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Thu Sep 27, 2012, 01:17 PM

 

"I'm Sick Of My Unemployed Husband"

I can’t even remember when my husband stopped working.
And frankly, I don’t have time to think about it, between my full-time job and my fledgling business, volunteering at an after-school program to help teenagers prepare for the professional world and mothering two children.
But when I do think about it–when I think about all the times I come home to see evidence of his entire day’s activities cluttering the coffee table, or when I have to take our shared car to work and strand him at home because he doesn’t feel like getting up to drive me–I’m angry.
Why should he get everything, when I do everything?
. . .

Sometimes I think of getting divorced, but we live in Pennsylvania, which means legally he’ll likely be entitled to half of our assets from the marriage–half of my assets. I try so hard to be upbeat and not let this bother me, but on our last anniversary, I started telling him how I felt about his lack of contribution and motivation, and nothing has changed since then.


http://www.businessinsider.com/money-is-ruining-my-marriage-2012-9

Interesting turn about.

He stays at home taking care of the kids, cooking, cleaning etc. She is resentful and wants him to work but is horrified at the thought of losing half her assets in the divorce to this non-worker.

In other words the exact opposite of the usual story.

I suspect as the economy continues to shed jobs in traditionally male fields and we insist on ensuring fewer and fewer males go to college this will become a more common story.

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4th law of robotics Sep 2012 OP
Warren DeMontague Sep 2012 #1
4th law of robotics Sep 2012 #2
Warren DeMontague Sep 2012 #3
4th law of robotics Sep 2012 #6
Warren DeMontague Sep 2012 #8
loli phabay Sep 2012 #4
4th law of robotics Sep 2012 #7
Shitty Mitty Sep 2012 #5

Response to 4th law of robotics (Original post)

Thu Sep 27, 2012, 05:46 PM

1. There is no rational reason why the law should treat this any differently than a similar

situation involving a non-working wife and a working husband.

If the state says marital assets are divided 50%, it doesn't- and shouldn't- matter which partner has the job or which one has the testicles.

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Response to Warren DeMontague (Reply #1)

Thu Sep 27, 2012, 06:36 PM

2. Presumably at some point gay marriage will become the law of the land

 

and that will necessarily mean that same sex couples will start divorcing.

I assume the deal on marital assets will be the same: 50/50.

Although I'm sure this will lead to an entirely new national debate about divorce laws.

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Response to 4th law of robotics (Reply #2)

Thu Sep 27, 2012, 07:27 PM

3. I think it varies from state to state.

But I also think that in communal property states, there is no distinction made between splitting the assets F->M and M->F, so there really isn't much debate to be had. It's already that way.

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Response to Warren DeMontague (Reply #3)

Fri Sep 28, 2012, 11:52 AM

6. The law may be clear, but the interpretation of it isn't always

 

For instance there's no law saying women should get custody in 90% of divorce cases.

In reality though . . .

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Response to 4th law of robotics (Reply #6)

Fri Sep 28, 2012, 12:49 PM

8. Custody and property aren't the same thing.

If the law says communal property needs to be divided 50/50, that's what's going to happen.

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Response to 4th law of robotics (Original post)

Thu Sep 27, 2012, 07:50 PM

4. wait till she sees how much alimony he wants.

 

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Response to loli phabay (Reply #4)

Fri Sep 28, 2012, 11:59 AM

7. Well he has become accustomed to a certain lifestyle

 

I get her concern that he's apparently getting money from somewhere but not telling her the source.

That is a legitimate concern.

But he should get some props for paying for all sorts of shared expenses by himself. It's not like he's blowing it on fishing boats while the kids starve.

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Response to 4th law of robotics (Original post)

Thu Sep 27, 2012, 08:45 PM

5. His wife sounds like a greedy POS

"For better or for worse" doesn't seem to mean much in today's greedy world.

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