Dear Abby, in January, I sent an invitation to my friend to meet for dinner on April 14th.

[Luminous Animal]

She never responded. In the months since, other friends were organizing an amazing celebration. Well, now my friend is demanding that I meet her for dinner even though she never committed to my invitation.

She is trying to make me feel real bad for not showing up for a dinner invitation that she never accepted.

How long should I wait for a response?

What should I do? Should cancel the event and let down a lot of people who worked hard to make it happen?

[Arugula Latte]

1. Tell your friend that she never responded to you, so you have other plans.

Then go to the celebration.

[TM99]

2. It sounds like your friend is an entitled narcissist.

You will never be able to please her. She really isn't your friend. You are just an object of convenience in her world. My advise is to end the friendship, go to the celebration, and make some new healthier friends.

[Marie Marie]

5. ^^ Ditto This^^

[dchill]

8. ^^ Ditto This ^^

[azmom]

22. Agree completely.

[Autumn]

3. Tell your friend to eat shit and bark at the moon. The world doesn't revolve around her,

and since she couldn't be bothered to be a decent enough person to give you a response get on with your life and cut her loose. Your life and everyone's lives will improve 3000% without her in it.

All the best Abbey.

[amborin]

6. good advice!

[grasswire]

26. woof woof woof! nt

[Joe the Revelator]

4. I love this OP.

[dchill]

7. Oh yeah! It's a keeper.

[Luminous Animal]

23. Thank you, Joe.

[abakan]

9. That is no friend...

That is someone you need to tell to go pound sand. Dinner with her would feel like a slow death.

[beam me up scottie]

10. Your friend sounds like she's jealous and doesn't want you to have other friends.

I would let her know that's it's okay to not be popular and that you understand why she doesn't want you to have so many friends.

[HassleCat]

11. Dear Bright Beast

You should accept whatever your friend prefers, even if you have to swallow your pride and compromise your self respect. It's obvious you don't appreciate what a true friend she has been, all the things she has done for you, all the sacrifices she made on your behalf. Aren't you ashamed? Well, aren't you!

[Lucinda]

12. Weak sauce.

[Luminous Animal]

13. Mew.

[Lucinda]

14. It's a shame that I think your guy is more capable of handling two events in one day

than you are. But it is what it is, eh?

[Luminous Animal]

15. Mew.

[Autumn]

18. It's a shame at one time I thought your gal was decent enough to respond to a colleague

without lying about it but it is what it is, yep.

[Hydra]

16. Gold :)

[CharlotteVale]

17. ROFL. Maybe Bernie should invite Hillary to debate him at his rally

in front of thousands of his supporters. I would pay to see that.

But it would be almost as amusing to see how fast she'd refuse.

[Luminous Animal]

19. Nice!

[winter is coming]

20. Holy cow, I would love that! n/t

[Kalidurga]

21. Yes, it wouldn't even have to be a debate

Invite her to attend and give her the mike for 15 minutes or so.

[tularetom]

28. Except he'd have to pay her a couple hundred thousand to do that

Isn't that the going rate?

[Kentonio]

25. I'd love to see them both debate in front of the others supporters.

I'm fairly sure which of them would win the most converts.

[kristopher]

24. Outstanding!!! nt

[JonLeibowitz]

27. Brilliant, it's what we've all been thinking!

Oh yeah, and your friend is an entitled self-absorbed narcissist who you shouldn't give the time of day. or night.

[MrMickeysMom]

29. Dear Luminous in a Dark Universe...

This is a situation you should waste no further time in resolving. Assuming you travel in the same circles, and the communication may have been something she lost (it could be that she is STILL looking to see where that paperwork is), then the only respectable thing to do is to send a VERBAL invitation

How about all your friends bird-dog the verbal invitation? I'll bet it could be short and sweet and heard over gravely screeching owl sounds...

Where's the DEBATE?

Best of Luck!

Abigail Van Mickey

[kristopher]

30. This is outstanding. Thank you.

[Skwmom]

31. As my Grandmother would have said, "She is a real piece of work."

[rock]

32. I'd call

The Wahbulance! Oh, wait. Never mind.