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Bernardo de La Paz

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August 30, 2018

Whoosh. Right over your head. But you are forgiven for missing it.

She states the key point right up front at the 50 second mark. This is supported by scientific studies that I've read about many years before. (Some links below)

Forgiveness has nothing to do with person being forgiven! They don't even have to know. It has to be sincere. It's about release. You can still prosecute someone in a court of law and seek the maximum penalty, if that would serve justice and deter, even after forgiving someone. It's not about forgetting.

You don't have to pay for therapy to do forgiveness. It actually reduces the need for therapy.

Fluid Relativity just oozes here

He did me wrong, I forgive, you won't, I'm better without you, you're a snail and a creep, I needed to move on ... where does it end? Therapy as drama.

It's a world without rules and amorphous social norms and mores now ... sadly ... only solution is communication up front that explores, uncovers, and protects ... as a society we're not having that conversation yet ... I don't think it's a message that resonates when consumers are expected to assume the submissive position for capitalists and their producers. Tough to be sub at the department store while dominant at the bar.

It's not about relativity.
It is not about drama.
Forgiveness is about less ego, not more.

It's not about lack of rules, duh. You can sue a person to get your money back even after you forgive them.

It has nothing, NOTHING, to do with submissiveness. Duh. Warriors who forgive are stronger warriors who can fight harder and more focused. An angry warrior is a defeated warrior. A person who forgives and who needs to fight a battle has a lighter load and is more agile because they have thrown away their burden.

Forgiveness can improve mental and physical health
Research shows how to get there

One common but mistaken belief is that forgiveness means letting the person who hurt you off the hook. Yet forgiveness is not the same as justice, nor does it require reconciliation, Worthington explains. A former victim of abuse shouldn't reconcile with an abuser who remains potentially dangerous, for example. But the victim can still come to a place of empathy and understanding. "Whether I forgive or don't forgive isn't going to affect whether justice is done," Worthington says. "Forgiveness happens inside my skin."

... Research has shown that forgiveness is linked to mental health outcomes such as reduced anxiety, depression and major psychiatric disorders, as well as with fewer physical health symptoms and lower mortality rates. In fact, researchers have amassed enough evidence of the benefits of forgiveness to fill a book; Toussaint, Worthington and David R. Williams, PhD, edited a 2015 book, "Forgiveness and Health," that detailed the physical and psychological benefits.

... While stress relief is important, Enright believes there are other important mechanisms by which forgiveness works its magic. One of those, he suggests, is "toxic" anger. "There's nothing wrong with healthy anger, but when anger is very deep and long lasting, it can do a number on us systemically," he says. "When you get rid of anger, your muscles relax, you're less anxious, you have more energy, your immune system can strengthen."

2001. Tons of references even back then.

Understanding the Relationship Between State Forgiveness and Psychological Wellbeing: A Qualitative Study
The present study indicates that beyond reducing depression and anxiety, state forgiveness may be a key facilitator of general cognitive, emotional and social wellbeing outcomes.

A large list of peer-reviewed empirical studies.
August 30, 2018

The middle phase of the Fall of the Trump-Republican Empire has begun. The gloves have been off for

The gloves have been off for a couple of months now.

I've been noticing little things here and there.

I think the Trump-Republican Child Separations had a large impact on the psyche of Americans and something shifted as it was followed by Singapore and Helsinki. When a President fucks up Domestic and Foreign Policy simultaneously it gets noticed.

As the zeitgeist shifted, some in the media lost some of the fear and began pushing back. Plus the relentless attacks on the media may have reached a tipping point for them.

The gloves have been off for a couple of months now.

August 27, 2018

Continuing your analogy, perhaps we will change laws afterwards for the better.

Like reveal tax returns if you take even a penny contribution from any source, cash or in kind.

Like no lying in state for felons or convicted in the Senate.

Like put all income-earning assets, stocks, and businesses into a court appointed trustee rather than family.

Like national standards for vote systems, counting, security, and auditing. Verifiable paper ballots.

Like national simplified registration for voting, including on the day of.

I could go on before even getting into restoration of Obama's advances.

August 25, 2018

WH staff Mushroom Theory of tRump management.

White House staffers have found that if they keep him in the dark and feed him BS, he will tweet but will be less dangerous.

August 24, 2018

Depends on person & diet & type of drink. Study is balancing heart disease against cancer.

There seems to be evidence that moderate alcohol guards against heart disease but worsens cancer risk.

Some people are more prone to one risk than the other and should consider that.

Further, inflammation is a risk factor for both illnesses and the rest of the diet is very important.

Drinking alcohol on top of a redneck high animal fat / high red meat / high fructose / high processed food diet is probably a very bad idea because that diet is high in inflammation.

Drinking alcohol in moderation as part of a Mediterranean diet may be a net win to the extent that it include anti-inflammatories and anti-oxidants. It is better the more highly colored the fruit & veg and the less the food has been processed with additives and nutrition removed.

It is probably better to drink beer than wine and wine than liquor, since that is a progression of higher and higher processing.

I am not a nutritionist, nor do I pretend to be one. Do your own reading. I have done so.

Numerous peer-reviewed studies found evidence that people who have a drink or two a day are less likely to have heart disease than people who abstain or drink excessively.

But the new study, while noting the lower risks of heart disease from moderate drinking, as well as a dip in the diabetes rate in women, found that many other health risks offset and overwhelm the health benefits. That includes the risk of breast cancer, larynx cancer, stroke, cirrhosis, tuberculosis, interpersonal violence, self-harm and transportation accidents.

“Current and emerging scientific evidence does not suggest that there are overall health benefits from moderate drinking,” said Robert Brewer, who directs the alcohol program at the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention and was not involved in the new research. He pointed out that alcohol studies have long been dogged by “confounders” — factors that create a misleading impression of cause and effect.

“People who report drinking in moderation tend to be very different from people who don’t drink at all. They tend to be a healthier population, they tend to exercise more, they tend to be more affluent, they tend to have more access to health care,” Brewer said.
August 24, 2018

Modern economies like USA, Canada, Mexico & China are so interwoven that

... that a product might have bits and pieces from all four by time final assembly is finished.

Canadian steel is used for parts made in the US put into cars built in Canada and sold in the US.


US steel is used for parts made in Canada put into cars built in the US and sold in Canada.

Tariffs on any one part will disrupt and maybe even interrupt the chain. They can only increase prices and cost jobs everywhere.

August 23, 2018

Yes, in theory, but in practice you only get one shot at the king (metaphoricaly). It would fail now

If you tried now, it wouldn't even get out of committee, because RubleCons. And then you'd be done. Any RubleCon Senator allies or leaners would shy away and be even less ready to help.

The American public has no stomach for repeated impeachments.

By all means make ENABLING and ACCOUNTABILITY issues and character issues in the election. But "impeachment" per se must bide it's time until the (one) shot (metaphorical) can be fired with full force and find its mark square on and be effective.

August 23, 2018

An unclear contentious area of health research, but "pure poison" reflects older research

I've been watching this for several years and it is still not clear but I am leaning slightly in favor of things like MCT Medium Chain Triglyceride Coconut Oil.

Not simply HDL v LDL; there are several kinds of LDL including VLDL. There are plasma lipoprotein particles classified as HDL, LDL, IDL, VLDL and ULDL, and the LDL come in at least two different sizes.

The key seems to be inflammation rather than cholesterol. So eating lots of anti-inflammatories (Omega-3, fruits, berries , vegetables, and anti-oxidants) and reducing inflammatories like sugar and omega-6. The more colorful the food (outside of meat) the better, it seems generally but not always of course.

A Doctor Explains Why Saturated Fat In Coconut Oil Isn't A Problem
By Mark Hyman, M.D. Functional Medicine Doctor

Studies show saturated fat raises LDL, yet it also raises HDL ("good" cholesterol). On the other hand, sugar lowers HDL. Ultimately, the ratio of total cholesterol to LDL cholesterol better predicts heart attacks than LDL on its own. Coconut oil can contain up to 40 percent saturated fat, yet interestingly, countries with the highest intakes of coconut oil have the lowest rates of heart disease.

While some research shows coconut oil contains higher amounts of saturated fat and does increase total cholesterol, those amounts do not increase our heart attack or stroke risk. In fact, one study among lean, heart-disease- and stroke-free Pacific Islanders who consumed up to 63 percent of their calories from coconut fat found total cholesterol rose but so did their "good" HDL.

I have a link from 2009 by the same doctor, so it is not something new, but there is increasingly research supporting him.

Heart disease is not caused by high cholesterol so taking statins is 'waste of time', research finds

At least two types of LDL

August 16, 2018

Purism leads to powerlessness. The perfect is the enemy of the good. What-about-ism suffocation.

Everytime somebody says something good or does something good, there is always a naysayer who pops up and says "What about this awful thing that happened? They are forever tainted and I won't listen and they can do no good. Cover my ears. La-la-la-la-la"

Such what-about-ism is the suffocation and strangulation of important messages that need to be heard, such as the OP editorial.

August 1, 2018

The two actions are not equivalent, of course. But here is how to refute attempts like that

1) Trump's campaign coordinated with the Russians via WikiLeaks, Guccifer, Stone, Carter Page, possibly Manafort, etc., including a public call from a rally podium.

2) Trump offered quid pro quo (sanctions relief, better relations).

3) Trump family and Trump campaign chief met with Russian agents in June 2016, at Trump Tower, yards away from Trump who was also in the Tower at the time and may have been listening in on speaker phone.

4) Clinton did not seek info from the Russians. Her campaign (or DNC maybe?) got a law firm to do research. The firm contracted with a research company (Fusion GPS). That company hired a company in the UK (Steele). Steele asked his contacts in Russia and Russian influenced areas. They were not Russian agents and were four steps or more removed from Hillary.

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Canadian who lived for many years in Northern California and left a bit of my heart there. (note to self: https: //images.dailykos.com/images/1043361/original/2016.09.19_sunflowers_header.jpg . https://i.imgur.com/1VKgdmc.jpeg)

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