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Tue Nov 6, 2018, 05:33 AM

13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do

13 Things Mentally Strong People Donít Do
~by Amy Morin, LCSW

Mentally strong people have healthy habits. They manage their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors in ways that set them up for success in life. Check out these things that mentally strong people donít do so that you too can become more mentally strong.

1. They Donít Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves

Mentally strong people donít sit around feeling sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them. Instead, they take responsibility for their role in life and understand that life isnít always easy or fair.

2. They Donít Give Away Their Power

13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do The Wall Street Journal BestSellerThey donít allow others to control them, and they donít give someone else power over them. They donít say things like, ďMy boss makes me feel bad,Ē because they understand that they are in control over their own emotions and they have a choice in how they respond.

3. They Donít Shy Away from Change

Mentally strong people donít try to avoid change. Instead, they welcome positive change and are willing to be flexible. They understand that change is inevitable and believe in their abilities to adapt.

4. They Donít Waste Energy on Things They Canít Control

You wonít hear a mentally strong person complaining over lost luggage or traffic jams. Instead, they focus on what they can control in their lives. They recognize that sometimes, the only thing they can control is their attitude.

5. They Donít Worry About Pleasing Everyone

Mentally strong people recognize that they donít need to please everyone all the time. Theyíre not afraid to say no or speak up when necessary. They strive to be kind and fair, but can handle other people being upset if they didnít make them happy.

6. They Donít Fear Taking Calculated Risks

They donít take reckless or foolish risks, but donít mind taking calculated risks. Mentally strong people spend time weighing the risks and benefits before making a big decision, and theyíre fully informed of the potential downsides before they take action.

7. They Donít Dwell on the Past

Mentally strong people donít waste time dwelling on the past and wishing things could be different. They acknowledge their past and can say what theyíve learned from it. However, they donít constantly relive bad experiences or fantasize about the glory days. Instead, they live for the present and plan for the future.

More at link:
https://amymorinlcsw.com/mentally-strong-people/

Print copy of article: https://www.amymorinlcsw.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/13-Things-Mentally-Strong-People-Dont-Do-by-Amy-Morin.pdf

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13 THINGS MENTALLY STRONG PEOPLE DONíT DO
By Amy Morin
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Additional article:

10 Strategies to Make Yourself Mentally Stronger

When most people set out to become fitter in the New Year, they're thinking about their physical fitness: Getting in better physical shape tops the list of New Year's resolutions. According to a Nielson survey, 37 percent of people aim to stay fit and healthy in the new year, while 32 percent of people want to lose weight. Sadly, most people will never achieve those goals. Statistically speaking, only about 8 percent of people keep their resolution.

If more people focused on their mental fitness, however, they'd likely become more successful in achieving the goals they set for themselvesóphysical fitness or otherwise. After all, your body won't do what your mind doesn't tell it. Building mental muscle is the key to self-discipline, delayed gratification, grit, and perseverance. And those are the skills you need to become the best physical and mental version of yourself.

1. I will spend at least 15 minutes a day in quiet reflection.

A few minutes of quiet time gives you an opportunity to reflect on your progress and think about what you want to do better. Schedule a few minutes every day to recharge your batteries with a little bit of solitude. It will help you gain clarity and renew your motivation to reach your goals.

2. I will do at least one tough thing every week.

Whether you sign up for a photography class or join toastmasters, do something that forces you to step outside your comfort zone. Facing your fears head-on can shift the way you see yourself. Rather than assume you need to avoid hard things because you might fail or because you can't tolerate the stress, you'll chip away at your self-limiting beliefs.

3. I'll write in a gratitude journal.

Write down three things you're grateful for every day and you'll change the way you see the world. Studies link gratitude to a multitude of benefits, from better sleep to reduced psychological distress. It only takes a few minutes each day, but it's an easy way to boost your mental strength.

More at link.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/what-mentally-strong-people-dont-do/201701/10-strategies-make-yourself-mentally-stronger

♡ lmsp

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littlemissmartypants Nov 2018 OP
Sherman A1 Nov 2018 #1
littlemissmartypants Nov 2018 #3
secondwind Nov 2018 #2
littlemissmartypants Nov 2018 #4
empedocles Nov 2018 #5
littlemissmartypants Nov 2018 #14
duhneece Nov 2018 #6
littlemissmartypants Nov 2018 #11
llmart Nov 2018 #7
littlemissmartypants Nov 2018 #12
Martin Eden Nov 2018 #8
littlemissmartypants Nov 2018 #13
Tobin S. Nov 2018 #9
littlemissmartypants Nov 2018 #10
TexasBushwhacker Jun 2019 #16
hunter Nov 2018 #15

Response to littlemissmartypants (Original post)

Tue Nov 6, 2018, 06:03 AM

1. Thanks for posting

I enjoy TED Talks as I ride the exercise bike in the early morning in my quiet time before Mrs. Sherman A1 gets up.

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Response to Sherman A1 (Reply #1)

Tue Nov 6, 2018, 06:19 AM

3. I like watching them too. Unfortunately my exercise bike is in need of some maintenance.

So, I won't be exercising but I'd like to be. Thanks for the reply. Keep the faith.

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Response to littlemissmartypants (Original post)

Tue Nov 6, 2018, 06:12 AM

2. Thankful for this!!

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Response to secondwind (Reply #2)

Tue Nov 6, 2018, 06:21 AM

4. I'm so glad. I'm thankful that you're thankful, secondwind.

I hope you have a great day!

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Response to littlemissmartypants (Original post)

Tue Nov 6, 2018, 06:46 AM

5. Made a copy. Thanks

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Response to empedocles (Reply #5)

Fri Nov 9, 2018, 12:19 PM

14. You're welcome, empedocles.

Thanks for the reply.

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Response to littlemissmartypants (Original post)

Tue Nov 6, 2018, 08:37 AM

6. Today I work as Poll Challenger

Tomorrow we celebrate our wins.
Thursday, we are back to work...remembering what you've shared with us.
Thank you.

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Response to duhneece (Reply #6)

Fri Nov 9, 2018, 12:02 PM

11. Thank you, duhneece.

We tried our best and the next two years will go by faster than we think. I'm ready to go again. Having a sense of purpose is good for the soul.

Keep the faith.

♡ lmsp

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Response to littlemissmartypants (Original post)

Tue Nov 6, 2018, 08:37 AM

7. Great article.

I have bookmarked it as a daily reminder. For me, #2 is the most important for me to remember. I have found that as I age, it's more difficult for me to get outside of my comfort zone even though historically I've been someone who doesn't fear much. I do #3 quite often as I have so much to be grateful for.

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Response to llmart (Reply #7)

Fri Nov 9, 2018, 12:04 PM

12. Thanks for the reply, llmart.

I'm glad you enjoyed the article and find it useful.

♡ lmsp

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Response to littlemissmartypants (Original post)

Tue Nov 6, 2018, 08:42 AM

8. They don't waste energy on things they can't control

That's the only point I take some issue with.

Many millions believe they can't control what our government does and that may be true from an individual standpoint, but real positive change requires people to fight the good fight for causes which logically seem futile and hopeless.

Even in failure, their example may provide inspiration for others who follow. This applies to more than just US elections. Jews in the Warsaw ghetto had no chance against the Nazis, but who among us think they didn't make the strong intelligent choice?

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Response to Martin Eden (Reply #8)

Fri Nov 9, 2018, 12:18 PM

13. I understand your position, Martin Eden.

The myth of Sysiphus speaks to many people for that very reason. Though intended as a punishment, the hope that persistence itself, may at some point become the reward, may be why we persist, even in the absence of control.

Thanks for the reply.

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Response to littlemissmartypants (Original post)

Thu Nov 8, 2018, 04:27 PM

9. I know you meant well, but there are negative implications here.

And that is that mentally ill people are weak. Another implication that's a negative stereotype of the mentally ill is that they can somehow think their way out of what ails them. Those two things are implied in the material you've posted in OP.

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Response to Tobin S. (Reply #9)

Fri Nov 9, 2018, 11:58 AM

10. I don't agree with your bias. But you are certainly entitled to

Your interpretation of the article. Thanks for the reply, Tobin S.

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Response to Tobin S. (Reply #9)

Sun Jun 2, 2019, 03:07 PM

16. Yes, I was disappointed with my therapist this week

He's a Cognitive Behavioral Therapist and said his goal was to get me off all psychoactive medications. While that sounds nice, I've been on various antidepressants for 40 years. I had a depressed mother and a bipolar father, so I got a genetic double whammy. I think his goal is unrealistic and told him so. I'll do my best with diet, exercise and CBT techniques, but I'm in no hurry to quit medication. Every time I've tried, I've crashed.

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Response to littlemissmartypants (Original post)

Fri Nov 16, 2018, 10:15 PM

15. Looks like I'm a total failure when it comes to "Mentally Strong."

But I've accepted that.

I've seen too many people crash and burn, sometimes fatally, striving to be "strong."

My mom has always been a promoter of the "whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger" meme, and maybe as an octogenarian she might know something, but I abandoned that guilt a long time ago in a 'seventies dumpster behind the Taco Bell.

Free food!


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