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Wed Feb 4, 2015, 12:48 AM

everyone from my mom's generation is gone now

tonight i learned that her cousin passed away
i have not learned the wheres/whys etc. yet

i tried to get in touch a couple weeks ago & thought maybe she was visiting one of her kids. actually, i hoped that's what was happening. in my heart i feared the worst.

i am heartbroken

we called & talked once in awhile--shared stories about my mom--she missed my mom too. i saw her only a couple times since my mom passed, but i loved talking with her, i loved hearing "i was thinking about your mom the past couple of days," or "i was thinking about your mom so much today--everywhere i went reminded me of her," or "i was going through some sheet music and an envelope fell on the floor and when i picked it up i saw it was a card your mom sent me a few years back."

things like that.

in a way, we were connections to each other's past. she was a consolation to me, we'd share stories, we'd laugh. she has a wonderful laugh. i never told her i loved to hear her laugh.

and without a word of goodbye she is gone from me.

and i am so very sad.

i'm sure my mom was one of the many to greet her when she crossed over. i know it was difficult for her to be the last surviving person in her generation so i would bet it was a joyous occasion when she was reunited with friends and family from days gone by.

yet for now, for purely selfish reasons, i am heartbroken.



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orleans Feb 2015 OP
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Response to orleans (Original post)

Wed Feb 4, 2015, 12:50 AM

1. Of course you're heartbroken, my dear orleans...and it's not selfish at all.

You have suffered a major loss, the last link to your mom's generation.

You feel orphaned, and in a way you are....

I'm so sorry.

Let your tears out and let them heal you...And be good to yourself.

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Response to CaliforniaPeggy (Reply #1)

Wed Feb 4, 2015, 01:00 AM

2. thank you, peggy. and as far as letting my tears out--well,

i can't seem to stop them.

(and i have to work tomorrow! i have to splash some water on my face & get the swelling on my eyes down. i don't have any visine either.)

feeling isolated, alone, and so sad i feel i could be sick.

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Response to orleans (Reply #2)

Wed Feb 4, 2015, 01:02 AM

3. I am so, so sorry, my dear orleans...

You are not alone...

Your tears honor your cousin...

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Response to orleans (Reply #2)

Mon Feb 9, 2015, 12:26 AM

5. Thinking of you orleans.

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Response to orleans (Original post)

Wed Feb 4, 2015, 04:11 PM

4. I am so sorry, orleans.

 

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