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William769

(55,124 posts)
Tue Jan 28, 2014, 07:20 PM Jan 2014

Has anyone in this group witnessed this or have been subjected to this?

"It is also not a safe place for children of gays to post on sensitive issues.

I have had support there from women, but nastiness from men who cannot accept that gay people, like all people, are imperfect, that some gay people do have issues with the opposite sex, and that a parent's negativity toward the opposite sex might be harmful to their children .

I had heard of this experience so often on a private message board for adult children that I thought parents might want to know about it, but it seems they don't -- not men at least. Some even objected to the idea that the straight children of gays should feel that we are a part of the "community" at all -- as if the families we grow up in have no affect on our identity."

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Has anyone in this group witnessed this or have been subjected to this? (Original Post) William769 Jan 2014 OP
I have a friend on Facebook... WillParkinson Jan 2014 #1
That is somewhat similar. Behind the Aegis Jan 2014 #2
Nope. Behind the Aegis Jan 2014 #3

WillParkinson

(16,862 posts)
1. I have a friend on Facebook...
Wed Jan 29, 2014, 03:52 AM
Jan 2014

Who was told in no uncertain terms that her being a heterosexual, she had no idea about the struggles of gays and should keep her opinions to herself when she weighed in on marriage equality (which she is definitely for).

Some people define community very narrowly, it seems.

Behind the Aegis

(53,823 posts)
2. That is somewhat similar.
Thu Jan 30, 2014, 03:23 PM
Jan 2014

Examples like yours can be found in almost every movement. Some people really don't appreciate the work of the ally. Of course, there are those who claim to be allies and are anything but. Like you suggest, community is more than just actually belonging to said group, in most cases.

Behind the Aegis

(53,823 posts)
3. Nope.
Thu Jan 30, 2014, 03:27 PM
Jan 2014

However, sometimes people feel they can post bigotry/stereotypes and somehow their circumstances excuse them. The GLBT community is quite diverse, and in its diversity faces a number of problems not just those related to being treated as equals. There are a variety of discriminatory issues which need to be addressed from sexism to ageism to classism. Hell, as of late issues of religion and atheism have also been hot-button items in the LGBT community.

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