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piddyprints

(14,637 posts)
Tue Jun 28, 2022, 07:04 PM Jun 2022

I am heartbroken.

My two dogs have declined very quickly. They are 15 1/2 years old and we've had them since they were found on the road at 3 months old. They have similar brindle coloring and could be littermates, although their build is very different. Sam is definitely a "Heinz 57" while Sidney is the picture of a Plott Hound. They are both as sweet as they can be. They are wonderful, wonderful dogs who think they are horses... or else the horse thinks she is a dog. It's not clear.

Sam can barely walk, despite a heavy cocktail of pain meds. He looks like a drunken sailor when he tries. Sidney is less lame, but won't eat enough calories of any food to maintain her weight. She seriously looks like she doesn't have a mom. She loves to try different things, but just won't eat enough. This is her "fat" season and you can see every bone in her body.

I came across a professional picture that was taken of all 3 of us in 2015 when they were hearty and smiling big doggy smiles. If nothing else, that cements in my head how far they have gone down.

I made an appointment for a final "farm call" next Tuesday, with the crematory to arrive at the same time. They have had a life together and will go together, in every way. I don't want the last thing to be a traumatic car ride (they hate vehicles of any kind), and then try to figure out how to lift them out. Let them lounge on the grass instead, until the vet they know and love arrives.

The thing about dogs is that they will force a smile and wag their tails until the very last day. Cats are hard enough, but at least they sort of withdraw at the end... well, all of ours all did.

They've had a good life by any measure, especially for 50+pound dogs. But let's not let rationality get in the way. We want them to be happy and healthy for far longer than this, but we do normally outlive our beloved pets.

I know this group will understand. I just wanted to say it. I have plenty of support from friends who will actually be here with me, and I'm so thankful for that. But, damn, it hurts!

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I am heartbroken. (Original Post) piddyprints Jun 2022 OP
You're a good pet parent. I'm so sorry you have reached this point. I know how much it hurts. sinkingfeeling Jun 2022 #1
Thank you. piddyprints Jun 2022 #2
It's the last great kindness you will show them. femmedem Jun 2022 #19
I hope so. piddyprints Jun 2022 #22
((piddy)) blm Jun 2022 #3
Thanks. piddyprints Jun 2022 #4
I commented in someone else's thread, just a few days ago, that one... 3catwoman3 Jun 2022 #5
Yes, and we continue to do it. piddyprints Jun 2022 #7
I'm sorry nt XanaDUer2 Jun 2022 #6
Thank you. piddyprints Jun 2022 #8
Yes XanaDUer2 Jun 2022 #13
I'm sorry you are facing this. brer cat Jun 2022 #9
So true. piddyprints Jun 2022 #11
I'm so sorry. You're giving them the best goodbye you can. CousinIT Jun 2022 #10
I hope so. piddyprints Jun 2022 #15
I am so sorry. Claustrum Jun 2022 #12
You know the look. piddyprints Jun 2022 #17
😢 mercuryblues Jun 2022 #14
Well, yeah. piddyprints Jun 2022 #20
I am so sorry UpInArms Jun 2022 #16
Right? piddyprints Jun 2022 #21
I am so very sorry. irisblue Jun 2022 #18
Thank you. piddyprints Jun 2022 #23
I am truly, truly sorry, paddy. dixiechiken1 Jun 2022 #24
It's been so worth it! piddyprints Jun 2022 #25
So sorry redstateblues Jun 2022 #26
Thank you. piddyprints Jun 2022 #28
So sorry zeusdogmom Jun 2022 #27
And the longer they stay, piddyprints Jun 2022 #29
I'm so sorry, FoxNewsSucks Jun 2022 #30
Thank you. piddyprints Jun 2022 #33
I'm going through it too. Triloon Jun 2022 #31
I'm so sorry. piddyprints Jun 2022 #34
I understand what you are going through LetMyPeopleVote Jun 2022 #32
Thank you. piddyprints Jun 2022 #35
Virtual hugs IrishAfricanAmerican Jun 2022 #36
huggggggs. I know you have friends right there, but know that your DU niyad Jun 2022 #37
I am so sorry, I cried tears when I first read this,🌷🌼 peacebuzzard Jul 2022 #38

piddyprints

(14,637 posts)
2. Thank you.
Tue Jun 28, 2022, 07:11 PM
Jun 2022

Thank you so much. Sometimes I feel like I'm plotting their murder. It's so comforting to have friends who understand. I really do not want them to suffer. I love them so much.

piddyprints

(14,637 posts)
22. I hope so.
Tue Jun 28, 2022, 07:34 PM
Jun 2022

Well, the kindness part. I know it's the hardest. Made worse by having to wait so long for a farm call. Vets are just so busy these days.


3catwoman3

(23,943 posts)
5. I commented in someone else's thread, just a few days ago, that one...
Tue Jun 28, 2022, 07:15 PM
Jun 2022

...of our vets once said to me that we bring our animals into our lives, knowing that we will most likely outlive them. We do it anyway, because life is so much richer with them in it. Many, many cats have enriched my life and left their paw prints on my heart.

I have chosen the terminology "liberating the spirit" when the time comes to let them go. I don't like "put down" or "put to sleep," and euthanize sounds so clinical. May that final farm call to liberate their spirits be peaceful.

Hugs from afar -

piddyprints

(14,637 posts)
7. Yes, and we continue to do it.
Tue Jun 28, 2022, 07:20 PM
Jun 2022

This is an especially bad year for us. When you adopt babies all at the same time ...

I couldn't live without my furbabies.

Love your terminology. I will try to remember it.


brer cat

(24,513 posts)
9. I'm sorry you are facing this.
Tue Jun 28, 2022, 07:23 PM
Jun 2022

No matter how well our head knows we are doing the right thing, our heart still breaks.

piddyprints

(14,637 posts)
11. So true.
Tue Jun 28, 2022, 07:26 PM
Jun 2022

Everyone who has known them all these years agrees that it's time. If it weren't, I wouldn't be struggling. It would just be another day. That's the head.

The heart is completely broken. Thank you.

CousinIT

(9,217 posts)
10. I'm so sorry. You're giving them the best goodbye you can.
Tue Jun 28, 2022, 07:23 PM
Jun 2022

Not taking them out of their home, letting them go together, unaware, comfortable as can be, happy and not alone. It will hurt you more than them. But that's love. And right now for them, it's everything.


Claustrum

(4,845 posts)
12. I am so sorry.
Tue Jun 28, 2022, 07:27 PM
Jun 2022

Your story gave me a flashback to last year when my cat died. He was having difficulty walking where he would fall once in a while like a drunken sailor as you described.

piddyprints

(14,637 posts)
20. Well, yeah.
Tue Jun 28, 2022, 07:31 PM
Jun 2022

She bumps him in the tummy trying to get him to stand up if she thinks he's been lying down for too long. Everyone thinks this about their dogs, but they are really the best dogs ever. Just so sweet and awesome.

piddyprints

(14,637 posts)
21. Right?
Tue Jun 28, 2022, 07:32 PM
Jun 2022

If I ever did anything to hurt or offend them, you'd never know. They're really the definition of love.



zeusdogmom

(987 posts)
27. So sorry
Tue Jun 28, 2022, 07:59 PM
Jun 2022

Our fur babies never stay with us long enough. Hugs to you and kudos for being a good pet parent when a hard decision needs to be made

piddyprints

(14,637 posts)
29. And the longer they stay,
Tue Jun 28, 2022, 08:40 PM
Jun 2022

The harder it is. But it’s been 15 wonderful years and a few months of decline.

I sometimes wonder if I’m a good enough pet parent, but I do what I can. Thank you for your kindness.

Triloon

(506 posts)
31. I'm going through it too.
Tue Jun 28, 2022, 09:23 PM
Jun 2022

It's such an awful thing. I'm a mess. It is so good you have friends there. I keep quoting Hemingway to myself - "The sun also rises." It only helps a little.

piddyprints

(14,637 posts)
34. I'm so sorry.
Wed Jun 29, 2022, 07:49 AM
Jun 2022

There's really not a lot that helps. Still, it's good not to be alone.

With all the pain, I would do it all again.

LetMyPeopleVote

(144,884 posts)
32. I understand what you are going through
Wed Jun 29, 2022, 01:45 AM
Jun 2022

It is hard to say goodbye to just one member of the family and even tougher for two

piddyprints

(14,637 posts)
35. Thank you.
Wed Jun 29, 2022, 07:56 AM
Jun 2022

This will be 3 for the year so far. We had to say goodbye to one of our 16-year-old cats a few months ago. This is the first time we've had two together, but it's the right thing to do for them.

IrishAfricanAmerican

(3,813 posts)
36. Virtual hugs
Wed Jun 29, 2022, 01:32 PM
Jun 2022

We had to put our Jack Russell, Jake, down on the 18th. He was 16.5 and I had him since he was 3 months. It's tough but all part of the cycle, as you know. Virtual hugs to you and yours.




niyad

(113,021 posts)
37. huggggggs. I know you have friends right there, but know that your DU
Wed Jun 29, 2022, 09:37 PM
Jun 2022

friends are right there with you as well Sending vibes for strength and healing and peace.

peacebuzzard

(5,145 posts)
38. I am so sorry, I cried tears when I first read this,🌷🌼
Sat Jul 2, 2022, 12:45 AM
Jul 2022

tried to post but was in a remote area.
I am terribly sorry for this moment you are in, I know this moment so well.
Your little angels are so special, I hope for much peace at this time.

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