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Sun Dec 16, 2018, 11:34 PM

Could use some positive thoughts prayer and info

Tomorrow I will head across our mountain passes to have hip surgery on Tuesday.
I chose a doctor on the other side of the mountains because he was much more approachable than the local surgeon I met with.
So the fact that I am not a good traveler (sometimes have to take xanex just for the trip as the passenger of course I can't even drive on the coast at all. It stresses me out . tells you how much the decision to go that way means. I am fairly young for the surgery (55)
I have done research and know that hip surgery ( I am having anterior) generally goes well. But still I am nervous. Such as what if I have some unknown health thing that would effect the anesthesia?
So much has gone wrong lately I feel like I'm under a black cloud. Such as my youngest son had a stroke, then after not catching multiple colds etc this year even when family and co workers where dropping like fly's. Just when I had to go in three weeks ago and start the tests to ok me for surgery I caught a cold just getting over that and the stomach bug that came in the middle and a few other things that have gone on. It feels like something is saying "Don't do it"
So I could use some positive thoughts, prayers, and for those who have either had the surgery or had loved ones that have is this normal anxiety ( mostly I know people that have had the hip surgery say they wish they had not waited so long) I haven't talked to them about the pre-worry thing.


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Reply Could use some positive thoughts prayer and info (Original post)
thinkingagain Dec 2018 OP
Turbineguy Dec 2018 #1
Marie Marie Dec 2018 #2
Ohiogal Dec 2018 #3
Glamrock Dec 2018 #4
dawg day Dec 2018 #5
thinkingagain Dec 2018 #6
Stuart G Dec 2018 #7
Staph Dec 2018 #8
Freedomofspeech Dec 2018 #9
Olafjoy Dec 2018 #10
efhmc Dec 2018 #11
2naSalit Dec 2018 #12
Stonepounder Dec 2018 #13
PatrickforO Dec 2018 #14
deurbano Dec 2018 #15
grantcart Dec 2018 #16
Hamlette Dec 2018 #17
sprinkleeninow Dec 2018 #18
applegrove Dec 2018 #19

Response to thinkingagain (Original post)

Sun Dec 16, 2018, 11:40 PM

1. Good vibes and positive thoughts.

One of my firends is having a big operation tomorrow.

There's room for both.

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Sun Dec 16, 2018, 11:49 PM

2. Wishing you all the best for a successful surgery and speedy recovery.

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Sun Dec 16, 2018, 11:51 PM

3. Here's hoping

your luck changes for the better very soon!

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Sun Dec 16, 2018, 11:51 PM

4. I've had a grandmother that had her hips done.

No big deal up and around in no time. Very little pain.
My MIL had her hips done. Same thing.
My dad had 1 knee replaced. Not a big deal. 2nd knee replaced. Fucking brutal, man.
My mom had her shoulder replaced, again just brutal.

Should hopefully put things in perspective. Especially since Booshy (slang for Busha, polish/american for grandma) was in her 70's. And my crazy ass mother in law was in her mid 60's.

You're gonna be fine, man. Just fine. And yeah, I'm sending out good vibes as we speak. Good luck, baby. God luck. And here's to speedy recovery!

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Sun Dec 16, 2018, 11:53 PM

5. I hope you're home soon and walking well!

Surgery is always scary! But you'll do great. You will feel so much better in a few weeks. You'll be walking without pain and getting back to your regular life!

Just a few more days to get through-- you can do it. Hang in there and let the doctors take charge now. You'll be home soon, and you'll feel much better. We're pulling for you!
Let us know when you're feeling up to it.

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Mon Dec 17, 2018, 12:04 AM

6. Thank you

Iím off to bed was up half night last night with a feverish grand baby
But I thank you all for your post I will keep reading them when I need a pick me up

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Mon Dec 17, 2018, 12:07 AM

7. I have had both hips surgically fixed..Yes, both of them..

I speak from experience. It is doable and something you can get through. I have had other surgeries too, and the hip surgery was not the worse. The heart surgery was the worst.
..Recovery form hip surgery requires patience and endurance..Most important is the attitude that I will not give up. Healing takes time. It is not instant. We heal more slowly as we age, but we do heal. Also, hundreds of thousands have had this surgery, and completely recovered with no real consequences.
..I have no trouble climbing stairs, bending, exercising, walking, getting up from a chair, or getting up from a good nights sleep. I do need to exercise more, but what I do are the easiest of exercises. Like leg lifts, minor sit ups, working with one and two pound weights for the arms, and so on. Your physical therapist will show you some easy ones..
...The anxiety before is totally normal. I have had it for all of my surgeries. But, I have survived and grown through them. After surgery, we heal and have less anxiety as we strengthen and heal the muscles after surgery. Please...be patient....It is worth it...
............But healing and strengthening takes time...............Yes, it is worth it, but it takes time to heal....
............Do not give up. The pain lessons and goes away with healing and time...
..........................GOOD LUCK, TODAY AND EVERY DAY......STUART G.

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Mon Dec 17, 2018, 12:15 AM

8. My mom had a hip replacement about 8 years ago.

She was in her late 80s at the time, and she's still alive and kicking! (Okay, maybe not kicking, but she is 95 years old! She has balance issues unrelated to the hip, but a cane or walker or rollator helps with that.)

You'll be fine. As someone with health issues, I know that maintaining a positive attitude can really help with recovery. Listen to your favorite music, watch a funny movie or television show, read a cheery book while you're in recovery. I got through chemotherapy listening to a British radio comedy series called Cabin Pressure. Escaping your problems by letting your mind go somewhere else works wonders for me.

I wish you well!


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Mon Dec 17, 2018, 12:22 AM

9. All the best to you....

Lots of good vibes.

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Mon Dec 17, 2018, 12:38 AM

10. I'm praying for you!

I have a good feeling about this for you. Anesthesia is much shorter acting than it used to be. You will do great. Make sure everyone washes their hands before looking at the surgical site. Wishing for tremendous success for you 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

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Mon Dec 17, 2018, 12:47 AM

11. Best of luck.

I hope that all goes well.

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Mon Dec 17, 2018, 01:37 AM

12. It's normal to have these feelings

on the day or week prior to a major thing, like the surgery you are having. It's okay to have them, but get beyond them knowing that it's all going to be fine, just relax. The advice above looks like you could find comfort in it... don't worry, you've done your homework, you'll be feeling better soon.

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Mon Dec 17, 2018, 02:04 AM

13. I had open heart surgery at about your age.

Triple bypass, a MAZE procedure to correct afib, and a couple of clots removed. My heart was stopped for about 8 hours. I can't say it was a whole lot of fun, and recovery took a bit, but 15 years later the doctors still say that if I didn't have that scar down my chest they wouldn't believe there had every been anything wrong with my heart.

No one will say that surgery is fun, but they have come so far in the last generation it is a miracle. And remember, anesthesiology is a medical specialty - one guy who does nothing other than to make sure that everything is going correctly with the gas passing.

Sending good vibes your way and let us know how it goes.

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Mon Dec 17, 2018, 02:30 AM

14. You've got it. Thoughts and prayers.

It isn't exactly going to be a snap, but you're right - most people do just fine.

When the chips are down, you gotta think positively. I mean, think of everything you have to be grateful for - if you aren't hungry, have a roof over your head, mostly make ends meet every month, don't have a terminal illness, can drive yourself, have good people who care about you - hey, you've got everything.

And, after the surgery, you'll feel better, walk better, and wonder why you didn't do it sooner.

Good luck, and chin up! I'm sensing joy in your near future...

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Mon Dec 17, 2018, 02:31 AM

15. Best wishes for an uneventful surgery and speedy and full recovery!

I am full of anxiety, and always wondering (like every time I or a loved gets on an plane, which is actually pretty frequently) if i am having a "premonition" since I'm invariably gripped by a feeling of doom and dread at some point before takeoff. (Yet here I am... knock on wood, knock on wood.) Again, BEST wishes!

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Mon Dec 17, 2018, 02:44 AM

16. You do not journey alone.

Through the miracle of modern telecommunications you take hundreds of friends from DU with you in your smart phone.

Life is not easy but it is precious.

The Hubble Telescope has given us thousands of pictures of beautiful galaxies, stars, planets but none of them rival the beauty of earth. Get better so you can once again enjoy walking in this gorgeous rock.

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Mon Dec 17, 2018, 02:45 AM

17. I had hip replacement at age 45

I'm now 68 and it was by far the easiest surgery I've ever had. I was back at work in 10 days. I could have gone sooner if I'd had a desk job. Ive had 2 other hip surgeries and a knee replacement. Even though I was younger for the other two hip surgeries, they were much harder than replacement.

My advice is get moving as soon as you can. And although you will resist it, move as much as you can. You lose muscle mass and movement more quickly at your age. (I had my knee done 3 months ago and am still working on it.)

The pre surgery anxiety is the worst. I've had a lot of it. Listen to a book on tape, if its not too late to get one. Tell yourself to just concentrate on the plot, nothing else.

Good luck, I'll be thinking of you. You'll be fine.

edited to add: when you get to the hospital, surgical center, they will give you something to calm your nerves. It's like magic. All your worries will go away.

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Mon Dec 17, 2018, 02:48 AM

18. You've had a lot on you at one time. I don't know why these things clump together.

I had a quadruple whammy since Nov.1. Dislocated shoulder, still not right, then bad tooth hurting, subsided, bad left side back, thot it was a disc acting up, then this hideous upper/lower respiratory. New doc wouldn't prescribe antibiotics till my husband then I called next day breaking down wailing. I know my body and did not want to go into a worse bacterial infection. He did, then two days later another doc on call heard my plea for a stronger one and came thru. Sheesh. The new fangled medical practice.

Anyway, take heart. Get the other crises behind you and think of YOU and you alone at this time. Having apprehension is normal for uncharted territory. What you are experiencing. You are in my heart and will be in my intercessions to the Lord God. He cares even for the little sparrow, and is always with YOU!

Will PM you for your first name only for prayer? Orthodox Christians pray the given first name in praying for all.

Love in Christ..💙 🕯

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Mon Dec 17, 2018, 04:34 AM

19. My mom had a hip replaced and she never complained of pain in that hip again.

It will be fine.

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