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Tue Dec 6, 2022, 12:14 AM

For my cat lovers DU Friends

After my Angie passed, I went to the shelter and picked a sleeping kitty I named Ruby. She was a bigger and younger kitty and now at about 4 years old, Iím about to have a series of eye surgeries n Iím off to the vet tomorrow and thinking of asking her to re home Ruby. I do not want to go back to the shelter.. I know what happens. Sheís the sweetest cat but I fear that Iím not making her happy..I live in a condo n she does not get enough stimulation with other people or space. Iím in pain about doing this.. I love her but I donít think Iím giving her what she needs to be a happy cat.what is the best option for her w/o being selfish? I donít want to make an emotional decision only whatís right for her.

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Reply For my cat lovers DU Friends (Original post)
Deuxcents Dec 2022 OP
niyad Dec 2022 #1
Deuxcents Dec 2022 #2
marybourg Dec 2022 #3
Deuxcents Dec 2022 #4
TexasBushwhacker Dec 2022 #5
Deuxcents Dec 2022 #6
Better Days Ahoy Dec 2022 #7
Deuxcents Dec 2022 #8
Better Days Ahoy Dec 2022 #9
Deuxcents Dec 2022 #10
Better Days Ahoy Dec 2022 #11
Deuxcents Dec 2022 #12
peacebuzzard Dec 2022 #21
radical noodle Dec 2022 #13
Deuxcents Dec 2022 #14
sprinkleeninow Dec 2022 #15
Deuxcents Dec 2022 #16
SheltieLover Dec 2022 #17
Karadeniz Dec 2022 #18
peacebuzzard Dec 2022 #19
niyad Dec 2022 #20
Deuxcents Dec 2022 #22

Response to Deuxcents (Original post)

Tue Dec 6, 2022, 12:17 AM

1. May Lady Bast send you the wisdom for the correct choice.

And may your surgeries be successful.

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Response to niyad (Reply #1)

Tue Dec 6, 2022, 12:20 AM

2. Thank you more than you know...

Iím in pain thinking I should give my Ruby to another...and yet, am I doing right by her. Thank you.. so very much

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Response to Deuxcents (Original post)

Tue Dec 6, 2022, 12:31 AM

3. Could you possibly put the word out

among friends, neighbors and family that you feel your current health precludes you from caring for her adequately and youíd be happy if one of them could adopt her?

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Response to marybourg (Reply #3)

Tue Dec 6, 2022, 12:37 AM

4. That, I have. That's why my dilemma. I won't just let her go.

Crazy but I love her.. I just want to make sure sheís a happy kitty w/ me.

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Response to Deuxcents (Original post)

Tue Dec 6, 2022, 12:39 AM

5. The website Adoptapet.com has a Rehoming list

But it would be nice if a friend or family member could take Ruby in.

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Response to TexasBushwhacker (Reply #5)

Tue Dec 6, 2022, 12:43 AM

6. Agree. I will keep her n do everything I can for her.. I'm just worried she's not happy

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Response to Deuxcents (Original post)

Tue Dec 6, 2022, 12:47 AM

7. Please keep her. She's already attached.

They just want to be with you and have a stable and loving home. No need to send her away.

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Response to Better Days Ahoy (Reply #7)

Tue Dec 6, 2022, 12:50 AM

8. That does it! That's t my heart. I love her.. I just want her to be happy.. she's young n I'm old!

Older, that is ! 😻

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Response to Deuxcents (Reply #8)

Tue Dec 6, 2022, 12:55 AM

9. That's all they want, Deuxcents. Just that.

You've shown it by your post. Ruby is with a good person who cares for her. Cats can be hard to read. Get a little mouse on a stick or one for her to bat around, talk to her, let her hang with you. Slow-blink at her. She'll probably slow-blink or make squinty eyes back. If her tail is straight up when she runs toward you, she's happy. Cats are very sensitive to change. Keep her and give her the wonderful home you have.

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Response to Better Days Ahoy (Reply #9)

Tue Dec 6, 2022, 01:04 AM

10. Thank you.. I just didn't want to be selfish but I will not let her go 😺

So kind.. thank you 🙏

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Response to Deuxcents (Reply #10)

Tue Dec 6, 2022, 01:07 AM

11. Back to you for your kindness to Ruby

She's fortunate. You both are. Happy holidays.
We have our two rescue cats keeping our holidays happy.

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Response to Better Days Ahoy (Reply #11)

Tue Dec 6, 2022, 01:17 AM

12. Your kindness is so appreciated.. I posted in pain for a decision I thought I had to make

But.. my DU friends n new friends made me realize its all good. Happy Holidays n thank you.,

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Response to Deuxcents (Reply #12)

Tue Dec 6, 2022, 12:43 PM

21. ❤️

😻

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Response to Deuxcents (Reply #8)

Tue Dec 6, 2022, 01:42 AM

13. I agree with Better Days Ahoy

Is she really giving any indication that she's unhappy or are you just feeling a bit overwhelmed at the moment due to the impending surgeries? Cats don't require a lot. Food, water, litter box, and love in whatever form they like it. Some like to cuddle, some do not... but most of them are not high maintenance. They do get attached to their person and they don't like change very much. She's yours and she doesn't care how old you are, she won't care if you have a little difficulty getting around for a few weeks, and she doesn't care if you live in a condo. You love her. Just keep doing what you can and she will be fine.

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Response to radical noodle (Reply #13)

Tue Dec 6, 2022, 01:45 AM

14. Me, too. 😻 thank you

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Response to Deuxcents (Original post)

Tue Dec 6, 2022, 02:10 AM

15. Please keep Ruby. She does love you, I sense it.

You saved her and she will save you!

Love and blessings be to you both
❣️

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Response to sprinkleeninow (Reply #15)

Tue Dec 6, 2022, 02:20 AM

16. Ya know, she's been the best friend thru covid ..

She is my sweetheart.. I do know her worth to me..I hope she knows I love her n I want her to be happy n a nice quiet house.. thatís my worry but lll spoil her some more. She runs the place but what do I care?😺

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Response to Deuxcents (Original post)

Tue Dec 6, 2022, 03:53 AM

17. Please keep Ruby.

You are her life & your home is her world.



Best of luck with your eye surgeries.

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Response to Deuxcents (Original post)

Tue Dec 6, 2022, 04:02 AM

18. I don't see that she's unhappy. Cats will create the environment they want. Keep her!

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Response to Deuxcents (Original post)

Tue Dec 6, 2022, 10:02 AM

19. Ruby sounds happy with you Deuxcents,

She won the lottery if you went to the shelter and chose her. She has a caring, concerned person of her own who gave her a condo for a domain. There is food and vet care, what a wonderful life she won ! I have had dogs most of my life and took in my first cat to be a mouser among the dogs. As the dogs passed and my work life involved extensive travel I found the domestic kitty I had was most resilient and independent. She didn't require walks and didn't really have a designated mealtime like dogs who would gobble up everything and wait for the next meal. Cats do well with the free feeding unless its a diet which requires portion control. Then there are auto feeders. Cats are so used to their environment they freak out if there is a change. To me, anyway, they love permanence and a change might be sad for Ruby if she loses her condo and you.
I think she sounds content, which is all I think anyone can ask you, human or critter.
Take care and I hope all goes well with the eye surgeries, Ruby will be delighted to welcome you home from the hospital.

P.S. on edit, when you come from the hospital or anywhere she just might look up sleepily and yawn and say "oh there you are, where are the treats?" My cats could care less after my multiple monthly trips I make. When I come home, they think its treat time and kitty clean up time and don't really show too much else. LOL.

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Response to Deuxcents (Original post)

Tue Dec 6, 2022, 10:59 AM

20. I am reading all the loving and encouraging and supportive replies here, and

just want to add another comment. As I am reading, my gorgeous lap panther is curled in my lap. He is my little rescue., and my heart. He is perfectly content. . .who am I k8dding. . DEMANDS to spend most of his time curled in my lap or right next to me. He does not miss the outdoors from which he was rescued.

Hold and love each other. Be happy.

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Response to Deuxcents (Original post)

Tue Dec 6, 2022, 01:07 PM

22. Thank you, my DU Friends.. I so appreciate the support

There were points made I had not considered..always good to have opinions n be level headed about decisions so emotional. Having cataract surgery on both my eyes this month n Iíll be loving the cuddles w/ Ruby. Thanks so much 🙏

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