History of Feminism
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very good GD thread. http://www.democraticunderground.com/10021424175
i was not aware of this on facebook. i do not use it. my kids do not. my husband doesnt. we do not participate in this crap cause i feel it normalizes negative behaviors and i do not want my kids to learn these behaviors are acceptable. but, if this is just not a huge part of the problem we as a people have as a whole, but particularly our girls and women. normalizing the misogyny. letting it become a part of who we are. and the people that accept, allow, participate. we say no to racism and homophobia. and we say, meh.... to misogyny.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/soraya-chemaly/12-year-old-slut-meme-and_b_1911056.html
whathehell
(29,050 posts)as it makes clear the very obvious Misogyny problem in this country.
I don't want to hear the knee-jerk "freedom of speech", rap, either, as to paraphrase writer Susan Brownmiller,
substitute "African American" for "Woman" and "Nigger" for "Slut" and these pictures and ugly "sentiments"
would immediately be seen as Bigotry and Hate Speech and condemmed accodingly.
Since females are, on average, 60 lbs lighter and at least three inches smaller, than men,
they are, on an INDIVIDUAL level, every BIT as vulnerable as racial and sexual minorities. That being the case, as a group, they deserve as much "concern" and Progressive
Condemnation as the hate speech directed at Racial Minorities and Gay men, who, though "vulnerable" as a
Group, are often FAR more able to protect themselves on an Individual PHYSICAL level than Women.
As Katha Pollit of the Nation says, "Misogyny is the last acceptable prejudice of the Left".
Tumbulu
(6,272 posts)But I cannot read the entire post as it really upsets me.
My goodness, what terrible things to be "liking" on facebook! Or anywhere else.
I blame Rush Limbagh for this and porn. Both.
whathehell
(29,050 posts)is the main reason I re-considered a decision to get a grad degree in women's studies: I
realized I'd be immersed in that shit and would find it intolerable.
God bless the steely courage of feminists like Susan Brownmiller of "Against Our Will"
and Catherine McKinnon who, along with the late Andrea Dworkin, actually wrote up legislation
in Minnesota that submitted that Pornography was legally objectionable, not because it was "obscene",
but because it diminished women's Fourth Amendment rights to Equality. It didn't pass, of course,
but it opened up the subject from a new and interesting perspective.
redqueen
(115,103 posts)Hear fucking hear!!!!
And some of us are fucking SICK TO DEATH of it.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)whathehell
(29,050 posts)And yes, LOTS of us are fucking SICK of it!
redqueen
(115,103 posts)and we see evidence to back up her assertion here on DU on a depressingly regular basis.
whathehell
(29,050 posts)are these (to me) strange women -- mostly young, I think -- who seem to have NO
concept of feminism!...They're on here, talking the old lefty talk and that's good,
but I have no idea WHY or HOW, with that, they grew up both defending and PRACTICING
sexism against themselves and other women.
Well, I mean I have SOME idea -- they've been dragged into the misogynistic culture simply by osmosis,
or they are VERY anxious to "please men"....My older sister, interestingly enough, has that problem and
though I wouldn't call her "sexist", she does seem a bit "clueless" about feminism even THOUGH,
by virtue of her professional accomplishments (she's a judge and went through law school in the 80's) she's
The New Woman Incarnate. Myself, I'm kind of an "underacheiver" by comparison.
This get's into another realm, but I'm curious about something and that is, how many here who would call
themselves strong feminists, were, as kids, "daddy's girls"?...I certainly was, and I read once that girls who
were (as opposed to "mother's daughters", like my sister) tend to be natural feminists...I think it's an interesting
observation and would love to hear from people about ALL of this!
redqueen
(115,103 posts)In my family it's definitely the opposite. My sister was daddy's girl and bought into objectification as natural. I was mommy's girl and I resisted femininity, but bought into it eventually, got all the rewards but had my eyes opened by a good lefty display of misogyny, and that ended that little illusion.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)Mom. I was the youngest and only girl. My world has been boys and men.
whathehell
(29,050 posts)I'm also the youngest, no brothers, just one older sister.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)diplomacy being the youngest.
MadrasT
(7,237 posts)Yes, women who defend and practice sexism puzzle me completely. My only explanation is that they do it for male approval.
Regarding the daddy's girl thing... hmmm... I was pretty disconnected from both my parents. I'd say I got my feminist streak almost entirely from my mother. She wouldn't let me have a Barbie doll (because she thought she was a crappy role model), had a fit when my grandmother gave me an EZ Bake oven (because it was so stereotypically 'woman in the kitchen') and it went on from there.
whathehell
(29,050 posts)It's too bad you felt disconnected from both of your parents...Your mother
sounds cool, at least in the feminist zone, as it were. I think it's great
that she thought Barbie a "crappy role model", same with the EZ bake...You're
probably substantially younger than me, 'cause no one even used the word "role mode"
when I was growing up in the fifties and early sixties.
MadrasT
(7,237 posts)Mom was tossing "role model" around in the early 70s, and no way was she raising me to be anyone's wife or "accessory". She taught me to cook and sew because they are practical skills. She also taught me how to change a tire and patch drywall and read when I was 3 and do algebra when I was 7.
It was a tough childhood (emotionally) but my parents and I have made peace and it is OK now.
(I can't believe I am typing "I am almost 50"... how did that happen?)
I loved that EZ bake oven. Before microwaves I used it to heat up Tater Tots for snacks. Mmmmm, Tater Tots.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)i always wanted the easy bake, and never got one.
redqueen
(115,103 posts)is that the members of the group targeted by the bigoted material should just avert their eyes and ignore it?
I can't think of any other examples.
If you can step back and look at it without getting into an internal uproar, it is a fascinating sociological phenomenon. Hard to be that detached though, when it affects, oh heck, half the world's population, and when you're one of those affected.
The thing is, ignoring it (or playing the lofty "well I'm not offended" game) doesn't mean it isn't happening.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)they didnt shut up either.
and cheers to them.
lighten up....
redqueen
(115,103 posts)but it did happen at least once? I'd love to have seen that exchange. I can only imagine the shock.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)meh.... my bad. but, i was glad to see people not allowing the shut up and quit being victim meme.
MadrasT
(7,237 posts)And if you tell any other oppressed group to lighten up or ignore derogatory language on DU, you're OMG horrible and likely tombstoned if you keep it up. (Rightly so.)
Women are the only ones who get told to STFU and lighten up, and have to endure it.
"MILF", har har har
All too often, BY OTHER WOMEN.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)when i read the other forum, i am not hearing a lot of different language, or threads that would be no different than what we post.
so i see it more as a surface issue, not within contradiction between the two groups.
after all the time paying attention to this, and listening to a lot of women over the last half year, i am questioning how different we feel about the issues. bottomline feel. not the unique individual situations but as a whole.
whathehell
(29,050 posts)I just got done being NOT impressed by Jay-z or whatever the ef his name is,
saying "Being bigoted about gays is just as bad as being bigoted against Blacks".
I answered "Yes, Jay-Z, and being bigoted against women is just as bad as being bigoted against EITHER,
so maybe rap music could stop with the B word now"?
Someone named Harmonicon said "Well, is there some indication that he IS biased against women"?
and then added that he probably "pays" women well for their work and they "make money" from his music.
I answered "If he addresses women as "bitch' or calls them that as a synonym for woman, he's bigoted.
Harmonicon then basically accused me of "censorship", but WickerWoman came in to set him straight.
Otherwise, most everyone shut up, even though it has 33 recs...Any of this sound familiar?
You can see for yourself. http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1137&pid=20501
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)i am not jumpin in. too tired and off to read some fiction....
very frustrating that conversation.