Tue Dec 6, 2022, 12:14 AM
Deuxcents (10,038 posts)
For my cat lovers DU Friends
After my Angie passed, I went to the shelter and picked a sleeping kitty I named Ruby. She was a bigger and younger kitty and now at about 4 years old, I’m about to have a series of eye surgeries n I’m off to the vet tomorrow and thinking of asking her to re home Ruby. I do not want to go back to the shelter.. I know what happens. She’s the sweetest cat but I fear that I’m not making her happy..I live in a condo n she does not get enough stimulation with other people or space. I’m in pain about doing this.. I love her but I don’t think I’m giving her what she needs to be a happy cat.what is the best option for her w/o being selfish? I don’t want to make an emotional decision only what’s right for her.
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Deuxcents | Dec 2022 | OP |
niyad | Dec 2022 | #1 | |
Deuxcents | Dec 2022 | #2 | |
marybourg | Dec 2022 | #3 | |
Deuxcents | Dec 2022 | #4 | |
TexasBushwhacker | Dec 2022 | #5 | |
Deuxcents | Dec 2022 | #6 | |
Better Days Ahoy | Dec 2022 | #7 | |
Deuxcents | Dec 2022 | #8 | |
Better Days Ahoy | Dec 2022 | #9 | |
Deuxcents | Dec 2022 | #10 | |
Better Days Ahoy | Dec 2022 | #11 | |
Deuxcents | Dec 2022 | #12 | |
peacebuzzard | Dec 2022 | #21 | |
radical noodle | Dec 2022 | #13 | |
Deuxcents | Dec 2022 | #14 | |
sprinkleeninow | Dec 2022 | #15 | |
Deuxcents | Dec 2022 | #16 | |
SheltieLover | Dec 2022 | #17 | |
Karadeniz | Dec 2022 | #18 | |
peacebuzzard | Dec 2022 | #19 | |
niyad | Dec 2022 | #20 | |
Deuxcents | Dec 2022 | #22 |
Response to Deuxcents (Original post)
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 12:17 AM
niyad (98,602 posts)
1. May Lady Bast send you the wisdom for the correct choice.
And may your surgeries be successful.
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Response to niyad (Reply #1)
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 12:20 AM
Deuxcents (10,038 posts)
2. Thank you more than you know...
I’m in pain thinking I should give my Ruby to another...and yet, am I doing right by her. Thank you.. so very much
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Response to Deuxcents (Original post)
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 12:31 AM
marybourg (11,471 posts)
3. Could you possibly put the word out
among friends, neighbors and family that you feel your current health precludes you from caring for her adequately and you’d be happy if one of them could adopt her?
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Response to marybourg (Reply #3)
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 12:37 AM
Deuxcents (10,038 posts)
4. That, I have. That's why my dilemma. I won't just let her go.
Crazy but I love her.. I just want to make sure she’s a happy kitty w/ me.
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Response to Deuxcents (Original post)
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 12:39 AM
TexasBushwhacker (18,687 posts)
5. The website Adoptapet.com has a Rehoming list
But it would be nice if a friend or family member could take Ruby in.
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Response to TexasBushwhacker (Reply #5)
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 12:43 AM
Deuxcents (10,038 posts)
6. Agree. I will keep her n do everything I can for her.. I'm just worried she's not happy
Response to Deuxcents (Original post)
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 12:47 AM
Better Days Ahoy (680 posts)
7. Please keep her. She's already attached.
They just want to be with you and have a stable and loving home. No need to send her away.
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Response to Better Days Ahoy (Reply #7)
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 12:50 AM
Deuxcents (10,038 posts)
8. That does it! That's t my heart. I love her.. I just want her to be happy.. she's young n I'm old!
Older, that is ! 😻
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Response to Deuxcents (Reply #8)
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 12:55 AM
Better Days Ahoy (680 posts)
9. That's all they want, Deuxcents. Just that.
You've shown it by your post. Ruby is with a good person who cares for her. Cats can be hard to read. Get a little mouse on a stick or one for her to bat around, talk to her, let her hang with you. Slow-blink at her. She'll probably slow-blink or make squinty eyes back. If her tail is straight up when she runs toward you, she's happy. Cats are very sensitive to change. Keep her and give her the wonderful home you have.
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Response to Better Days Ahoy (Reply #9)
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 01:04 AM
Deuxcents (10,038 posts)
10. Thank you.. I just didn't want to be selfish but I will not let her go 😺
So kind.. thank you 🙏
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Response to Deuxcents (Reply #10)
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 01:07 AM
Better Days Ahoy (680 posts)
11. Back to you for your kindness to Ruby
She's fortunate. You both are. Happy holidays.
We have our two rescue cats keeping our holidays happy. |
Response to Better Days Ahoy (Reply #11)
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 01:17 AM
Deuxcents (10,038 posts)
12. Your kindness is so appreciated.. I posted in pain for a decision I thought I had to make
But.. my DU friends n new friends made me realize its all good. Happy Holidays n thank you.,
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Response to Deuxcents (Reply #8)
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 01:42 AM
radical noodle (7,750 posts)
13. I agree with Better Days Ahoy
Is she really giving any indication that she's unhappy or are you just feeling a bit overwhelmed at the moment due to the impending surgeries? Cats don't require a lot. Food, water, litter box, and love in whatever form they like it. Some like to cuddle, some do not... but most of them are not high maintenance. They do get attached to their person and they don't like change very much. She's yours and she doesn't care how old you are, she won't care if you have a little difficulty getting around for a few weeks, and she doesn't care if you live in a condo. You love her. Just keep doing what you can and she will be fine.
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Response to radical noodle (Reply #13)
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 01:45 AM
Deuxcents (10,038 posts)
14. Me, too. 😻 thank you
Response to Deuxcents (Original post)
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 02:10 AM
sprinkleeninow (18,715 posts)
15. Please keep Ruby. She does love you, I sense it.
You saved her and she will save you!
Love and blessings be to you both❣️ |
Response to sprinkleeninow (Reply #15)
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 02:20 AM
Deuxcents (10,038 posts)
16. Ya know, she's been the best friend thru covid ..
She is my sweetheart.. I do know her worth to me..I hope she knows I love her n I want her to be happy n a nice quiet house.. that’s my worry but lll spoil her some more. She runs the place but what do I care?😺
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Response to Deuxcents (Original post)
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 03:53 AM
SheltieLover (56,922 posts)
17. Please keep Ruby.
You are her life & your home is her world.
![]() Best of luck with your eye surgeries. |
Response to Deuxcents (Original post)
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 04:02 AM
Karadeniz (18,996 posts)
18. I don't see that she's unhappy. Cats will create the environment they want. Keep her!
Response to Deuxcents (Original post)
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 10:02 AM
peacebuzzard (4,740 posts)
19. Ruby sounds happy with you Deuxcents,
She won the lottery if you went to the shelter and chose her. She has a caring, concerned person of her own who gave her a condo for a domain. There is food and vet care, what a wonderful life she won ! I have had dogs most of my life and took in my first cat to be a mouser among the dogs. As the dogs passed and my work life involved extensive travel I found the domestic kitty I had was most resilient and independent. She didn't require walks and didn't really have a designated mealtime like dogs who would gobble up everything and wait for the next meal. Cats do well with the free feeding unless its a diet which requires portion control. Then there are auto feeders. Cats are so used to their environment they freak out if there is a change. To me, anyway, they love permanence and a change might be sad for Ruby if she loses her condo and you.
I think she sounds content, which is all I think anyone can ask you, human or critter. Take care and I hope all goes well with the eye surgeries, Ruby will be delighted to welcome you home from the hospital. P.S. on edit, when you come from the hospital or anywhere she just might look up sleepily and yawn and say "oh there you are, where are the treats?" My cats could care less after my multiple monthly trips I make. When I come home, they think its treat time and kitty clean up time and don't really show too much else. LOL. |
Response to Deuxcents (Original post)
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 10:59 AM
niyad (98,602 posts)
20. I am reading all the loving and encouraging and supportive replies here, and
just want to add another comment. As I am reading, my gorgeous lap panther is curled in my lap. He is my little rescue., and my heart. He is perfectly content. . .who am I k8dding. . DEMANDS to spend most of his time curled in my lap or right next to me. He does not miss the outdoors from which he was rescued.
Hold and love each other. Be happy. |
Response to Deuxcents (Original post)
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 01:07 PM
Deuxcents (10,038 posts)
22. Thank you, my DU Friends.. I so appreciate the support
There were points made I had not considered..always good to have opinions n be level headed about decisions so emotional. Having cataract surgery on both my eyes this month n I’ll be loving the cuddles w/ Ruby. Thanks so much 🙏
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