU and beyond. This is for all the men that love us and fight for us every damn day. We are Women and we will not sit down and shut up. Some try to make us. Funny thing is, they have no clue who they are dealing with.

What would you do if you were old, disabled or ill - and the person feeding you put down the spoon

What would you do if you were old, disabled or ill - and the person feeding you put down the spoon and said that you are going to hell unless you change your sexual preference?

Sound absurd?

Social workers around the world say it’s happening every day.

Gen Silent is the critically-acclaimed documentary from filmmaker Stu Maddux
(Bob and Jack's 52-Year Adventure,
Trip to Hell and Back) that asks six LGBT seniors if they will hide their friends, their spouses- their entire lives in order to survive in the care system.

Their surprising decisions are captured through intimate access to their day-to-day lives over the course of a year. It puts a face on what experts in the film call an epidemic: gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender older people so afraid of discrimination by caregivers or bullying by other seniors that many simply go back into the closet.

Many who won the first civil rights victories for generations to come are now dying prematurely because they are reluctant to ask for help and have too few friends or family to care for them.


As we watch the challenges that these men and women face, we are offered new hope as each person crosses paths with impassioned people trying to change LGBT aging for the better.


[link:http://stumaddux.com/gen_silent_about.html|Read More

A Modicum of Respect please. That appears to be too much to ask for, apparently.

How about Republicans respect the president and the process by which he was elected? That appears to be too much to ask for, apparently -LS

From Snarky Democrat



Yes, I found this posted about Republicans....so why are some on DU doing the same? You don't like him, that's fine, you disagree with him, that is fine too. However on a Democratic board the disrespect and name calling is not okay for our duly elected Democratic president. What is wrong with people?

Have we lost our way? Women and LGBT and AA are bashed and ridiculed here. They are being chased off this damn site. These groups are huge voting blocks for Democrats, why are they being chased off a Democratic board?

Is this what we have become? Are we the party of no tolerance. Have we become the party of me or do we still believe in blessed equality for each and every person, no matter their color or their sexual orientation or their gender.

Goddess help us, I thought the Republicans and the TeaParty were the antiquated ones in their death throes. Here I see a Democratic party that wishes to divide and conquer. That is no way to win, we will only make change together, united as one. It is not about you, it is not about me, it is about us.

We can do this, yet we have to do it together.

GOTV 2014

To Obama Haters:Actual Evidence of Obama’s Achievements Shows You’re on the Wrong Side of History—

To Obama Haters: The Actual Evidence of Obama’s Achievements Shows You’re on the Wrong Side of History— Again

November 19, 2013 by Frank Schaeffer

There are Obama haters aplenty, have been from Day One: Snooty left wingers have offered advice he should have, could have, would have followed to success if the president had just listened to his white betters in the media. Hate-filled right wing bigots have jostled to be the loudest claiming Obama isn’t a “real American,” not one of us, from somewhere else, a liar, a communist, a Muslim, the anti-Christ… and that’s just a start.

Economists have lined up on all sides to predict his policies would fail, that we were headed for depression, world economic collapse, and higher unemployment. Hawks told us the president was giving in to terror, maybe he was a terrorist himself. Doves told us he’s a mass murderer, using drones to target the innocent.


The Religious Right also tells us that the president is a baby-killer, wants to destroy marriage, hates families, and is in league with a global gay conspiracy to coddle pedophiles. Speaking of pedophiles, the Roman Catholic bishops – when not busy with settling lawsuits on behalf of abused children their priests raped – have told us that the president is anti-religion, anti-Catholic and anti-religious freedom, all because he hasn’t kowtowed to them and insisted that women are given full health coverage, including access to contraception.

The president has only been forced to tell one untruth, and it’s not that everyone could keep their coverage irrespective of how bad their so-called insurance was. That was a misstatement. It’s this: He’s never been able to say that the bitterness of his opponents stems from the fact he’s black. Not everyone who opposes the president is a racist. But race embarrasses us. We try not to mention it. We pretend we’re a less race-divided country than we are.

Read more: http://www.patheos.com/blogs/frankschaeffer/2013/11/to-obama-haters-the-actual-evidence-of-obamas-achievements-shows-youre-on-the-wrong-side-of-history-again/#ixzz3CxEDxumA

That goes for Tavis Smiley, Cornell West:

Cornel West, Tavis Smiley and the Cattiness of Slandering President Obama

As a black academic at a fine institution of higher learning, I have constantly tried to overlook the repeatedly blatant verbal shots thrown at President Barack Obama. Many Republican politicians and conservative media critics have taken to attacking almost everything about Obama from his ethnicity, scholarship and ethics to his wife and children. And while many of these remarks can cross racially insensitive boundaries, there has been a trend of spotlighting black scholars who criticize the president and this often creates buzz. But more often than not, the two black intellectuals who stand to grasp the most limelight for taking spiteful jabs at President Obama are Cornel West and Tavis Smiley.


Now Michael Moore who claims Obama will only be known for being President while Black. Yes a lot of Obama hate out there, nothing the black man does is ever good enough. This is what is coming from the left. No need to say what the right is saying, it's just as bad, if not worse.
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