How do I support my husband and at the same time kick his butt for not going after a job he wants.

[Justice wanted]

I completely understand why he is hesitiant. He's been passed over 3 times already for assistant manager.


He has been with this company for 10 years. Gotten passed over again and again. One manager who ended up getting fired basically laughed in his face about giving him a chance at A.M. position.


This latest A.M. had left the hotel and was only part time when he left. He was basically given the A.M. postion before the A.M. announced to everyone that he was leaving.

Hubby told the Manger he was upset that he wasn't even given a chance. So they start asking question like are you going to support the new A.M.--I honestly thought they where trying to get something to fire my husband on BUT they didn't.

He has a Assoc degree and is the longest front desk person at the place.

The latest A.M. went into the Manger's office and gave his notice even though he sign a 1 year contract he got a better job and it isn't six months he's been there.

So Today my husband e-mailed the manger asking to be considered for the post. I told him Stay late tomorrow morning and remind the manger that you have been there for 10 years you know that hotel better than anyone. (manager has been there for about 1 year.)

I just think he doesn't want to get burn. So do I encourage him to do more or do I respect he doesn't want to put himself full force because he figures he's going to get burn again?

[Chan790]

1. I hate to be the oracle of unpleasant realities...

but the odds are that if he's been passed-over 3 times for the same position, they've determined that they're never going to offer it to him. He should have begun searching to leave after the third time. There is no upward mobility there for him and loyalty is no longer rewarded.

He should apply to Asst. Manager openings for their competitors.

[seabeyond]

3. i agree

I didn't want to be debbie downed. But that is good advice

[Justice wanted]

4. He has said that he would look everytime he has been passed over. Problem is his father has

ingrained into him that you stay loyal to your company. Mind you his father was a steel worker before plants around here closed and when loyality meant something.

I think part of him is afraid of leaving a place he is comfort with. I love him but change isn't one of his strong suits. He's just that type of person.

Me. I see a company jacks me around once and I shove off He just rolls with the punches.

[seabeyond]

2. ya, but they know he has been there a decade. or they are morans

And yea for him, his immediate initiative in sending email his desire for opportunity for position.

Hoping he gets the chance

[OffWithTheirHeads]

5. A few things I've learned from hunting and fishing.

1. If your hooks not in the water, you're not gonna catch any fish.
2. If you want to bag an Elephant, you have to be hunting for Elephants.
3. If you don't ask, the answer is always going to be NO.
Just by asking, your chances go up exponentially from 100% NO to at least 25% maybe to 25%yes.
Also, asking is free but I can 100% guarantee what you will get by not asking. See #1.

edited for spelling cause typing on an ipad sucks and I can't spell for shit.

[Justice wanted]

6. Don't feel bad I can't spell for sit on a regular computer

[Broderick]

7. Your husband should email the

Manager. Emailing a manger might bring three wise men bearing gifts, but I doubt he really wants frankincense and myrrh.


Just kidding around. Sorry. Sometimes the squeaky wheel gets the grease. Just need to make sure it's heard ahead of time rather than after the fact.