Few of these politicians who so brazenly proclaim the benefits of drones have a real clue of what actually goes on. I, on the other hand, have seen these awful sights first hand.
I knew the names of some of the young soldiers I saw bleed to death on the side of a road. I watched dozens of military-aged males die in Afghanistan, in empty fields, along riversides, and some right outside the compound where their family was waiting for them to return home from mosque.
From "Models" by Mark Manson:
The number one fear deterring men from openly expressing their sexual desires towards women is a fear of being perceived as creepy.
There are a lot of reasons for this, and Ill spare you the anti- feminism rant that demonized male sexuality in the 1960s and 1970s. The point is, most modern men have a legitimate fear of being creepy.
Before we jump into what creepiness is exactly, and what women mean when they complain about it, I need to give the same type of painful-truth serum I gave for rejection:
Theres no such thing as a man who is good with women who isnt also creepy some of the time.
The fact of life is that if you are a man who expresses his sexuality freely (and you should), some women, some of the time, are going to find you creepy. Its simply unavoidable. No matter how cool, rich, good-looking and charming you are, at some point, somewhere, a girl is going to be creeped out by you.
So as a friend of mine says, give yourself permission to be creepy. Theres no other way. And look, its not the end of the world. Theres no Creepy Police who come and handcuff you and take you away for creeping on some girls every now and then.
Hell, once you let loose, you may find (as many men do) that being creepy can even be funny at times.
Creepiness is one of these vague concepts that everyone knows but no one can really put into words. If you ask girls what creepiness is, theyll give you roundabout answers and inevitably fall into examples of creepiness rather than an actual definition.
Of course, their examples are all over the map and seem to have absolutely no rhyme or reason to them.
(For what its worth, asking a bunch of female friends this question over the years, Ive gotten examples of creepiness that have spanned from he had dainty hands to he sips his drink like a girl, to putting too many smileys in text messages. As is often the case, women are terrible authorities on why they like/dislike something, all they know is that they like/dislike it.)
Creepiness: behaving in a way that threatens a woman sexually or causes her to feel insecure.
Remember, the basis of all female attraction comes back to security. Its why she looks for men less needy than herself. Its also why she looks for men who speak and behave in line with their intentions.
The further you get out of line with your intentions, the creepier you become. For instance, if you approach a woman and stand there and talk about the weather, but she can tell that youre horny and want to rail her like a jackhammer, then you will be creepy. Your actions and words are completely out of line with your intentions.
If you approach a woman and stare at her breasts the entire time you speak to her, you will also be creepy. Even if you tell her honestly, You have great tits, you will be creepy. Not for lack of intention, but because she doesnt know you and most women are not comfortable being sexual around men they dont know.
This is why vulnerability is so huge. When youre vulnerable around someone you dont know, youll inspire them to trust you and become more vulnerable around you. The more vulnerable a woman is willing to be around you, the less likely you will be to creep her out.
(Caveat 1: Vulnerability is still subject to the right intentions. If you tell a girl a sob story for no other reason than to get her to feel sorry for you and sleep with you, then guess what, youre still creepy!)
(Caveat 2: Sex can be viewed as the ultimate act of vulnerability for a woman. The more vulnerable you make yourself around her -- by leading, by sharing your intentions, by being honest -- the more she will trust you and become vulnerable in return. Sex is a side-effect of that vulnerability.)
Paradoxically, the way to interact with women in a vulnerable way, and therefore the way to combat creepiness, is to accept that some women will find you creepy some of the time. Just as with rejection, the more youre willing to risk it, the less it will happen.
The more comfortable you are with women finding you creepy, and the more uninhibited and vulnerable your actions and words are around women, the less likely they will be to find you creepy. The more reserved and closed up you are about your intentions, the more you attempt to manipulate her and mislead her about what you want and who you are, the more likely you are to become creepy.
Obviously, there are technical aspects of communication that affect this as well. Bad body language, strange conversation topics, uncalibrated humor, inappropriate touching -- these things can all
make you creepy even with the best of intentions. This is why I say that at some point you have to accept that youre going to creep some women out and thats OK. Because the alternative is to hide your sexuality and hope a woman comes to you... and well, we all know how well that works out.
Meanwhile, 57,000 kids are to be cut out of Head Start:
In my view, it's time to start implementing the ideals put forth by Obama in his speech on Newtown.
Don't know if this has been posted yet, but here ya go
Feinstein and Rogers did not mention that anti-U.S. sentiment has been stoked in drone-struck Yemen and Pakistan. The Bureau of Investigative Journalism (BIJ) found that from June 2004 to September 2012 U.S. drone strikes in Pakistan alone killed between 474 to 881 civilians, including 176 children. Last year, when Yemeni youth and human rights activist Baraa Shiban spoke to Congress about Yemenis responding to civilian deaths by U.S. drone fire, he said What does the U.S. mean to these people now? A blasted car, and gruesome footage of dead families? But in describing rage at the U.S. as malevolence, Feinstein tacitly rejects that the anger and radicalization may be grounded in responses to U.S. violence. It was Feinstein, after all, who erroneously claimed that civilian deaths by U.S. drone strikes each year were typically been in the single digits.
Were not safer today, said Rogers. Whatever truth resides in his remark owes much to the U.S.-led War on Terror. But it will or at least should take more than empty fear-mongering and threats of general huge malevolence to defend shadowy and vast surveillance operations and the governments preemptive treatment of millions of Americans as potential terror threats. Feinstein and Rogers want you scared, America. It seems more appropriate to be furious.
Americans will be forced to buy for-profit insurance, and some of those plans will actually cover little or nothing.
What Recruiters Look At During The 6 Seconds They Spend On Your Resume
Read more: http://www.businessinsider.com/heres-what-recruiters-look-at-during-the-6-seconds-they-spend-on-your-resume-2012-4#ixzz2jhXAfLLa
The study used a scientific technique called eye tracking on 30 professional recruiters and examined their eye movements during a 10-week period to "record and analyze where and how long someone focuses when digesting a piece of information or completing a task."
In the short time that they spend with your resume, the study showed recruiters will look at your name, current title and company, current position start and end dates, previous title and company, previous position start and end dates, and education.
The two resumes below include a heat map of recruiters' eye movements. The one on the right was looked at more thoroughly than the one of the left because of its clear and concise format:
Read more: http://www.businessinsider.com/heres-what-recruiters-look-at-during-the-6-seconds-they-spend-on-your-resume-2012-4#ixzz2jhXkhCIe
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