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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 12:05 PM

My dad died Saturday.

He had that stroke I mentioned a few weeks ago, then went into a rehab. There was a bit of progress but he still had trouble swallowing which affected his eating and talking.
He got rushed to the ER last week because he had trouble breathing. We found out he had had a few heart attacks and his kidneys were failing.
We made plans for hospice but he never made it out of the hospital.
He was 91 and had a rich, full life until old age hindered him. He was tired. I have cared for him since I moved to Florida, and I miss him terribly.

RIP, my dear old dad.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 12:08 PM

1. Sending you love. He must have been a great Dad.

When you feel like it, why don’t you tell us about a couple of your best memories?

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 12:09 PM

2. My condolences for your loss. My congratulations for being able to enjoy him for 91 years. That is

one heck of a big bunch of memories.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 12:11 PM

3. I'm so sorry for your loss babylonsister. May every

good memory help to comfort you and ease the sad memory of his final illness.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 12:13 PM

4. Condolences

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 12:20 PM

5. I'm sorry for your loss, went through this earlier this year myself.

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Response to Afromania (Reply #5)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 12:21 PM

9. condolences to you as well. nt

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 12:20 PM

6. Deepest sympathies.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 12:21 PM

7. My condolences to you and your family. ++++++++++++++

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 12:21 PM

8. Hang in there, babylonsister, I am sure you do miss him!

Keep him present in your heart, always!

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 12:21 PM

10. I am so sorry, my dear babylonsister.......

It's always hard, no matter how old they are. He did have a wonderfully rich, long life, and remember: you were a big part of that.

He was tired, and now he is at peace. I hope your many great memories will sustain you as you cross through this time of grief.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 12:23 PM

11. Bless you and your dad. Take care of yourself and keep in touch with your friends here on DU...

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 12:27 PM

12. So sorry for your loss.

Glad for you that you had a wonderful Dad. His memory will always be with you.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 12:28 PM

13. Condolences

You were fortunate to have him for so long. Remember the good times

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 12:33 PM

14. Love & Hugs

I am entering into that phase with my 80 yr old parents right now and I don't want them to have a long, drawn out deterioration. My grandparents were lucky enough to just have an episode and leave the planet easily...

Seeing my mom in the hospital for a week at a time or my dad feeling so frail is hard.

:hugs:

Glad your dad had a good life...RIP

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 12:35 PM

15. I'm so sorry to hear this. I wish I could give you peace at this time.



You are always loved here.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 12:40 PM

16. Rest in peace

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 12:42 PM

17. Deepest sympathy to you, babylonsister.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 12:43 PM

18. Of course you miss him.

I am sorry.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 12:44 PM

19. .

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 12:48 PM

20. So very sorry for your loss

It's hard to lose a parent, no matter the age (theirs or ours).

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 12:48 PM

21. My condolences to you and yours.

Peace.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 12:52 PM

22. I am so sorry for you

May he Rest In Peace

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 12:53 PM

23. 🕯️I lost my father in August 2011

It still echoes in my life.
I hppe the memories of love and good times sustain your family and help you in these days ahead

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 12:54 PM

24. Deepest sympathies

He will always live in your memory

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 12:54 PM

25. I'm so very sorry, my friend. I lost my beloved dad to ALS 19 years ago on June 5, 2000, and

I miss him every day. I'm glad your dad lived a full life, but that doesn't ease the sense of loss. He was your dad and was a constant in your life since the day you were born. That is a huge hole. Again, you and your family have my deepest condolences.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 12:55 PM

26. I am so sorry

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 12:55 PM

27. ....

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 12:57 PM

28. So sorry for you. May his memory be eternal!

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 01:01 PM

29. Sorry for your pain and loss.

Look for him in little things. He will make his presence known. My dad likes to turn the garden hose on me, the great jokester that he was. I can almost count on it!

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 01:02 PM

30. So sorry to hear.

As you said, he had a rich, full life, and that's what counts. The following is called "Gone From My Sight" and is credited to Henry Van Dyke. It gave me great comfort after my husband's passing...I hope it does for you, too. Peace.


I am standing upon the seashore. A ship, at my side,
spreads her white sails to the moving breeze and starts
for the blue ocean. She is an object of beauty and strength.
I stand and watch her until, at length, she hangs like a speck
of white cloud just where the sea and sky come to mingle with each other.

Then, someone at my side says, "There, she is gone."

Gone where?

Gone from my sight. That is all. She is just as large in mast,
hull and spar as she was when she left my side.
And, she is just as able to bear her load of living freight to her destined port.

Her diminished size is in me -- not in her.

And, just at the moment when someone says, "There, she is gone,"
there are other eyes watching her coming, and other voices
ready to take up the glad shout, "Here she comes!"

And that is dying...

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Response to WinstonSmith4740 (Reply #30)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 06:52 PM

98. Thanks for that poem. I sent it to my siblings, too. xo nt

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 01:03 PM

31. ...

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 01:04 PM

32. May your days and nights

be filled with love and joy from your family and friends.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 01:07 PM

33. Sorry to read about the loss of you dad. But how many people can say they have

91 years of memories he shared and you two experienced together. That is a blessing.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 01:07 PM

34. Very sorry for your loss.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 01:09 PM

35. Deep condolences to you.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 01:11 PM

36. Sorry for your loss

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 01:15 PM

37. So sorry for your loss ..

It's wonderful you cared for him and he knew that you did.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 01:21 PM

38. I'm so sorry for your loss.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 01:23 PM

39. May he rest in peace.

I am very sorry for your loss.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 01:29 PM

40. i am so very sorry, friend. (((hugs)))

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 01:32 PM

41. it is tough

all my love

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 01:33 PM

42. I don't think we are ever ready to say that last farewell to those who loved us...

...before they met us, even when their bodies no longer support a joyous life.

My dad made it to 90, and was in relatively decent shape for most of it, thanks to the 24/7 devotion of my mom, a retired nurse. He probably would have died at least 3-5 years earlier had she not managed every detail of his life. She was getting worn out, and there was a sense of relief mixed in with the sadness when he died.

About 3 years ago,, I made the difficult decision to sell his pontoon boat, because we were no longer using it. I was surprised at how much it bothered me to do that - sort of like a delayed final goodbye.

It sounds like he was a great dad.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 01:34 PM

43. So sorry



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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 01:36 PM

44. Sorry for your loss.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 01:39 PM

45. So sorry for your loss Babylonsister

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 01:45 PM

46. Heartfelt sorrow for you...

I lost my dad a year ago after caring for him, I have that sorrowed loss feeling as well.

Your dad’s rich, full life is no small thing, I hope you find comfort and breathing room soon in knowing the significance of that and of your bond and caring.

Peace to you, babylonsister.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 01:47 PM

47. Sorry for your loss

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 01:51 PM

48. May he rest in peace, and knowing that he was loved.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 01:54 PM

49. So sad to read this

May your poor dear old Dad rest in peace.

You have my extreme condolences.


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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 01:55 PM

50. :*

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 01:59 PM

51. My sincerist condolences.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 02:01 PM

52. I'm so very sorry for your loss.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 02:01 PM

53. Your caring for him speaks volumes

about you. Sincere condolences on your loss. I hope good memories sustain you and bring you comfort now and in the days to come.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 02:02 PM

54. I'm so sorry to read this, Babylonsister.

I've had your Dad on my mind since we posted one another re stroke effects and outcomes, and intended to post to you yesterday.
Be comforted in knowing that you were there for your Dad and thinking best thoughts for him throughout his illness and rehab.

Your Dad is now at peace; now it's time for you to find the peace offered to one who cared and did one's best to give care and comfort to her father.
Peace to you as well, dear sister.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 02:03 PM

55. Hugs to you and your family

DU holds you in our collective arms with love and best wishes.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 02:08 PM

56. I am sorry for your loss.

My Dad just passed recently as well. I know how you feel.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 02:11 PM

57. I'm so sorry for your loss, babylonsister. 😢🙏❤️

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 02:13 PM

58. I'm very sorry for your loss.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 02:14 PM

59. Sympathy and support for you and your family.

No matter when and how life ends, it is hard for the family and friends of the loved one. Take care!

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 02:23 PM

60. So sorry sister. But 91 with a rich full life is quite a milestone.

I have never gotten over missing my parents.
You did good by caring for him in his old years.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 02:29 PM

61. My sincerest condolences

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 02:33 PM

62. I am so so sorry babylonsister...

It is hard to let them go...

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 02:34 PM

63. My perfectly healthy dad died in his sleep almost 3 months ago.

I am still in shock. I have tears in my eyes right now since I know what you are going through. Father's Day will be very difficult this year. Try to get rest and be good to yourself.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 02:38 PM

64. Sending a hug.


🌻

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 02:41 PM

65. Thinking of you now,

and especially on Fathers' Day. My dad is 90, so I feel how precious each day is.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 02:44 PM

66. So sorry to hear this, babylonsister.

No matter how long or rich or worthy their lives, no matter how deep and sustaining your mutual love, no matter how joyful the memories, no matter how much one might rationalize that it was “time,” still: there will always be a hole.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 02:45 PM

67. I am so sorry for your loss.

You were obviously very close to him..

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 02:45 PM

68. Sorry. My dad also 91 died last Wed.

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Response to SammyWinstonJack (Reply #68)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 06:55 PM

100. Awww, my condolences to you.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 02:46 PM

69. I'm sorry for your loss

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 02:55 PM

70. I'm so sorry ... you're in my thoughts.





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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 02:55 PM

71. Sending you love! I am so sorry dear babylonsister....

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 02:58 PM

72. I mourne no aspect of my mother's life: it was good and she made us know we were loved ...

and she knew she was loved.

As with your dad, she built her own memorial. And I miss her, too.

I am sorry for your loss, even as I am also glad you had such a good dad.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 03:06 PM

73. ...



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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 03:19 PM

74. So sorry for your loss....

My Dad died 6 years ago and I miss him so much....

You will always have him with you

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 03:20 PM

75. Be grateful for the years you had with him.

Laurie Anderson said, “When my father died we put him in the ground
When my father died it was like a whole library
Had burned down.”

You have absorbed and made yours the wisdom from those books. By giving you the lessons, he lives on through you. This is how we live forever.

His gifts will live much longer than your grief, and your grief will be eased by the knowledge and love he gave freely.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 03:26 PM

76. Condolences, babylonsister on the loss of your beloved father.

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 03:36 PM

77. Vibes to you and your family in this sad time.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 03:40 PM

78. I am so sorry. How wonderful he had you to care for him. I lost my mom two years ago. Not a

day, and sometimes not too many hours, go by that I don’t miss her. I am wishing you comfort in your grief. No matter the age they pass, we would have wanted them with us longer if only they did not suffer. Treat yourself very kindly.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 03:58 PM

79. So sorry for your loss.

He had a good, long life. May sweet memories help you through the grieving process.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 04:11 PM

80. God bless you and your dad. My deepest sympathy.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 04:19 PM

81. Mine is in hospice now.

I'm so sorry to hear about yours. This is the part of getting older that stinks. May your memories of your Dad burn bright forever.

Hugs.

Kevin

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Response to sellitman (Reply #81)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 06:54 PM

99. And the same to you and yours, sellitman.

Getting old isn't for the faint of heart, or sissies, nor is dealing with loved ones who inevitably go before us.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 04:22 PM

82. I'm so very sorry.

I know the loss of both my parents. Peace to you & your family. 💜💜

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 04:31 PM

83. My deepest condolences for you loss

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 04:37 PM

84. Forever in your heart......nt

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 04:40 PM

85. I'm sorry, babylonsister.

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 04:46 PM

86. So sorry for your loss.

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 04:47 PM

87. My mom passed away last month.

I completely understand.

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 04:56 PM

88. Ah, Sister...

...my sincere condolences.

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 05:00 PM

89. I'm so sorry

I lost my baby brother 3 months ago and my oldest brother 9 months ago. The grief comes in waves. Hugs

My mother is 86 and so sad.

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 05:00 PM

90. Sorry for your loss

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 05:10 PM

91. You've had a hard loss, no matter how well your dad lived.

You are very much admired, appreciated and supported around here.

Please be good to yourself as you deal with the time ahead.

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 05:52 PM

92. I'm so terribly sorry for your loss, Babylonsister

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 05:53 PM

93. Oh dear b!! So sorry to hear this!💔

Many virtual hugs to you and your Dad! ❤️❤️❤️

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 05:53 PM

94. My sincere condolences for your loss.

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 06:10 PM

95. I'm so very sorry sister.

Healing hearts. Sending him aloha.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 06:18 PM

96. You folks are the best. Thank you for

sharing your recent experiences and for just being downright nice. You've all made me feel a little less sad.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 06:47 PM

97. Condolences to you

And congratulations to him on a life well lived

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 06:58 PM

101. Huge hug.

Losing a great dad is a very hard thing for a daughter.

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 06:59 PM

102. I'm very sorry.

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 06:59 PM

103. I'm sorry, babylonsister.



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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 07:11 PM

104. May your memories be a blessing to you

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 07:26 PM

105. I'm sorry for your loss

but glad you had so much time with your Dad.

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Response to babylonsister (Original post)

Tue Jun 11, 2019, 07:36 PM

106. There are really no words that are adequate to express one person's sympathy for another

who has lost a loved one. That I and many others have experienced our own losses--- buried our own beloved---does little to comfort you in this tearful time. But, may I make an observation?

Though we have never met, I know something about you from reading your caring thoughtful posts for several years. I have little doubt that your caring for your dad added time to his life and made his last days feel safer and more secure; held in the love of his child.

Please accept my sincere sympathy.

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 07:39 PM

107. Condolences... may you find peace and comfort in the days ahead.

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 08:10 PM

108. So sorry

May your good memories give you comfort.

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 08:17 PM

109. Very Sorry for Your Loss

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 08:22 PM

110. Sending you condolences Babylonsister.

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 08:37 PM

111. latch key kid. but we had 2 grandpas. tho 1 was more dad like. and uncles. still have uncles.

add great uncles AND great-great uncles.

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 08:40 PM

112. Adding my condolences

Just last week had to say goodbye to my Aunt Donna, my mother's sister. Mom herself died in 2013. I drove Dad down to the remembrance ceremony; he's 78 and if he makes it two more years he will be the longest lived member of either his or the previous generation of any of our families. But he still drives himself most places, gets around, and even plays accordion recitals for the local church.

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 08:41 PM

113. May he Rest In Peace

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 09:06 PM

114. So sorry dear Babylon

you have my deepest sympathy. We are never ready for them to leave no matter how old they are. I hope the best parts of him always live on through you. May his soul Rest In Peace.

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 09:11 PM

115. I'm sorry to hear of your loss

It was a real awakening for me to realize that as the oldest sibling, I would replace my dad. How could I do that? I wasn't ready. Here I am, five years later getting on. You will come to understand your new place in the world. May you approach this with grace and humility.

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 09:18 PM

116. I am so sorry

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 09:20 PM

117. I'm so sorry...

Same with my dad some years ago. It's tough, and I miss him. But I still remember the stuff he did, the things he said, the jokes he told and they still make me smile.

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 09:20 PM

118. Very sorry for your loss.

No matter how old, it is tough to lose your dad.

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 09:30 PM

119. Sorry for your loss.

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 09:38 PM

120. I lost my father in 1989

I still miss him today.

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 10:21 PM

121. My Condolences

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 10:27 PM

122. i'm so sorry you're going through this sadness

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 10:56 PM

123. I am so sorry for your loss

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 11:01 PM

124. My sincere condolences to you!



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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 11:16 PM

125. I'm so sorry for your loss, babylonsister.

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 11:18 PM

126. so sorry to hear that

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 11:21 PM

127. (((hugs))) dear babylonsister. I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you good vibes.

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 11:23 PM

128. ((babysis))

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 11:40 PM

129. I'm very sorry to hear that your dad passed.

Even though he was 91, and lived a rich full life, it's very realistic to miss him. He's been a part of your, life for all your life. You must take the to grieve, and heal in your own way. Take care of yourself. I raise a candle for both of you

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 11:42 PM

130. My condolences, my hugs and love.

My father passed away in 1992 after a battle with prostate cancer. It was rather sudden and quick. Far longer than with your dad, though. It was about a year between the initial diagnosis and him passing.

During that year he went from being a living, aware, funny, loving person to being a just a body whose heart continued to beat and lungs continued to breathe. There were rough times. He ended his days in hospice care at home.

In some ways you are lucky. Lucky you didn't have to see the complete decline. Obviously, not at all lucky you lost a loved one.

Now is the time to write down remembrances of him. The fond times from your childhood, and any times you were lucky enough to be an adult with him. I miss most the times my dad would talk about his childhood and tell funny stories. I miss the very, very rare times he would speak of his service in WWII in the Philippines.

If you have had the fortune to hear stories from your dad I encourage you to write them down. They are treasures. Put them with the pictures and slides.

In your heart, you will never forget him. It's been almost 30 years since my dad passed. I have not forgotten him. Do not worry that he will cease to be with you. He will not.

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 11:43 PM

131. Heartfelt sympathy.

No matter how long and full their lives were, it's still so hard to let them go. This Sunday will be sad for you.

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Tue Jun 11, 2019, 11:54 PM

132. So sorry to hear this.

But glad you had a father that you loved.

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Wed Jun 12, 2019, 01:29 AM

133. hi babylonsister,

Sorry to hear about the loss of your father.

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Wed Jun 12, 2019, 01:38 AM

134. I'm sorry to hear of your loss.

91 is a pretty good run.

Thank you for sharing.

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Wed Jun 12, 2019, 02:18 AM

135. I'm so very sorry [[[hug]]]

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Wed Jun 12, 2019, 02:19 AM

136. Thinking of you Sis

I knew how close you were to your dad.

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Wed Jun 12, 2019, 03:14 AM

137. I'm so sorry

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Wed Jun 12, 2019, 04:30 AM

138. All my thoughts go out to you.

So sorry to hear this. I am glad you had that time to spend with him and you will value that.

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Wed Jun 12, 2019, 07:36 AM

139. You contribute SO MUCH to this family, so it's not surprising that you were

caring for your father till the end. Sad as his passing might be, you will always have him beside you now, and that you did all you could for him. I know from my parents passing that that lack of regret can help over time.

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Wed Jun 12, 2019, 07:59 AM

140. Deepest sympathy, Babylonsister.

Praying for peace and comfort for you and the family. He was blessed to have you caring for him.

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Wed Jun 12, 2019, 09:39 AM

141. So hard. To this day I still reach for the phone to call one of my parents to

tell them something funny I just saw and realize they are not here. It's been years and I miss them but it's not painful now. They lived long, full lives. Time does heal the grief. I hope you are doing okay and have lots of support right now. Take care of yourself.

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Wed Jun 12, 2019, 09:49 AM

142. My sincerest sympathy, Babylonsister.

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Wed Jun 12, 2019, 11:59 AM

143. So sorry for your loss!

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Wed Jun 12, 2019, 12:00 PM

144. So sorry to hear of your loss, babylonsister.

Our thoughts with you.

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Wed Jun 12, 2019, 12:06 PM

145. Here's a big hug.



Well, a bunch of ‘em, my friend.

Went through this with my dad. Even when you know the end is near, and even when it almost seems “welcome” - for the sake of the end of suffering, it’s STILL damn hard.

Damn hard.

My heart and my hard-earned memories are with you, sister.

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Wed Jun 12, 2019, 12:12 PM

146. So sorry for your loss.

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