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Fri Apr 28, 2017, 04:52 PM

Welp, I got in a shouting match with my boss at work.

The stress finally just, breached the walls.

It's what happens when you don't communicate. Tensions build up between you and others you know?

He questioned what's been happening to my performance lately and started making accusations.

I revealed that I had been dealing with two cancer scares in my family (one my own wife, the other her father) and I'm still reeling from the death of my brother in law.

He started prodding at why I keep making so many phone calls on shift to my wife and he was raising his voice so I started shouting back "because that's what you do when everyone's getting cancer and there's been a death in the family!!"

He started pouring through log sheets of what my performance looked like and we started cooling off and he admitted that, had he known about what I just revealed, he would have known that I wasn't just slacking off. He said he had no way of knowing but know that he understands it changes things.

He recommended I take a vacation because I hadn't done so since a started over a year ago.

So I've got all next week off. And I still can't help but feel guilty. But I think I'm going to spend time with family.

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Response to retrowire (Original post)

Fri Apr 28, 2017, 04:55 PM

1. Sometimes work, any type of work, can help keep your mind occupied.

Hope your vacation helps relieve your stress.

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Response to retrowire (Original post)

Fri Apr 28, 2017, 04:57 PM

2. Man! You're doing as good as the cops!

Do something bad and get a vacation!

(take my taste in humor the way it is intended...I feel for you and your wife.)

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Response to retrowire (Original post)

Fri Apr 28, 2017, 04:59 PM

3. Two thoughts of unsolicited advice

But first, good for you for having that conversation with your boss. Clearly, he has some empathy and understanding of the personal pressures you've experienced.

My 2-cents of advice:

1. Take the time off to recharge your batteries and your psyche. You've earned it, retrofire.

2. When you go back to work, thank your boss for his understanding and apply yourself to the job appropriately.

He sounds like he's not a jerk. Not much of a compliment, I know!

I hope you can find some peace of mind. Enjoy your break!

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Response to retrowire (Original post)

Fri Apr 28, 2017, 05:04 PM

4. My boss actually respected me more when I stood up for myself in an argument.

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Response to retrowire (Original post)

Fri Apr 28, 2017, 05:04 PM

5. I am sorry things have been tough. The signs are there to look for another job.

Never trust a boss like that.

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Response to retrowire (Original post)

Fri Apr 28, 2017, 05:04 PM

6. Please let go of the guilt

Taking care of our self is required. How else can we hope to care for those we love? I remind myself of what they say on a plane. If you are traveling with a child or someone who needs assistance and the oxygen mask drops down, put yours on first. It's not selfish, it's just ensuring you will be able to care for them. Enjoy your well deserved vacation.

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Response to retrowire (Original post)

Fri Apr 28, 2017, 05:06 PM

7. I don't know what is going on in the business world of today...

As a manager I always knew what was affecting my employees, and not through performance...but an open door policy, and trust, even more....

Don't even tell me you feel guilty - don't you think you have enough on your plate..

Sorry for your circumstances - wish all well -

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Response to retrowire (Original post)

Fri Apr 28, 2017, 07:00 PM

8. What a rough time. Glad you got a chance to air it and he heard you. Hopefully you will be able to

enjoy some good moments and relax.

How's your wife doing?

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Response to retrowire (Original post)

Fri Apr 28, 2017, 07:26 PM

9. Let go of the guilt - take care of yourself

The best thing you can do for your loved ones is to take some time recharge. I'm sorry things got so heated at your job, but glad you have a vacation - you definitely need it

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Response to retrowire (Original post)

Fri Apr 28, 2017, 07:55 PM

10. let go of the guilt, enjoy your time off and your family and....

maybe another job ? None of my business, and only a suggestion.

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Response to retrowire (Original post)

Tue May 2, 2017, 12:15 PM

11. Good for you and good for your boss.

It's been my experience that bosses and parents don't purposely make their people/children miserable. They do the best they can with the knowledge and resources that they have available.

It sounds like he was doing his job. Good for you for standing up for yourself. Good for him being understanding. Hope your week off with your family helps you regain some equilibrium.

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