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Top ten list of "things I thought I would never need to explain" except that apparently I had to spell this out for someone who was trying to justify letting two young "lovebirds" stay in her home after the boyfriend was released from jail following his arrest after an incident of violence.
I have been told that the girlfriend assaulted him first, then he choked her unconscious, and she called the police on him when she came to. (The home owner saw the marks on her neck.) The police deemed the situation to be "mutual combat" but since he had an outstanding warrant (driving on a suspended license) he got hauled off to jail. He was released Monday (after two weeks in jail) and the two lovebirds were back together again before his release.
It is actually the home owner I am most upset with because the line "but the girlfriend wants him back!" was actually used as part of the justification, along with me "not really knowing the guy" which is when I used the quote in the subject.
It is "not my circus, and not my monkeys" but I predict this is not going to end well. The girlfriend moved in with the homeowner less than two months ago, has lost custody of her child to the state, was stealing from the home owner/called the police to get the home owner arrested after initiating a tug of war over the stolen property (that was a shocker/didn't work, thank goodness), and now this...all in two months!!!
Apparently I am a judgmental cynic. I do not think "a stern talking to" is going to prevent the next episode of "drama" from happening, which I predict will occur before the end of April.
"But they have no place to go!"
"He choked your granddaughter unconscious - who cares?"
The CRAZY is strong with these ones....ARGH!
lovemydog
(11,833 posts)someone who can offer you some good advice on other options for you, if you want them.
The crazy is indeed strong with those ones, and sometimes intervention can save someone's life.
IdaBriggs
(10,559 posts)Sometimes you just need someone else to say, "yes, that is nuts!" My best advice on the situation has been being ignored for some time; the home owner/grandmother is truly convinced she is "helping" and the fact "no one else will (because of the train wreck)" seems to only reinforce her behavior.
lovemydog
(11,833 posts)Just want to make sure you didn't want to post this in GD or another group?
IdaBriggs
(10,559 posts)As I said, "not my circus/not my monkeys" and I am working on some of my own codependent issues, so....
Thank you for the reality check - I am doing better this morning!
lovemydog
(11,833 posts)Glad you're doing better today too!
Dont call me Shirley
(10,998 posts)underahedgerow
(1,232 posts)and there is nothing you can do.
Sometimes you just have to let people be responsible for their own lives. I suppose it's a Darwin thing... horrible to watch though.