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murielm99

(31,321 posts)
Mon Sep 18, 2023, 11:31 PM Sep 2023

My scan was good.

The oncologist is now scheduling scans every six months instead of every three months.

This is about the only good thing in my life right now, other than a supportive husband. (That means a lot). Social Security is still threatening my benefits. We are getting a guardian ad litem for my mother, who has dementia. I have her health care and durable powers of attorney. However, she beat up on me and ripped my clothes the last time I was there. That is enough...someone else can put up with the crazy. And if you think this is all due to dementia, think again. She has spent a lifetime beating me and telling me she hates me. I don't know why I try to help her.

Anyway, I am doing well in the cancer department. I am thankful for that, and for the support I get here.

I am going to shut up now, rather than overshare any more.

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My scan was good. (Original Post) murielm99 Sep 2023 OP
Excellent news. sinkingfeeling Sep 2023 #1
Wonderful news about your scan and also a guardian for your mother. brer cat Sep 2023 #2
Good for you on both fronts! MLAA Sep 2023 #3
The time between the scan and the results is close to an eternity. Staph Sep 2023 #4
That is really good news. I am glad for you. Enjoy the good news and put your mother in the LoisB Sep 2023 #5
Excellent news!! walkingman Sep 2023 #6
... ailsagirl Sep 2023 #13
Great news about the scan, muriel. sheshe2 Sep 2023 #7
continuing vibes for healing and strength. niyad Sep 2023 #8
So glad for your health progress. Fla Dem Sep 2023 #9
👏👏👏👏👏 irisblue Sep 2023 #10
Great news! William769 Sep 2023 #11
Good to hear!! ailsagirl Sep 2023 #12
Great News!!!!! DarthDem Sep 2023 #14
Be well! PortTack Sep 2023 #15
Oh gosh, that's terrific news! calimary Sep 2023 #16
Wonderful news mercuryblues Sep 2023 #17
The effects of treatment will stay with you, but it's better than dying alfredo Sep 2023 #18
I don't think it's over sharing, but then apparently my autism can't Dark n Stormy Knight Sep 2023 #19

brer cat

(25,907 posts)
2. Wonderful news about your scan and also a guardian for your mother.
Mon Sep 18, 2023, 11:34 PM
Sep 2023

You need some stress reduction in your life, and those are two big ones.

MLAA

(18,356 posts)
3. Good for you on both fronts!
Mon Sep 18, 2023, 11:34 PM
Sep 2023

Hurray on the good scan and for stepping away from a lifetime of abuse from your mother. .

Staph

(6,330 posts)
4. The time between the scan and the results is close to an eternity.
Mon Sep 18, 2023, 11:38 PM
Sep 2023

Isn't it lovely to only have to go through that process twice a year, instead of quarterly?

I'm on the every six months schedule. Every little step forward is a victory!


LoisB

(8,298 posts)
5. That is really good news. I am glad for you. Enjoy the good news and put your mother in the
Mon Sep 18, 2023, 11:43 PM
Sep 2023

back of your mind (at least for now).

walkingman

(8,187 posts)
6. Excellent news!!
Mon Sep 18, 2023, 11:44 PM
Sep 2023

I am on a 6 month schedule with my oncologist also and now after 5 years he tells me next visit I will graduate......don't have to come back unless have a symptom in the future!!

I'm keeping my port so will be going for flushes but it doesn't bother me and so will keep for a few years more. I only get flushed now every three months.

sheshe2

(86,542 posts)
7. Great news about the scan, muriel.
Mon Sep 18, 2023, 11:58 PM
Sep 2023

What a relief for you.

I am sorry about the mom issue, just hang in there the best you can. The important thing is you and your well being.



Fla Dem

(25,450 posts)
9. So glad for your health progress.
Tue Sep 19, 2023, 12:19 AM
Sep 2023

Step away from your mother as much as you can.

At this point in your life put yourself and your husband first. Focus on living your best life.

calimary

(83,741 posts)
16. Oh gosh, that's terrific news!
Tue Sep 19, 2023, 01:48 AM
Sep 2023

Thanks for letting us know, murielm99! And please keep us posted on how you’re doing.

mercuryblues

(14,867 posts)
17. Wonderful news
Tue Sep 19, 2023, 07:54 AM
Sep 2023

After everything is settled with your mom, take yourself and hubby on a nice quiet vacation.

Reset yourself. Knowing you won't have
to deal with the hate and abuse anymore,
Will free you up emotionally. Embrace it.

alfredo

(60,127 posts)
18. The effects of treatment will stay with you, but it's better than dying
Tue Sep 19, 2023, 12:04 PM
Sep 2023

It’s good that you are walking away from abusive people. You have greater priorities than being a punching bag for others.

I severed ties with my parents a long time ago. One of my best moves. Their passing brought relief.

Dark n Stormy Knight

(9,975 posts)
19. I don't think it's over sharing, but then apparently my autism can't
Sat Sep 30, 2023, 09:09 AM
Sep 2023

distinguish that! Sympathy & compassion to you for having had a toxic mother.

Congrats on the improved health. 💜

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