I just got that call that ...

[1StrongBlackMan]

we all get, or will get, but no one wants to receive ... my Mom has been called from this life.

As you my know, it was not unexpected; but, still ...

Do me a favor DU ... think of those you love, remember the good times, then call them and tell them you remember.

Much Love.

[monmouth4]

1. My most heartfelt condolences to you 1StrongBlackMan and to your family..n/t

[leftofcool]

2. My heart goes out to you.

It is painful to lose our mothers.

[1StrongBlackMan]

11. She lived 91, life full years. eom

[leftofcool]

51. Mine made it to 79.

Another full life.

[monicaangela]

139. My deepest sympathy

for the loss of your mother. I can't say I know how you feel, but I do know how it feels to lose a mother. My mom died almost 4 years ago, she was 91 also. There is nothing I can say to make you feel anything other than what you are feeling at this moment, however; I can tell you that slowly you begin to realize that we will all pass away, and hopefully there will be someone to feel about us the way you and I feel about our loving mothers. Take care of yourself, your family and friends, and remember the good times you had with your mom, that helps me when I start to miss my mother's presence.

[safeinOhio]

3. My heart goes out to you.

Lost Mom and Dad 10 years ago. Both were in their 90s and we knew it was time. Today their memories bring a smile to my face and tear to my eyes.

[MADem]

4. It is the deepest sorrow. My thoughts are with you, my friend. nt

[lamp_shade]

5. Oh dear. I'm feeling so sad for you, 1StrongBlackMan, and for your family.

[anniebelle]

6. So sorry.

It doesn't matter how old or how expected, there is just no way to prepare. Wishing you peace and healing.

[pnwmom]

7. I am so very sorry to hear this. My sincere condolences to you

and all who loved her.

[marble falls]

8. I got it almost a year ago and even with her health going down for weeks ....

before - there is no way to be totally prepared for it. My prayers are with you.

[ancianita]

9. Yes, that call. Hope you feel a collective hug from here.

You have all the best of her. Her love is with you, along with your shared memories.

I hope for peace and love to surround you and all those who remain with you.

[Scuba]

10. Peace to you and your family 1SBM.

[Journeyman]

12. "If there is any substitute for love it is memory." ~ Iosef Brodsky . . .

Grant you the peace of the poets, and the serenity of acceptance.

[stevil]

13. I know the feeling

My condolences. I'm not really that active here but I love your posts and wanted to reach out.

[gregcrawford]

14. I extend my deepest sympathies to you and your family

When those we love return to the sea of souls, they live on in our memories of their kindness.

[democrank]

15. So sorry

~May she rest in peace~

[BumRushDaShow]

16. Giving you a big hug

Same happened to mine a year ago this week. You know it's only a matter of time and you hope and pray that this won't be the time but... you know it has to happen sooner or later... And it leaves you empty and numb for a good long while, yet you know they are in a better place and life has to move on.

[NurseJackie]

17. Sending strength and courage to you and your family. <3

[busterbrown]

18. I betcha she was a hell of a gal..

You are one of my favorites around here...and thats my just because...

[LittleGirl]

19. I'm so sorry SBM

My Mother was in the hospital last week getting a pacemaker implanted. She's 83 and really struggling because the first attempt didn't go well and had to be redone the next day. She nearly didn't make it and I was really worried. I'm 5,000 miles away and doubt I would have been able to get a seat on a flight had it gone differently.

My sincere condolences to you and yours.

[DesertRat]

20. I'm very sorry for your loss

Peace

[joshcryer]

21. So sorry to hear that 1SBM. Best wishes to you and yours.

RIP

[montana_hazeleyes]

22. My heart goes out to you and your family.

I'm thinking of all she must have seen and experienced in those 91 years. And the great wisdom she had to share.

[mnhtnbb]

23. And much love back to you, 1SBM.

My parents both lived to be 91, too. Mom passed in 2000 and Dad in 2002. Just yesterday I was sharing a memory of my dad with my brother.

for you

and for your mom.

[Turbineguy]

24. Sorry for your loss...

[Erich Bloodaxe BSN]

25. My condolences.

I'm taking it day by day with Dad now, he could go today, or it could be years, yet, depending upon how careful we are. I make sure I spend at least a little time with him each day, if only to chat while I dress him and get his pills ready for the day. I'll give Mom a hug today.

[Laser102]

32. Bless your heart.

[Ilsa]

26. I know that call...

I'm so sorry. May she rest in peace.

[Princess Turandot]

27. I'm very sorry for your loss, 1SBM....

...peace to you and yours in the days to come.

PT

[daybranch]

28. I am so sorry. I do not know what else to say.

[daleanime]

29. ......

[brush]

30. So sorry. My condolences.

I've gotten the call so I know how hard it is.

[Laser102]

31. I am so sorry for your loss.

[Depaysement]

33. .

There is more for her beyond this life.

[littlewolf]

34. so sorry for your loss …

may you remember the good times
and may those give you comfort.

[JackInGreen]

35. More strength to you 1sbm

I'm sorry she's gone, though I know it's been on the horizon. I'll follow your advice

[Uncle Joe]

36. I'm sorry for your loss, 1StrongBlackMan.

Peace, strength and healing to you and your family.

[Omaha Steve]

37. .

[Botany]

38. all the best to you

tom/botany

BTW your post made me think that I am a very lucky man ...
because my grown son is visiting over the new year and he is now
sleeping w/his black lab beside him on the bed and in a an hour or
so we are going to have pancakes w/my folks .... 82 and 87 .... I'll
bring some good grapefruit to go w/the meal.

[sonofspy777]

39. So sorry for you

[ms liberty]

40. So sorry for your loss. Been there myself...

My mother has been gone 22 years and one month, and still sometimes it seems like yesterday.

[FailureToCommunicate]

41. So sorry you got that call, 1SBM. We know in our brain it's the 'circle of life' but in

our hearts the loss of a parent leaves such an ache. When I get too sad thinking of their passing I try to remember them young and vital and so engaged in the lives of my brothers and me...and it helps.

Peace to you,

-F2C

[Half-Century Man]

42. I know your pain, my mother left this year as well.

It doesn't get better, but you do get used to it eventually.

Sometimes it boils down to, just one foot in front of the other; repeat.....

[Thor_MN]

43. Sorry to hear of this.

[we can do it]

44. So sorry.

May your memories of her always keep you warm.

[AllyCat]

45. I'm so sorry, 1SBM.

Peace to you and safe passage to your lovely mom.

[cal04]

46. I'm so sorry 1StrongBlackMan

my thoughts are with you and your family

[brer cat]

47. I'm so sorry, 1SBM.

It is a tough loss even when expected. Much love back to you.

[etherealtruth]

48. My condolences to you and your family

Expected or not .... it still very hard and I am sorry

[darkangel218]

49. I'm so sorry to hear that, 1strongblackman. :(

May she rest in peace.

[Iliyah]

50. Prayers

[jschurchin]

52. So very sorry for your loss 1StrongBlackMan

Prayers

[TBF]

53. I'm so sorry.

((hugs))

[Person 2713]

54. Condolences to you

To all in the family take care

[SusanCalvin]

55. I am so sorry for your loss,

and happy for her full life.

[greatauntoftriplets]

56. I am so sorry, 1SBM.

[sellitman]

57. May your memories of her

comfort you in these tough times and last forever.

[Voice for Peace]

58. Something you may enjoy

This man has been inspiring me for many years.. In this short clip he talks about a conversation with a person whose mom had died, and who had many questions.

He offers a beautiful metaphor in response.
Clip below, about 3 mins

I hope your heart is full and steady, and may all your unshed childhood tears run like a river.

[bread_and_roses]

59. I am sorry for your loss

It is always so hard, even when expected, to lose a parent. Peace to you and yours.

[Hotler]

60. Peace be with you Sir.

Moms are special. A toast to moms past and present.

[Kind of Blue]

61. I am very sorry for your loss. 1SBM.

Please accept my condolence.

We got our call last Sunday and sang our dad to forever sleep.

Peace and overflow of love to you and your family.

[yardwork]

62. I'm so sorry.

[BlueMTexpat]

63. All my deepest sympathies!

I lost Mom in 2002 & Dad in 2004. Besides missing them profoundly, the sense of one's own mortality becomes more real than ever. My sisters and I were lucky to have both into their 80s and with sound minds. It was their bodies that succumbed to multiple myeloma and heart disease respectively.

They and your mom represent the "Greatest Generation" indeed - what journeys they all made, what wonders they experienced, and what ideals they left for us to live up to!

[Lisa D]

64. I am so very sorry for your loss.

Wishing you peace and strength in the days ahead.

[Tipperary]

65. I am so sorry to hear this.

I understand your pain and wish you peace.

[sheshe2]

66. 1StrongBlackMan

I am so very sorry for your loss. My thoughts are for you and your family, I know your pain.

Sweet dreams to your beloved mom~

[mopinko]

67. i'm sorry for your loss.

peace to all in your family.

[Gothmog]

68. I am sorry for your loss

May your mother rest in peace

[Starry Messenger]

69. (((hugs)))

So sorry for your loss. Peace to your family.

[tishaLA]

70. My dear 1SBM, I am so sorry for your loss

[mcar]

71. May she rest in peace

[Proserpina]

72. Condolences on your loss

[Blanks]

73. My condolences. Eom

[bvf]

74. Very sorry for your loss, 1SBM.

[lovemydog]

75. Love and peace

to you and your family.

[Hoyt]

76. Very sorry. Sounds like you both were lucky to have each other.

[Snotcicles]

77. A Slightly edited quote of, Antonio Porchia

My mother, when she went, made my childhood a gift of half century.

[The Polack MSgt]

78. My thoughts are with you

Condolences.

[LiberalArkie]

79. I am sorry about your mom. I lost mine back on Mothers day of 1988, just a week shy of her

and my dads 50 wedding anniversary. Mom going gave me time to spend with my dad and get to know him better until he went in 92.

[gwheezie]

80. My heartfelt condolences to you and family.

I took your advice and called my mom and dad. 87&89. Dad refuses to wear his hearing aid and my mom talks in a perpetual shout. I am lucky to still have them.

[retrowire]

81. Bless you 1SBM.

The loss of a parent is always hard, no matter the expectations. We send our condolences.

[DashOneBravo]

82. I'm sorry for your loss Sir

[Lifelong Protester]

83. I am so sorry for your loss.

My phone call was a series of calls I had to make to the Highway Patrol, hospital, etc. They could not find me as mom died in a car accident and her beau did not have my name right. Luckily, as a school person, they finally put it all together (I had recently married), so it took a while but they found me.
I am glad she made it through the holidays-that seems immaterial now I'm sure, but later it will be a big deal.

Again, I am sorry.

[TDale313]

84. So sorry to hear that.

My thoughts are with you and your family.

[BlancheSplanchnik]

85. Condolences, 1SBM

[spooky3]

86. Condolences to you and your family.

[hedgehog]

87. I'm sorry for your loss.

[KT2000]

88. You have my sympathy

May the sweet memories comfort you now.

[elleng]

89. SORRY, Man,

and thanks for your thoughtful suggestions (as usual.)

Spoke with Dad a few weeks before he passed (few years ago,) was glad I did even tho his hearing made it difficult for him to hear me. Very thankful he was near my brother + family in Iowa, as they spent a lot of time looking out for him.

Love to you, too.

[femmedem]

90. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Thank you for the reminder to cherish the people we love.

[2naSalit]

91. ...

[NanceGreggs]

92. Heartfelt condolences ...

... to you and your family, my friend.

[annabanana]

93. deepest sympathies n/t

[Hekate]

94. Heartfelt sympathies to you and yours.

May her name be remembered for a blessing.

[sinkingfeeling]

95. Very sorry for your loss

[azmom]

96. I'm sorry for your loss.

[shenmue]

97. Rest in peace

[AwakeAtLast]

98. Wishing you comfort and peace

To you and your family.

[steve2470]

99. my condolences to you and your family!

RIP 1SBM Mom

[840high]

100. My deepest condolences.

[brucefan]

101. So sorry

I just lost my 86 year old mom.I feel your pain

[Thinkingabout]

102. It does not matter how old we are or how old our parents are, we still miss

their presence, and yes, you can never tell your parents you love them too many times. My prayers and thoughts will be with you, you know you have friends here on DU.

[Kali]

103. sorry for your loss

[Stellar]

104. Been there...

Peace.

[reACTIONary]

105. Very sorry for your loss nt

[SunSeeker]

106. I'm so sorry, 1StrongBlackMan.

[Oldtimeralso]

107. My condolences

I lost my mother when she was 64, and papa was a rolling stone. Had to find him to tell him.

Please stay strong as your name here is correct.

[cui bono]

108. Oh no, I'm so sorry for your loss.

May she RIP.



.

[TuxedoKat]

109. Oh. so very sorry

to hear about the loss of your beloved mother. I will call my mom tonight. (((HUGS)))

[DonCoquixote]

110. Your mother did a good job of raising you

as I have read from your words and actions. That is better than any epitaph.

Godspeed.

[yellerpup]

111. My sincere condolences.

Love never dies.

[LiberalEsto]

112. I am so sorry for your loss, 1StrongBlackMan

Sending you blessings of healing and peace

[mia]

113. So sorry for your loss.

Thank you for your reminder to call our loved ones.
Peace to you and your family.

[CaptainTruth]

114. You have my sympathies.

You'll be in my thoughts.

My mom is 92 & my dad is 94, both in good health for their age & still living at home by themselves. Every time my phone rings I hope it's not "that" call, but I know one day it will come. Every time I visit them or talk to them I hope it's not the last time.

I hope we can both find assurance in knowing our parents lived a long & full life.

Peace to you, my friend.

[Plucketeer]

115. Condolences ONESBM

It's NEVER easy to lose those important to you.

[Worried senior]

116. I am sorry for your loss

[Number23]

117. Your mom must have been one hell of woman to raise a son like you

And you are passing on her legacy with all the love and pride you constantly share with us regarding your own daughter.

RIP Momma 1SBM

[kwassa]

118. Sorry for your loss, it has happened to me ....

my father, not my mother, and now my MIL is living with us and fading away right in front of us. She has aged 20 years in 2 years ......

my condolences to you and all your family.

[Duval]

119. I got that call 20 some years ago on Dec. 21st. I

so understand, 1StrongBlackMan. Time does help heal the pain, but has never filled a little hole in my heart, especially during Christmas. What you have suggested is a way to keep in touch, no matter the distance you are separated, no matter the fusses that may have occurred. Just saying "hello" and "I'm thinking of you" goes a long way, too. But, remembering the good times and talking about them is THE BEST!

[NBachers]

120. There will always be that first morning, for each of us, when we are not here anymore.

This is that morning when your mom is not here. Expected or not, it's still always a tough one.
Thanks for letting us know.

[malthaussen]

121. ...

-- Mal

[passiveporcupine]

122. So sorry to hear this

[MeNMyVolt]

123. Let me add my condolences.

You never forget the day, the phone call, or the last goodbye. 7 years since my Mom departed. Still hurts, but I love her even more.

Stay strong 1SBM.

[Eleanors38]

124. I'm sorry. Good advice for us. My Mom is 96. And I wait.

[JI7]

125. thoughts to you and your family

[stevenleser]

126. I'm so sorry for your loss!

[Jane Austin]

127. So sorry you lost your mom.

May your memories of her comfort you all your life.

[Tarheel_Dem]

128. Be strong 1SBM. You're right, even though it's a sad time, it presents opportunities to mend fences

with some, and grow even closer with others. You never forget the loss, but it certainly becomes less painful with time.

[Peacetrain]

129. Oh No..

Our deepest sympathies 1SBM...

[Chellee]

130. I'm so very sorry.

[The Wielding Truth]

131. When we lose those most precious, we feel the loss and the love.

Bless you. Life is to share. Thanks for keeping us aware of that.

[roguevalley]

132. I am so sorry, 1strongblackman. Life is so hard sometimes but love never dies. Take care and know

you are loved.

[Punkingal]

133. So very sorry....

[nyabingi]

134. Sorry for your loss bro (nt)

[Suprk]

135. Very sorry to hear about your loss.

Prayers to you and your family.

[billhicks76]

136. Very Sorry For Your Loss

My biggest fear is that call.

[swilton]

137. So Sorry for Your Loss

[onethatcares]

138. can't say much except

our days are all limited. I wish you the best in your grief.

[jwirr]

140. Very sorry to hear this. Hold her memory close.

[Skittles]

141. very sorry 1StrongBlackMan

[floriduck]

142. I wish you strength and hope that

you and your family will overcome the emptiness that occurs. Having been down that road with both of my parents, I know time helps heal but the memories only get stronger. My condolences to you 1SBM.

[glinda]

143. Much strength to you...

[redwitch]

144. I am so sorry for your loss.

Although the death of a loved one may be unexpected I find it is still a shock. May your mom rest in peace and may you be at peace with your loss.

[panader0]

145. Deepest sympathies.

I still miss my mom after all these years.

[EriktheRedder]

146. Truly sorry to hear

I got that call about 3 weeks ago. 89 years old, passed in his sleep. We all knew it was coming, he was on hospice care, but it really hurts when it comes. I agree with you so much, love the ones around you now.

[AnotherDreamWeaver]

147. RIP, hope the transition was gentle.

[George II]

148. Sorry to hear that, my condolences.

[BlueJazz]

149. I'm thinking of you.

[vt_native]

150. SBM, Sorry for your loss...

I'll follow your advice. Thank you.

[Solly Mack]

151. I'm sorry to hear that.

My condolences.

[AuntPatsy]

152. My condolences 1StrongBlackMan, no matter how old we are the loss is still felt strongly...

[one_voice]

153. I'm so very sorry for your loss...

Peace and strength to you and your family during your time of sorrow.

[aikoaiko]

154. My condolences to all her knew and loved your mother.

[joanbarnes]

155. May she rest in Peace and Power.

[dflprincess]

156. I am so sorry

No matter what the situation, we are never ready to lose our moms and we always miss them.

I hope you can find peace in your memories of her.

[TheBlackAdder]

157. Sorry 1SBM, My heart and thoughts go out to you and your family during this trying time. nt

[okasha]

158. Peace be to you and your family.

[Nancyswidower]

159. So very sorry for your loss.

[Sissyk]

160. I'm truly sorry to hear this.

My thoughts and prayers to you and your entire family.

[libodem]

161. Sorry for the loss of your mom

It's still a shock even when it's an expected death.

[PoiBoy]

162. Our deepest condolences...

...to you and your family....

[kacekwl]

163. So sorry for your loss.

Stay STRONG .

[Maraya1969]

164. ...........

[WillyT]

165. (((((((1StrongBlackMan)))))))

Peace...

[Behind the Aegis]

166. Sympathies to you and your family.

Even if expected, the loss is great and you have my sincerest sympathies and condolences.

[senz]

167. Sorry, 1SBM.

Keep the good memories forever.

[rhett o rick]

168. My deepest condolences. nm

[BainsBane]

169. I'm sorry for your loss

Take care of yourself.

[Samantha]

170. So, so sorry to read of your loss of your Mom, 1StrongBlackMan

I want you to know in time you will realize in many ways your Mom will always be with you. Perhaps she is a good part of the reason you are the 1StrongBlackMan you are today.

This is good advice you have given us.

Best regards to you on this sad day.

Sam

[mwrguy]

171. I'm very sorry for your loss.

[applegrove]

172. Mine passed away less than a year ago. I can't bring myself to watch the cellphone video I have of h

singing a Christmas song in her last month's of life. It will have to wait until next Christmas. It is a process. After she passed, I did get to reconnect to her as we were when I was kid and when we were closest. Vibes to you and your family.

[DeadLetterOffice]

173. *hugs* n/t

[calimary]

174. My sympathies, 1SBM.

It's never easy. Even when you expect it because of long and incurable ailments, or advanced age or impairment, or even if you weren't on good terms with each other. It's STILL not easy.

All my sympathies, my friend. Been there. Felt that. I like the way you put that, too - "my Mom has been called from this life." Very gentle and poetic. I suspect she'd like how you put that, also.

[CoffeeCat]

175. I'm so sorry about the loss of your mother (nt)

[Liberal_in_LA]

176. may she rest in peace

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

177. My condolences.

It's awfully hard to lose your Mom.

[Blue_In_AK]

178. I'm sorry for your loss.

It's never easy to lose a parent, even when you know it's coming.

[tazkcmo]

179. The circle of life.

Best wishes and my condolences to you and your family.

[Betty Karlson]

180. Very sorry for your loss. God bless you with comfort and love. eom

[MrScorpio]

181. My deepest condolences to you and your family

[randys1]

182. I was reminded of my mother this weekend. Grieve as long as you need.

[1StrongBlackMan]

183. Thank you all for your kind words ...

they are much appreciated.

[wildeyed]

184. So very sorry to hear this news.

Just because it is expected does not make it hurt any less. Much love to you and yours during this difficult time.

[ismnotwasm]

185. ..

[treestar]

186. My condolences 1SBM

[Chitown Kev]

187. Be strong, Bro...my condolences

[qwlauren35]

188. I hope

that you have many fond memories to hold you through this tough time.

[Bobbie Jo]

189. I'm so sorry...

So sorry. There are no words to describe losing your mom.

[emulatorloo]

190. Even if you are prepared for it, it is so hard to lose your Mom

My heart goes out to you and your family.

[Cha]

191. May Mama 1Strong

Rest in Peace~

Beautiful advice~1StrongBlackMan~

[Hortensis]

192. I'm so sorry you've lost your mother, 1Strong.

I suspect she was quite a lovely person.