Sun Apr 11, 2021, 05:58 PM
XanaDUer2 (8,492 posts)
I've gotta stop being afraid
fear stalks me. I'm worried I'll give myself a heart attack. I'm going to ask for FMLA at the start of June. I'm scared to ask, though I've done so before. Fear, fear, fear.
I hope everyone is doing okay! ![]()
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XanaDUer2 | Apr 2021 | OP |
StrictlyRockers | Apr 2021 | #1 | |
XanaDUer2 | Apr 2021 | #2 | |
TygrBright | Apr 2021 | #3 | |
XanaDUer2 | Apr 2021 | #4 | |
SheltieLover | Apr 2021 | #5 | |
XanaDUer2 | Apr 2021 | #6 | |
SheltieLover | Apr 2021 | #8 | |
XanaDUer2 | Apr 2021 | #7 | |
SheltieLover | Apr 2021 | #9 | |
XanaDUer2 | Apr 2021 | #10 | |
SheltieLover | Apr 2021 | #13 | |
XanaDUer2 | Apr 2021 | #20 | |
SheltieLover | Apr 2021 | #24 | |
Baked Potato | Apr 2021 | #16 | |
SheltieLover | Apr 2021 | #17 | |
Karadeniz | Apr 2021 | #11 | |
XanaDUer2 | Apr 2021 | #22 | |
Karadeniz | Apr 2021 | #23 | |
MFM008 | Apr 2021 | #12 | |
SheltieLover | Apr 2021 | #14 | |
SheltieLover | Apr 2021 | #15 | |
hamsterjill | Apr 2021 | #19 | |
XanaDUer2 | Apr 2021 | #21 | |
hamsterjill | Apr 2021 | #18 |
Response to XanaDUer2 (Original post)
Sun Apr 11, 2021, 05:59 PM
StrictlyRockers (3,849 posts)
1. Therapy can be helpful.
I need it, and I'm intending to start this week.
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Response to StrictlyRockers (Reply #1)
Sun Apr 11, 2021, 06:03 PM
XanaDUer2 (8,492 posts)
2. I'm glad to hear that good luck
I have a great therapist and psychiatrist. I just get so far gone sometimes, even with meds
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Response to XanaDUer2 (Original post)
Sun Apr 11, 2021, 06:06 PM
TygrBright (20,428 posts)
3. I've spent a fair amount of time where you are...
I call it "worst case scenario hell" in which I can go from zero to Apocalyptically Bad Outcome in .0018 seconds in virtually every situation.
Keep reminding yourself it's your jerkbrain fuckin' witcha... not objective reality, no matter how much the cortisol in your system argues agin that. Take walks outdoors if you can. Or just sit outdoors someplace pleasant, and concentrate on steady breathing for a few minutes. Therapy does help. This, too, can pass. Holding you in the Light. sympathetically, Bright |
Response to TygrBright (Reply #3)
Sun Apr 11, 2021, 06:08 PM
XanaDUer2 (8,492 posts)
4. thanks, Bright
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Response to XanaDUer2 (Original post)
Sun Apr 11, 2021, 06:16 PM
SheltieLover (57,073 posts)
5. Try Yale's free Science of Well Being Course?
Response to SheltieLover (Reply #5)
Sun Apr 11, 2021, 06:19 PM
XanaDUer2 (8,492 posts)
6. Hi, Sheltie!
thanks! Hope your weekend is going well
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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #6)
Sun Apr 11, 2021, 06:22 PM
SheltieLover (57,073 posts)
8. Yw!
I've posted this before & several folks replied, saying it really helped them!
Another nice feature: as soon as very brief registration is completed, the first week's videos are immediately available! ![]() |
Response to SheltieLover (Reply #5)
Sun Apr 11, 2021, 06:20 PM
XanaDUer2 (8,492 posts)
7. Hi, Sheltie!
thanks! Hope your weekend is going well
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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #7)
Sun Apr 11, 2021, 06:23 PM
SheltieLover (57,073 posts)
9. Ty
Another day in paradise.
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Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #10)
Sun Apr 11, 2021, 07:44 PM
SheltieLover (57,073 posts)
13. Joke is that
I'm in red hellhole TN. But I have my own home, food, utilities, all I need. So I'm grateful for these aspects.
Have you ever done a gratitude journal? |
Response to SheltieLover (Reply #13)
Mon Apr 12, 2021, 02:20 PM
XanaDUer2 (8,492 posts)
20. No I should try nt
Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #20)
Mon Apr 12, 2021, 07:56 PM
SheltieLover (57,073 posts)
24. It's a great practice to jumpstart & maintain positivity,!
Write 3 things you are grateful for each night just before bed, then reread list from start to end.
Entries can be anything such as sunshine, new shoelaces, or the name of a 0erson ypu are grateful for. 👍 |
Response to SheltieLover (Reply #5)
Sun Apr 11, 2021, 08:38 PM
Baked Potato (7,733 posts)
16. Thanks for that link.
Response to Baked Potato (Reply #16)
Mon Apr 12, 2021, 12:25 AM
SheltieLover (57,073 posts)
17. Yw!
Several DUers have done the course & said it helped a lot!
Please share liberally! ![]() |
Response to XanaDUer2 (Original post)
Sun Apr 11, 2021, 06:59 PM
Karadeniz (21,411 posts)
11. I suggest reading Many Lives, Many Masters. Highly reputable psychiatrist author. His patient
Sounds like your twin! It might help you find a more beneficial therapy! All the best to you! You always have friends here!!!
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Response to Karadeniz (Reply #11)
Mon Apr 12, 2021, 02:21 PM
XanaDUer2 (8,492 posts)
22. I know i love DUers nt
Response to XanaDUer2 (Reply #22)
Mon Apr 12, 2021, 03:25 PM
Karadeniz (21,411 posts)
23. Take care of yourself!!!
Response to XanaDUer2 (Original post)
Sun Apr 11, 2021, 07:37 PM
MFM008 (19,725 posts)
12. welcome to my world.
These past 6 months or more have been a nightmare.
They have tried medication after medication. They just seem to make things worse. |
Response to MFM008 (Reply #12)
Sun Apr 11, 2021, 07:45 PM
SheltieLover (57,073 posts)
14. Please see #5 above.
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Response to MFM008 (Reply #12)
Mon Apr 12, 2021, 01:56 PM
hamsterjill (15,149 posts)
19. I (personally) believe that meds are prescribed too often
I’ve been offered meds before and have chosen not to get started. I prefer to try to “deal with” things (bad choice of words, I know - and this applies only to me) as naturally as possible. Concrete things like breathing and sunlight, talking to anyone who will listen, and trying to write things down.
My story isn’t anyone else’s story and we are all unique and different. Just wanted to send a waive and a hug. Hang in there. |
Response to XanaDUer2 (Original post)
Mon Apr 12, 2021, 01:52 PM
hamsterjill (15,149 posts)
18. Fear is hard.
I feel like I’m on an adrenaline drip these days. It’s always something. Much of it is real life situation - like being unemployed and facing some major, major home repair issues.
I wish I could run away. Add COVID to life issues (for all of us) and no wonder we are all about to crumble. Keep putting one foot in front of the other. One step at a time. Sit down and breathe when you need to, but always get back up. |