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haele's Journal
haele's Journal
July 31, 2021

I want cake.

I want a slice of lemony (not really tangy, but with that light lemon freshness) 3- layered chiffon cake filled with raspberries and hand whipped cream. Powdered sugar with maybe some candied violets and lemon peel on top. Just like the one I made for a casual wedding 30 years ago off my Great-grandfather's 1910's recipe notes.

That or a large parfait glass filled with a tin roof sundae. Lots of hot fudge and fresh cranked vanilla ice cream.

Youngsters don't know how good special treats like those were back in the day. I was just considering treating the family, but my hands are beginning to fail me and the granddaughters are fighting us over dish-washing.
They just don't understand how good home made is when using fresh ingredients. "Let's go pick up instead..."
Like you can get a good Tin Roof sundae with real ice cream and non-plastic spray can whipped cream at Dairy Queen.

I hate growing old and getting arthritis...


July 16, 2021

Somewhat serious - how long does it typically take...

To correct a social security/ birth certificate discrepancy?
Background - slacker soon to be ex-son in law's parents did not coordinate when they signed him up for a social security number. The birth certificate had a hyphenated maternal/paternal last name, and his father's parents took guardianship of him immediately, didn't use the birth certificate but used his hospital discharge papers with the paternal last name only to get his SSN. He was able to get through 26 years of school and get a driver's licence and jobs (mostly under the table) without presenting his birth certificate.
He says he tried getting a Real ID when he let his drivers license renewal lapse for a year, and the system finally caught up with him. His DL and SSN are now flagged and he can't use either, or file his taxes (would be for the first time in his life), or get a job, or as he finally admitted, a COVID shot, even though he still has his expired DL and his old SSN card, and I know people who got shots with expired licences.

Supposedly, he put in the paperwork for the official name change on the BC last November, got the updated BC in January and now he says he's filed to the name change with the Government back in February and is just waiting on Social Security to update his file or something like that to get the SSN flag taken off.

I don't think name changes at Social Security takes that long, and the whole SSN flag issue seems suspicious. AKA changes and Marriage name changes don't take 6 months or longer, nor have I ever heard of someone being flagged when they're in the middle of such name changes.

Since his whole family are well-off GOP/Trumper types with a nasty streak of "laws don't apply to us" (i.e., Orange County Republicans), I suspect the entire story is a lie, and he's just being the sorry slacker his family raised and never put in any paperwork.
So I'm asking, is 6 months a legit amount of time to wait on a name change reconciliation with Social Security?

Would someone's SSN be flagged and unable to be used just trying to get a driver's license renewal? When spouse's DL expired and he waited too long, they gave him a choice between regular old DL or a RealID, and didn't make a fuss about his documents.


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