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Sun Jun 18, 2017, 07:48 PM

service.

i just wanted to post something here that i hope doesnt sound preachy, pull yourself up by your bootstraps or anything like that.

but i just thought i would post something about my volunteer work.
i have spent much of my life trying to make the world a better place. but it doesnt seem like any of it really did.
i do have to my credit that i helped to found a support org for hard hatted women. it still exists today, 30 years later. it does a lot of good work, but the percentage of women in blue collar trades has hardly budged.

the rest of it, fighting wars, working for the era, even helping to elect barack obama, seems like it has all just slipped away.

but for the last 2 years, inspired by du'er mucifer, i have been a hospice volunteer. i was really afraid it might be a weight i couldnt bear. but i did it anyway.
and i just cannot tell you what it has done for ME.
this is a door we will all walk through, for ourselves or for family.
to face it once a week seems to take the fear down a notch.

but most of all, to be of service to people in crisis has been one of the most fulfilling things i have ever done.
i give most of the credit to my amazing dog, biff.
i got him certified as a therapy dog, and he goes w me every week.
he opens doors and starts conversation in an amazing way.
he totally disarms people.

and then they talk to me.
they teach us that our most important job is "holding space", being there in a non-judgemental way.
with his help i am able to walk into the lives of people at a most horrific moment, and have them open up.
they tell me about the struggles in their family. the trials and tribulations. the conflict.
and i just listen, and tell them that it is a horrible moment, but i am here to make it a little lighter.
and we do. it is almost impossible not to smile at biff. many folks pet him and feel that there is some peace somewhere.

i walk out almost every day feeling that we have accomplished something. feeling like we have actually made a difference in the world. a difference that sticks.

the obligation that i feel to this job is sorta like having a pet, and having to set yourself aside a little bit every day, and take care of them.
hardly a week goes by that i dont feel like bugging out, and blowing it off. but i very rarely do.
especially on special days. like mother's day, father's day, christmas.

instead of being swamped by my own problems, i am there to lighten that for others.
the talks, the hugs, the smiles.
it fills my heart.
fills it w the satisfaction of making the world a little better.

i know that a lot of folks here cant hold a job. to volunteer is a job that is not a job. i could quit tomorrow and no one would be mad. it would have no consequences.
but i would miss it. i am lucky that i dont need the money.
but i sure need the satisfaction of doing something good in the world.

anyone here who is looking for a way to get out of their own little world, think about a way to serve others.
the rewards are immense. the costs are few.

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mopinko Jun 2017 OP
furtheradu Jun 2017 #1
mopinko Jun 2017 #3
CaliforniaPeggy Jun 2017 #2
mopinko Jun 2017 #4
CaliforniaPeggy Jun 2017 #5
Tobin S. Jun 2017 #6
mopinko Jun 2017 #9
Mr.Bill Jun 2017 #7
mopinko Jun 2017 #8
luvtheGWN Jun 2017 #10
mopinko Jun 2017 #11
BarbD Jun 2017 #12
mopinko Jun 2017 #13
steve2470 Oct 2017 #14
mopinko Oct 2017 #15

Response to mopinko (Original post)

Sun Jun 18, 2017, 08:43 PM

1. I gotta tell Ya.. maybe WE haven't interacted..

But YOU have inspired ME, impacted me, in a positive Way.. for years!
Your city Garden stuff was beautiful FULL!🌱
I used to read Your blog & can't find it now.. how being a STRONG, empowered WOMAN, freaked people the heck OUT!

YOU are a Goddess. 💜 That is all.

...ok, so now, You are doing the Sacred Work of caring for Souls in hospice.
Please know how Beauty FULL & awwwsome YOU are.
Just freakin WOW 💖💖💖

& ear luvins & belly rubbins for the fur Buddy.
Awwwww!

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Response to furtheradu (Reply #1)

Sun Jun 18, 2017, 09:39 PM

3. d'awww

you gonna turn my head.
thank you.
still have the link in my sig to my farm page. yes, i do freak people out. the heck w them. they are not my people.
i do feel like my farm is another way to do good that will last. at least as long as i can scream at the haters. lol.

thanks honey.

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Response to mopinko (Original post)

Sun Jun 18, 2017, 08:49 PM

2. Good for you, my dear mopinko!

Isn't it funny? You go out to help others, and of course you do..........but who you really help is YOU.

I have always found that helping someone else feel better also really helps me feel better too. It is for me the surest way to get out of my funk.

Sometimes I help folks here on DU, or on Facebook. And I do it by offering some empathy, or a few well-chosen words of gentle advice, or whatever I can.

We do what we can, with what we have, where we are.

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Response to CaliforniaPeggy (Reply #2)

Sun Jun 18, 2017, 09:40 PM

4. yes, this is another place where it is my privilege

to do a little good.

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Response to mopinko (Reply #4)

Sun Jun 18, 2017, 09:41 PM

5. ...

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Response to mopinko (Original post)

Sun Jun 18, 2017, 10:05 PM

6. Excellent.

One of the best posts I've seen on DU, lately.

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Response to Tobin S. (Reply #6)

Sun Jun 18, 2017, 10:36 PM

9. thanks honey.

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Response to mopinko (Original post)

Sun Jun 18, 2017, 10:08 PM

7. All my adult life

I have belonged to service organizations, taken a leadership role and raised money for charities.
Now I am retired and I volunteer at our local hospital. I will be there two days this week as usual to help people check in for surgical procedures. I start at 5:30 am, which if you ever knew me, would seem impossible.

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Response to Mr.Bill (Reply #7)

Sun Jun 18, 2017, 10:36 PM

8. yeah, 5:30 aint gonna happen.



one great thing about being a volunteer is you usually get to set your own schedule. but yeah, not happenin.

i used to go on friday, cuz i have a friend in the hood, and thought we could book up for a brew or 2. but in a year, that didnt happen. the traffic reeeeeaaaallly sucked. i asked the staff about what the best times would be and they said sunday afternoons were usually pretty busy. folks go to church then visit.
so now i breeze there in weekend traffic. i think biff really likes the car ride part. and i love breezing down lake shore drive, one of the most beautiful rides ever.

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Response to mopinko (Original post)

Sun Jun 18, 2017, 10:42 PM

10. My Dad used to say

"Give from your heart and it shall be returned to you a hundred-fold" (I think that might be a paraphrased Bible quote). He was absolutely correct. I volunteered for years at a cancer hospital; I can appreciate your very fine post.

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Response to luvtheGWN (Reply #10)

Sun Jun 18, 2017, 10:45 PM

11. a hundredfold sounds about right.

thanks.

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Response to mopinko (Original post)

Sun Jun 18, 2017, 10:47 PM

12. There is joy in giving

You have touched more lives than you realize. Thank you for the inspiration. The most rewarding thing I have ever done was sing in a hospice choir. It was always heartbreaking for me to see those who were alone with no family to sit by their side to give them comfort as their lives drifted away.

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Response to BarbD (Reply #12)

Sun Jun 18, 2017, 10:50 PM

13. yes, the ones who are alone.

those who have a big family around them are blessed.
those who are alone need us the most.

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Response to mopinko (Original post)

Tue Oct 10, 2017, 10:16 AM

14. I think I was super lazy the day you posted this....

This is really super awesome, mo. So wonderful you do this!!!

Keep up the good work, and go URBAN FARM

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Response to steve2470 (Reply #14)

Tue Oct 10, 2017, 10:26 AM

15. thanks steve.

better late than never is a thing, and it is also a thing that you have reminded me of a great thread. i was humbled and honored at the responses.

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