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MineralMan

(146,286 posts)
Wed May 11, 2016, 08:18 PM May 2016

"Good Girl!" is what I say to my cat as I skritch her behind the ears.

It is not something I would ever say to any adult women, especially not a U. S. Senator or someone being considered for any high office. I would not say it to my wife, my 90-year-old mother or my 20-something second cousin.

It is dismissive thing to call any woman, IMO. I'm surprised that anyone would use such a term.

We are on the brink of nominating a woman to run for President. She is not a "girl." Women are not "girls" unless they choose to call themselves that among their friends. Women are not called "girls" by anyone not intimately known to them once they enter the adult world and take responsibility for their own lives.

Such an appellation is outrageous upon utterance.

That is my opinion as a 70 year old man. It is a firm opinion.

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"Good Girl!" is what I say to my cat as I skritch her behind the ears. (Original Post) MineralMan May 2016 OP
This message was self-deleted by its author MineralMan May 2016 #1
"and I am unanimous in that" nt msongs May 2016 #2
love the word skritch -- thanks, may borrow it oldandhappy May 2016 #3
This needed another thread to further fan the flames? Electric Monk May 2016 #4
I did reply there. MineralMan May 2016 #6
Thank you. When women are referred to as girls it's like nails on a chalkboard for me. betsuni May 2016 #5
Thats pretty far down the scale on the outrage-o-meter tularetom May 2016 #7
I disagree, obviously. MineralMan May 2016 #8
Oh well. Such is life in the soap opera Autumn May 2016 #9
As the Hillary turns Mnpaul May 2016 #10
How to Survive a Hillary! General Hillary!! Autumn May 2016 #12
I'm not outraged. MineralMan May 2016 #11
We can all post on DU when we choose. Autumn May 2016 #13
Ridiculous whatchamacallit May 2016 #14
Oh brother. AirmensMom May 2016 #15
LOL trumad May 2016 #17
If calling a woman "girl" upsets you Mnpaul May 2016 #16
I find ponies in the Bernie forum... trumad May 2016 #18
Nope Mnpaul May 2016 #21
You seriously are looking foolish. Nt Logical May 2016 #19
I'm sure your cat doesn't appreciate your condescending, homo-supremicst jack_krass May 2016 #20

Response to MineralMan (Original post)

 

Electric Monk

(13,869 posts)
4. This needed another thread to further fan the flames?
Wed May 11, 2016, 08:35 PM
May 2016

You could have simply replied here, like most other DUers felt was the appropriate way to deal with it http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1251&pid=1943399

MineralMan

(146,286 posts)
6. I did reply there.
Wed May 11, 2016, 08:53 PM
May 2016

I also thought it deserved more comment, so I posted this OP. I'm very sorry that didn't seem necessary to you. Perhaps I should have asked you first...

betsuni

(25,462 posts)
5. Thank you. When women are referred to as girls it's like nails on a chalkboard for me.
Wed May 11, 2016, 08:37 PM
May 2016

Don't know why some people think the two words have the same meaning.

tularetom

(23,664 posts)
7. Thats pretty far down the scale on the outrage-o-meter
Wed May 11, 2016, 08:54 PM
May 2016

Wasn't there anything a bit more, um, substantial, to get pissed off about today?

My two granddaughters, age 30 and 34, are and will always be "the girls" to grandma and myself. although we are fully conscious of the fact that they are professional women and mothers with families of their own and a full range of adult responsibilities.

On the plus side, I join the other poster in offering props for your use of the verb "to skritch". I suspect my cat wants a nice head skritch and thats why she's sitting by my chair looking sad as I type this.

MineralMan

(146,286 posts)
8. I disagree, obviously.
Wed May 11, 2016, 08:58 PM
May 2016

Clearly, terms of endearment within families are an exception. I doubt that anyone on DU has such a relationship with a woman who is a U.S Senator though.

whatchamacallit

(15,558 posts)
14. Ridiculous
Wed May 11, 2016, 09:08 PM
May 2016

I know women who collectively call their friends "the girls". What about calling men boys? "Good old boys", "Boy's club"... Anyway, why would being called a girl be an insult? Are girls inferior?

AirmensMom

(14,642 posts)
15. Oh brother.
Wed May 11, 2016, 09:45 PM
May 2016


I really love it when men try to explain shit like this. I suppose there are no "attaboys" or "attagirls" allowed in your vocabulary either, which I interpret "Good Girl" to be, although I personally have never heard anyone say, "attaman" or "attawoman" and have gratefully accepted "attagirls" when offered. Silly me for not scolding the person for not referring to me as a woman while they were singing my praises. For shame! Alas, I am a little too uppity to get offended by such nonsense. Go head and call me a girl. My friends and I do it with each other, after all. That would be my girlfriends. Doesn't that just flow off the tongue so much better than woman friends (or is it women friends?)? I am fully aware that I'm a woman. Funny how that works, huh?

I actually enjoyed your grammar and spelling lectures. Perhaps you should resume them instead of getting yourself into a tizzy (was that sexist?) over things like this. It's just silly (was that sexist too? I never know...).

 

jack_krass

(1,009 posts)
20. I'm sure your cat doesn't appreciate your condescending, homo-supremicst
Wed May 11, 2016, 11:06 PM
May 2016

Misogynistic felinaphobic behavior.

Your appellation is an outrageous utterance too, felinaphobe!

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