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Sundance has gone.

My fiend Sheila has passed. I have known her since 1975 when we first began teaching together. Over many years, through ups and downs, she was always there. We had many different adventures in many places. It was never dull.

My Mama considered her to be a part of the family and called her 'her other daughter.' She nicknamed her Little Shorty because of her height or lack thereof. Over the years she met many of my relatives and we had a lot of escapades along with my cousin Sarah. When I was wandering around which was often, Sheila was always in touch with Mama.

As I said, Sheila, Sarah and I were often together. That probably scares you although a bit late now. She went to my brother's home a lot with me over the years. She probably has been there more than a lot of people.

Another interesting moment occurred when I went to mass with Sheila in DC. She was a devout Catholic who spent time working for various church organizations to help others. She had been attending meetings of some sort and I picked her up to take her to the airport.She wanted to go to St.Matthew's Cathedral for the early service so off we went. It was a very cold day in January and we had on hats and big ol' coats.

I had often attended mass with Sheila in different places. I am respectful and I find all of it interesting. St.Matthew's is a beautiful place and looking at everything in it was a treat. We were sitting in the back and before the mass began, a very elegantly attired lady approached us. She asked if we would like to 'present the gifts.' I cut my eyes and thought "You have got to be kidding me. Imma be in the middle of a mass." However, I would follow her lead. She shook her head and thanked the lady. After the service I told her they picked us because they thought we were homeless.

As with her devotion to her faith, Sheila worked tirelessly for whatever group or cause she was involved in. It could have been working on plans for teaching her students or working for the Democratic Party. She gave it her all. She was the ant and I was the grasshopper, Peter to my Doubting Thomas.

As I wandered up and down the East Coast trying to find a place to fit in, she remained a lodestar. I believe we all have lodestars be they people, places or principles. They help keep us true and allow us to reorient ourselves if we become lost. Sheila will still be a lodestar but in a different way. It is a bit lonelier knowing she is not still walking about.

Over the years she was always there through loss and laughs. When Mama passed, she was around to help. When my brother, me and my Aunt Charlotte waited on the limo to carry us to the church for the funeral service, she and Sarah were right there. When the car door opened, I realized that their was room for the whole neighborhood. I told Sheila and my cousin to join us for the ride so off we went. I told them that Sheila's presence would give others something to speculate about.

After the funeral and the graveside services, we all were talking to different people. Apparently a couple of cousins talked to Sheila and tried to ascertain who she was. They didn't want to be rude and ask her outright so they used sideways questions hoping that she would give them some information. She was pleasant but apparently not very forthcoming. They finally gave up and asked her outright, "Which one are you?" Sheila responded with "I'm the illegitimate one." They left in a hurry. I'm sure they tried to find out from others while wondering about my Mama and Daddy. Mama would have laughed and I still do when I think of it.

It is twilight now. She is passing from here through the darkness to a dawn on the other side. I can hear the whippoorwills in the distance that mark her passage. I believe she can hear the birds of morning calling as she makes her way.

"She fought the good fight, she finished the race, she kept the faith."

Sheila gave it a helluva ride and she was a helluva Democrat.

Sundance has gone home.

I will miss her very much.

Posted by Are_grits_groceries | Fri Jan 20, 2017, 05:10 PM (34 replies)

Happy Birthday Dolly Parton!

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Posted by Are_grits_groceries | Thu Jan 19, 2017, 12:02 PM (4 replies)

I am going to see my oldest 'partner in crime' for the last time tomorrow.

I have known her since 1975 when we began teaching together. She has been battling cancer and all options are gone. Her health is declining rapidly. I think she will be gone before Trump lands.
She was a hell of a Democrat.

This began her saga:
http://www.democraticunderground.com/10022344938
Posted by Are_grits_groceries | Wed Jan 18, 2017, 03:54 AM (22 replies)

This kinda sums up how I feel about Trump's Inauguration:

"The lamps are going out all over Europe, we shall not see them lit again in our life-time",
British Foreign Secretary Sir Edward Grey remarked to a friend on the eve of Britain's entry into the First World War. First published in Grey's memoirs in 1925, the statement earned wide attention as a correct perception of the First World War and its geopolitical and cultural consequences.
Posted by Are_grits_groceries | Mon Jan 16, 2017, 01:32 PM (3 replies)

A note I got from an old friend on Facebook:

I have known her since high school but have not talked to her in years. I know she follows me on FB. My hair almost caught fire.

We have known each other since high school. You just posted on my Facebook about Republicans and their desire to eliminate the ethics counsel. I am not sure you read what I wrote. The Republicans backed down and the ethics counsel will remain intact because of Trump. He said the Ethics Council is important and will stay. I have liberal friends. All I heard during this election is how Republicans are intolerant, but it is the Democrats who are intolerant of people who don't agree with all Liberal ideas and policies. People with different or opposing views will change the world. A great quote from a broadway play I had the go or of seeing is about a transgender who changed people's perspective. She said "open your mind and change the world. Please practice what you believe, tolerance for different opinions. Obama is not racist or he would not have offered them high cabinet positions. If u tell me they are "token" appointees, then that is racist because you're basically saying they aren't smart enough to see that and that's insulting. Some: where are those women whop accused Trump of groping them along with other attrocious acts. If I had been assaulted by Trump or anyone else and came forward, I would follow thru with prosecution. Many of Trumps executives are women. Hillary paid the women working for campaign less than the women got paid. I honestly do not remember Republicans rioting, or saying awful things about assassinating a Democrat president and I don't remember violence and looting following a Democratic Win. We were friends in high school and .I really hope we can agree to disagree. Give Trump a chance!! Believe me, those who voted for him are going to hold his feet to the fire. He made a lot of promises. But for people to hope Trump fails, they are hoping America fails. Is that what you want to see happen? This is long because I retired on Friday Dec 30th and have time on my hands and because I can't get fired now for writing about my political views. I hope u read all of this and hope udon' unfriendly me, but hey this is America so you are free to do that. Don't be a hater. There is enough of that from other people.
Posted by Are_grits_groceries | Thu Jan 5, 2017, 06:05 AM (18 replies)

Carrie Fisher had a heart attack.

BREAKING: Actress Carrie Fisher rushed to hospital in Los Angeles after suffering a heart attack - TMZ

Not Princess Leia!
Posted by Are_grits_groceries | Fri Dec 23, 2016, 05:26 PM (33 replies)

Well I declared war on a relative who whined about The War on Christmas

This is what I said on FB:

Seriously? I have no problem with God or religion. I do have a problem when it is pushed on everyone by hypocrites. I don't care what holiday greeting used if it is said with genuine care. I do mind when it's used to make a point and becomes a weapon. Nobody has ever said that you have to get your religion out of your lives. They have said get your beliefs out of the lives of others who think differently.
Religions are to be kept out of government areas because they represent everyone. If you look at the history of religion in schools, it's not very pretty. Those who don't conform to the specific religious mores that are pushed have become targets of ridicule and intolerance.

AND let's take a look at what the good religious people did. You approved and elected a man who has had no discernible religious beliefs. He has zero idea about forgiveness which is the basis of Christianity. Jesus would run him and his cabinet out of every temple and church on Earth. So spare me the angst about Christmas and God. They will be just fine and strengthened by those who ACT like Christians. For the rest of you, 'Have a Holiday!'
Posted by Are_grits_groceries | Tue Dec 20, 2016, 10:13 AM (105 replies)

Have a Holiday!



Peace.....
Posted by Are_grits_groceries | Sun Dec 18, 2016, 08:06 AM (0 replies)

Larry Colburn passed. A man you really should know!

At 18 years old, he aimed his M-60 machine gun at fellow US soldiers to stop the My Lai massacre in Vietnam
http://www.nytimes.com/2016/12/16/world/asia/larry-colburn-my-lai-massacre-dies.html

RIP Larry Colburn. You are the epitome of courage.
We should hope to exhibit half of your bravery.
Posted by Are_grits_groceries | Sat Dec 17, 2016, 12:18 PM (15 replies)

I cannot get over this 'election.'

Friends and relatives seem to think this is just shits and grins and they put one over on somebody.
One cousin declared Bannon and Sessions weren't bigots from her perch in New Hampshire.

I have to meditate because I can almost become incandescent with rage.
This is not an effing game!

I am beginning to burn up Facebook and I am name-checking people. They think I'm crazy and I said I had utter contempt for their passivity and acceptance of abhorrent behavior.
Posted by Are_grits_groceries | Thu Dec 15, 2016, 07:33 AM (72 replies)
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